Girls with Depression

[Lozboss]

Hey guys,

So I've recently been dealing with a LTR that had Depression (out of it now).

I wanted the DJs thoughts:

Have you ever dated someone with depression?

How did you find it making demands of what you wanted? Eg. Intimacy/Affection

I found that intimacy, sex and affection dropped to nothing and whenever I pushed it was felt as 'pressure' and nothing would change (the reason why i finally walked away).

Guilt tripping- You're leaving me when I feel like this"" etc

Thoughts people- do you just get out at the first signs or do you stick with it and try to help fix it?

Will someone with depression always suffer from it?

thanks,

 

[bigneil]

Never be her therapist. Depressed means crazy. Bipolar means bat-sh*t crazy. Healthy women are off balance enough.

 

[PipeDope]

I wouldn't say my LTR is clinically depressed but I think she's definitely missing things in life which I think brings about a sort of depression. She never thinks anythings good enough, blah blah blah. Sh!t I never in my life worry about basically. Eventually I started getting tired of it a couple weeks ago and am currently considering ejecting. Sex has dried up, she b!tches, isn't working hard to get another job, barely going to the gym, only smiles when there's a beer in her hand or around her ***** friend who dips tobacco. (As I'm typing this I'm thinking this was a post for me to vent). Anywho I'm not attempting to help her issues, and i am making things worse for her apparently considering I'm not putting up with her moaning. You did the right thing by ejecting my friend, I'm sure I'll be in the same position very soon.

 

[Lozboss]

It depends on how long you have been with them and how committed you are. For example, if you had been dating for years, or living/married to them - no you don't just walk away the. Casually dating - probably.

It is VERY hard to date a person dealing with depression. Will they always suffer from it? It varies - some people never get it, some get it once in their life, and for some it is a re-occurring theme.

In the end, if you are "only" dating :

1. YOU deserve to have a healthy sex life - are you getting that?
2. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who laughs and likes to have fun - are you getting that?
3. You deserve to have someone with a positive outlook on life - are you getting that?

If not, eject.

Dating someone with depression can be very draining.

thanks Mauser

I agree it was miserable for me.

The hardest part was the guilt tripping when I finally had enough and walked away.

Good luck to anyone dealing with this.

 

[SmooveMooves]

End it like a man. Women are supposed to compliment your life not suck it out of you. This may sound unkind or mean spirited but you're born alone and you'll die alone. In this life you have must look out for numero uno first. I'd hate to see you waste years of your life trying to be her therapist, only to then realize, 'this won't work'.. A relationship dynamic like this will NEVER work unless you got issues yourself or hers are temporary.

Life is short, don't do things out of obligation, do things because that's what you want to do.

Sit her down, tell her "This relationship isn't healthy for either of us I think we need some time apart to get ourselves in order." Then eject.

Just my 0.02 cents though fam.