Girls With Boyfriends - This is what you do

[Gold Heart]

you always see a thread one way or another that says "this girl has a boyfriend but I want to get with her."

and honestly, those need to stop. it's a different story when the girl is coming strong on you. but out of respect, you have to put it straight in her head from the beginning: "i'm not touching you until you are single and don't have a man."

to me, that's a policy. the girl can be using you as a filler when her man can't please her. you don't want to be a filler or supplement. i don't either. nobody who's real does.

it's all respect: once things are official, you don't mess around with someone's girl. when they mess around with you it's a different story, like i said. and it should be a principle. you have to respect yourself. you don't touch someone else's stuff or play with their heads, because you destroy what they're having.

my friend, let's just call him joe. joe comes and tells me that him and this girl with a boyfriend have been messing around. she comes over his house, and yeah - they do the freaky. they do this for quite a while, until her boyfriend finds out. it so happens, that her boyfriend is someone who you really wouldn't want to touch. a week later, joe gets jumped. he stays over at a hospital and is out, but he is still recovering from broken finger bones and wrist bone. and why did this happen? because he disrespected someone and creeped around with his girl.

i never thought of it much because i never messed around with taken girls. it's better to just look for something in which you will not have problems. believe me. joe played basketball, he was on a team. he was starting lineup. look: he's replaced.

i hope you take this into mind next time you being thinking "maybe i'll get away." it's not even about getting away. it's respect. it doesn't matter if you hate the guy. respect your enemies, respect your friends. when they disrespect you, continue to respect them. why? because you are the better man. it doesn't faze you.

good night,
gold heart

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

good point, those b*tches aren't worth it from the beginning because if they're gonna be that loose about sh*t then lord knows how its gonna be if you happen to end up going out with her.

Show respect, and respect yourself..don't be a slave to a woman's c*nt. And it's easier said than done to resist a ride on temptation's wings but you've got to keep your composure.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Right on!

Right on!

I couldn't have said it better myself. Let's face it - none of us would like it if another guy stole our girl, so why the heck should we be trying to steal somebody else's?

It makes perfect sense.

Remember, the good Lord is watching everything you do. And if you pull something like stealing another man's girl, it's sure enough going to happen to you - trust me, I speak from experience.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

If the girl is hot and the sex is good, why not. If she gives inn or does you it's her fault.

 

[wolfie]

I hope you're not one of those guys who immediately backs off if the girl says 'i have a bf', whether or not it's true. If you believe this, then 90% of hot girls will have bfs. You can stay home and jerk off.

and what is "official"? The girl refers to him once as 'my boyfriend' therefore it's official? Or the guy thinks she's his 'girlfriend' whether or not she thinks it's so, so it's official? If they've gone out a couple of times and kissed, then it's 'official'? What if you and another guy are after the same girl and he makes out with her before you do.. does that mean they're 'official' now and you should back off? Are they supposed to sign an agreement or something.
By the way, your friend Joe could easily have been jumped if he messed around with a girl who just broke up with a jealous possessive ex bf, or a girl who has some jealous possessive chump after her.

A relationship doesn't mean that the boyfriend owns the girl. She isn't a possession to be 'stolen', she makes her own choices. If she chooses to go after the guy she considers more attractive, then it's her choice, not you disrespecting her bf. If he wasn't strong enough to hold on to her then obviously he's not right for her.

 

[MVPlaya]

Well, let me tell you a story too.

This is about a guyfriend of mine, lets just call him "Joe." Well... once "Joe" and I went to a club and tried out Allen's Knight strategy. "Joe" and I spotted this hot chick with a friend so I became the knight and "Joe" the king. We approached, we had little prior EC and "Joe" was the pursuer. Well, her got her # and over the phone figured out that she had a man. Well. "Joe" decided he didn't give a sh!t and chased her anyway. In this time he had "done the freaky" with her and after a few weeks she dumped her man. "Joe" has been seeing this girl exclusively since then for almost 2 years now.

The moral of this story is that there is no moral to any story... just a bunch of random examples.

 

[BGMan]

Hahaha... in the Catholic Church it's a mortal sin to fool around with some guy's wife, but it's no sin at all to go out with chicks who have "boyfriends".

I used to have that attitude that if she says she has a BF, then it's best to move on. And I still do have that attitude most of the time, but I also take other things into account. For instance, there's this girl who I know has the hots for me (it's so obvious), and I ask her out. She says she has a BF, and I reply that "well, I'm not really looking for a relationship" (which is true -- I don't really believe in having a GF). The wall goes down!

BGMan

 

[Gold Heart]

Originally posted by wolfie
I hope you're not one of those guys who immediately backs off if the girl says 'i have a bf', whether or not it's true. If you believe this, then 90% of hot girls will have bfs. You can stay home and jerk off.

and what is "official"? The girl refers to him once as 'my boyfriend' therefore it's official? Or the guy thinks she's his 'girlfriend' whether or not she thinks it's so, so it's official? If they've gone out a couple of times and kissed, then it's 'official'? What if you and another guy are after the same girl and he makes out with her before you do.. does that mean they're 'official' now and you should back off? Are they supposed to sign an agreement or something.
By the way, your friend Joe could easily have been jumped if he messed around with a girl who just broke up with a jealous possessive ex bf, or a girl who has some jealous possessive chump after her.

A relationship doesn't mean that the boyfriend owns the girl. She isn't a possession to be 'stolen', she makes her own choices. If she chooses to go after the guy she considers more attractive, then it's her choice, not you disrespecting her bf. If he wasn't strong enough to hold on to her then obviously he's not right for her.

wolfie, I understand where you're coming from. The girl I am with currently already f-cked until she got fed up with the fact that I was still doing stuff with other people. I said deal with it. She started fading away and I didn't care. I didn't chase her. A week later she came back and spilled it all out how much she liked me. A month later I found out she was someone worth getting to know. She cooks GREAT, isn't materialistic, and I can laugh about anything with her. We had a conversation one night after we had sex, and she told me what we had was something that she wanted to pursue. I gave her a hard time and finally she cut to the chase and told me again that it bothered her that I was messing around with other chicks. I told her we weren't exclusive and that she shouldn't get jealous over it. I imitated her and exagerrated everything and had laughing straight. She came out saying that nobody could make her laugh like I could. I said I know, and she asked if it could be exclusive, and that's how it came around.

That's just the story. A relationship isn't anybody owning anybody. Both make their own choices. They're not told by the other to do anything. It's their right to have their own choices. To be exclusive with each other and not to f-ck anybody anymore, it was both of their choices. And people should learn to respect that mutual decision. Is it clearer now?

 

[Thoroughbred]

If the girl is after you then why not go for it? In many cases relationships don't mean a damn thing. Marriage is a piece of paper to most people. Just the other day this girl starting talking to this friend of mine in front of her husband!

 

[wolfie]

Well, if you pursue a chick who has decided to be exclusive with her bf and not fvck around with anyone else, then she'll say no right? So there's no problem then... I'm just saying there's nothing wrong with giving her the opportunity to change up and be with you instead.. after all it's her choice yea or nay.

 

[Saine]

Actually I agree with the thread starter, NEVER TOUCH THE MAN'S WIFE/GIRL/TOYS/BLAH if she's happy because why? Things'll get heated and it's the man's glory, not yours. Get yourself a girlfriend you thief.

 

[MickoZ]

Hahahahahaha, I used to also think that and probably also auto-react like that (when a girl has really a bf), but logically it is so absurd.

It is so true that we do not own anybody.

It is a RELATIONSHIP like any other RELATIONSHIP. I saw the same kind of attitude with "best/very good friend" and a lot are like that. But see, would you accept your friend has other friend, or will you get friend with someone who already has a friend? Sometime it will piss us off if we are attached to someone and he is not available, but we DO NOT _OWN_ ****.

We have to accept this and we don't, ourself included.

And if the chick accept it, you do not steal an object... if she do freaky unf whetevah stuff, then maybe it is because SHE WANTED IT? It has not real link with his "_BF_", it is YOU and HER. It is a relationship between YOU and HER.

If what you want is ass, and how you guys talk, you talk like having multiple girl to do the freaky unf whetevah. If you talk like that, do not pull an hypocrit don't do that.

You want it, and you have the chance to do it, chance are you will do it, no matter how nice your thought seem to be.

Don't do to other what you don't want them to do of course, but you do not own anyone and do not own anyone's philosophy, especially when it is quite logical rather than based on "values" without real reason.

 

[Luscious]

I used to think that other guys' girlfriends were fair game...

But ever since I actually got into something serious a few months back, I've really changed my mind about that.

I mean - do I want other guys trying to pick up my girl when I'm not around? Hell no.

I'd call girls who are attached definite NO-GO material for anything long-term: if she leaves her guy for you, she'll just leave you for the next guy who tickles her fancy (read: has higher status and potential).

Usually, the girls who you'll be able to pry out of a relationship are ones that are materialistic - not a generalization, but from what me and my buddies have talked about, this seems to be the case.

 

[MickoZ]

Girl feel the same as us, a girl leaving might be for the same reason we leave a girl ;-) Maybe she is a nice girl, bored, but had no reason to leave.

And also it depends what you want.

I can perfectly imagine myself loving more than one girl. I have more than one friend after all.

I would be an hypocrit.

But I do not like to be too much of a flirter, even with girls that interest me, I prefer keep it friendly, if it has to happen it will, if not, it won't. I won't like to be the kind of guy who call the girl each day to try to get her from her bf, that is pretty lame. But stay YOURSELF no matter what external factor there is... therefore if you like someone, don't act otherwise... you are lying to yourself, but that does not mean you have to try to "steal her". Some guy might already know that you do not DISLIKE her girl, or some of your friend's gf might know it. You can't really always hide that.

 

[wolfie]

Originally posted by Luscious
I used to think that other guys' girlfriends were fair game...

But ever since I actually got into something serious a few months back, I've really changed my mind about that.

I mean - do I want other guys trying to pick up my girl when I'm not around? Hell no.

I'd call girls who are attached definite NO-GO material for anything long-term: if she leaves her guy for you, she'll just leave you for the next guy who tickles her fancy (read: has higher status and potential).

Usually, the girls who you'll be able to pry out of a relationship are ones that are materialistic - not a generalization, but from what me and my buddies have talked about, this seems to be the case.

this site and others like it lead us to believe that almost ALL women will leave their current bf for one with higher status and potential.

 

[DEKKA]

i cant say ive ever been really again stealing another mans woman but i always considered it bad karma. what goes around comes around so to speak.

if everyones taking other guys women then nobodys happy for very long.

lol but hey.... im a real hypocrite when it comes to this so somebody just tell me to STFU.

late-

 

[MickoZ]

Most people that think say the nice thing, always end up doing the bad thing [from their perception].

It is like those chick talking about love and that are so deep, they are the worse hoes (that does not mean they are uncool, but they are the first to **** anywhere and even with a bf while they always claim it is bad!)

 

[weehee]

joe mistake wasnt that he massed with the girl..
his mistake was that he let his boyfriend findout about him. did he tell you that broken bones are worth the freakys