Girls with low self esteem

[PTC]

Just kinda like to hear everybody's take on this subject.

This last Sat night my girlfriend and I went out to eat. Somehow or another we got on the subject of breast. I made a comment how good her breast looked in the morning while she was getting dressed and kinda joked at her saying that she probably stood in front of me like that because she knew how much I liked it. Hell what guy wouldn't!! She then said that she was thinking about getting ANOTHER breast job and I told her that they looked great already and asked her she was so worried about what they looked like. She told me she could think of about 20,...referring to all the girls that had walked by. I told her she shouldn't be so unhappy with herself and that she had a low self esteem! She then got pissed off and the night ended up in an argument.
I just don't understand women that think they have to have attention 24hrs a day especially when they got somebody that tells them how good they look. She did the same thing on her myspace page. She put up some pic of her in a dress that has her boobs just about pushed out and I told her she was attention deficit,..hahaha. I'd put the link up here to it but I'm gonna wait till were not dating anymore! LOL!!

Oh and by the way shes about to be 30 in a couple of weeks...

 

[LoneSilver]

I like women with small breast a mouth full will do me. It pisses me off when I see **** on TV where these small breasted women are getting boob jobs going through all that pain and money for what? And I am like no-no don't do it heres the man that will cherish those beautiful breast just the way they are the hell with hollywood media hype and comparing yourself to other women and size.

LoneSilver

 

[Mr. Me]

Somehow or another we got on the subject of breast. I made a comment how good her breast looked in the morning

Breast? You only talk about one at a time?

I guess talking about both was more than a mouthful.

I just don't understand women that think they have to have attention 24hrs a day especially when they got somebody that tells them how good they look.

"How good you look" was NOT the message she heard from you. You basically told her "You're an unhappy person with low self esteem". No wonder she got angry at you.

My guess is, when she told you that she was thinking of getting another boob job, she wasn't looking for you to minimize her concern with "What for? You already look great" (even though you intended that as a compliment) and put her down with the "low self esteem" remark.

Nah, basically that was a variation of the old "honey, should I wear this dress or that one?" (unless this was really about how you were ogling the girls that were passing by). She already has it in her mind that she wants that boob job. She was looking for agreement: "You'd look good either way, babe!"

 

[Bible_Belt]

Every woman has low self-esteem, and no woman is happy with the size of her tits. The A and B cup girls feel inadequate. The C cup girls are usually consumed with another physical flaw and the D cup girls think that they are too big. My current gf has DD tits, and she is embarrassed of them. It makes no sense, until you realize that all women have low self-esteem.

 

[Master Bates]

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[RedPill]

Women who resign themselves to fate have low self esteem. This would be most women. It's the same core group that is accountable for nothing, the same group that thinks that low bodyfat is the result of plastic surgery or luck. This is the group that takes a problem and makes it worse because they don't believe in their ability to create solutions.

A lack of self-esteem would be an absolute LTR dealbreaker for me. I'm not talking the minor insecurities that are inherent to women in general, but rather their belief in their self to make choices and be responsible for them. Women with low self esteem are drama magnets, and are easily manipulated.

 

[Colossus]

Women who resign themselves to fate have low self esteem. This would be most women. It's the same core group that is accountable for nothing, the same group that thinks that low bodyfat is the result of plastic surgery or luck. This is the group that takes a problem and makes it worse because they don't believe in their ability to create solutions.

A lack of self-esteem would be an absolute LTR dealbreaker for me. I'm not talking the minor insecurities that are inherent to women in general, but rather their belief in their self to make choices and be responsible for them. Women with low self esteem are drama magnets, and are easily manipulated.

Yes.

Clearly this runs much deeper than the size of her breasts. My last LTR was similar. If no matter what you say to her or how you treat her seems to have an effect on how she views her body, then that's indicative of deep insecurity issues, my man. Take my word for it.

All women are insecure to a degree about their bodies. But a healthy, secure, feminine woman will not feel she has to keep up with the 'janes' if her man is expressly happy with her.

 

[joekerr31]

personally i like small breasts. nothing is sexier than a breasts that fits nicely in my mouth. big breasts are annoying i think - they look nice, but not as much fun to play with.

but anyway...

im going to drop some truth on you....

its not low self esteem that makes women behave like this. i mean, on the surface it is, but you have to probe deeper.

its really the 'happiness matrix'.

this notion of 'if i only had x,y, or z THEN i would be truly happy.'

women have a laundry list of items that make up the happiness matrix. if i was only married, if i had kids, if my husband was rich and handsome, if i didn't have wrinkles / cellulite, if i had a better job, if i were famous, if i came from a better family, if my lesbian gym teacher hadn't touched my breasts, etc.

all of these things aren't really about low self esteem but rather are more rationalizations for why a person isn't 'happier'.

its the grass is always greener phenomena. people believe they aren't happy because they don't have x, y, or z.

these are people who haven't learned yet that happiness doesn't come from getting more things, but rather appreciating what you DO have.

i once dated a woman who had small breasts. i found out later in the relationship that she was really upset about her breasts. but i loved them. and because of that she ended up loving them and she told me that it really made her life better (ie. getting over her hang up over her breasts).

anyway, whenever you hear people complaining about something 99% of the time they are simply using something as an excuse for why they aren't happy / content / at peace with their life.

 

[LoneSilver]

I'm glad you said 99% of the time and the 1% it is good reason for many men and women alike. Maybe they aren't happy or are still coming to terms with what bothers them about themselves or things that have happen in their lives that give them that outlook. Some things are not always black and white.

Since you like to post alot tell us all the things you have overcome in your life that gives you the esteem on such matters as these to judge what are excuses and what isn't or was it a good book about positive thinking that your still high on? Have you been tested yet as a man or is your life still on West and Running Smoothly Street.

Anyway not a flame just curious.

LoneSilver

anyway, whenever you hear people complaining about something 99% of the time they are simply using something as an excuse for why they aren't happy / content / at peace with their life.

 

[romangod]

its really the 'happiness matrix'.



You beat me to the punch. The first thing I thought of was his girl is in the "Female" matrix.