Girls Who Don't Kiss on the First Date???

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So a date I had with a girl last night is prompting me to write this thread... Something similar has happend to me about 2 other times... while its not common I want to make sure I understand it since it isn't the first time...

I met up with a girl I've been talking to for about week at a bar. We got drinks, talked... did an awseome job with timely kino... had the girl pass a compliance test... she even ordered more drinks and told me she was really buzzing... So anyway when we left I walked her to her car and she said she would drive me to mine. So she did, she looked at me and I went in to kiss her.... Now she didn't pull away but she didn't really reciprocate.. kind of just kept her lips stationary... in the past when I have done this to other girls we usually get a nice little make out session going...

So anyway I pull back but being buzzed and horny I went in to kiss her again... she basically did the same thing... except this time she opened her mouth for like a second.. and then closed it quick and remained stationary...

So I really should have just left it at that... but again I was drunk and horny and I had this girl I was attracted to in semi isolation.. I went in a 3rd time (this probably killed any IOI she had in me lol I don't care) and her lips just stayed the same...

So its not like she pulled away or stopped me... but it was almost like kissing a wall. I had this happen to me in the past with 2 other girls...

1 girl flat out told me the next time she talked to me that it was too soon to start kissing.... and the other girl never said anything...

Now in all 3 of these cases I was getting IOI like crazy from these girls.... These same IOI's in other girls have led to make out sessions....


My only guess is that maybe some girls have a hard rule not to kiss on the first date even though they like someone?????

If so this is ridiculous because if 2 people are attracted to each other, they should hook up lol

But anyway curious if any of you have had similar experiences or have feedback! :(
 

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I would say that half of the women I've tried to kiss on first dates with have pulled the "I don't kiss on the first date" BS. I usually just say something like "sure" and then try kissing again. That works for about half of those remaining. So I'd say I have about a 75% hit rate when I try.
 

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Cant really tell for sure, never happened in my life..what could be the reason for that?

1)she didnt like you but was afraid of you so she tried not to piss you off?

2)she liked you and despite being not comfortable with kisses at least tried?

In my experience girls which dont kiss me on first date/night are a no-go, low interest or even girls looking for some entarteinment till they find prince charming, never banged a girl which didnt kiss me as soon as I wanted.

But in your case there was somehow some contact, if it already happened 3 times its no coincidence since in those 3 different settings the only common factore were you.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
Cant really tell for sure, never happened in my life..what could be the reason for that?

1)she didnt like you but was afraid of you so she tried not to piss you off?

2)she liked you and despite being not comfortable with kisses at least tried?

In my experience girls which dont kiss me on first date/night are a no-go, low interest or even girls looking for some entarteinment till they find prince charming, never banged a girl which didnt kiss me as soon as I wanted.

But in your case there was somehow some contact, if it already happened 3 times its no coincidence since in those 3 different settings the only common factore were you.
Trust me, she was into me... She was kinoing me herself.. I have dated hundreds of girls.... She liked me.. I know when a girl doesn't, they make it pretty obvious... and yes the only common factor was me in the 3 times... but thats 3 times out of a hundred where 97 of them were into it....


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I like your approach. This girl didn't say anything though... she just kept her lips still, it was almost like kissing a fish. I think I lost her because I went in 3 times lol... but before that I know she was into me. I might try to follow up with her just for the hell of it but I am not expecting much.
 

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She might just be weird. Some girls are literally crazy. I would try again on the next date, and unless you like kissing fish or walls, then you know what to do!
 

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breath check?

Could be as simple as checking your breath. It sounds like there was hesitation to reciprocate but also didn't pull away because she liked you?
 

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Reyaj said:
So a date I had with a girl last night is prompting me to write this thread... Something similar has happend to me about 2 other times... while its not common I want to make sure I understand it since it isn't the first time...

I met up with a girl I've been talking to for about week at a bar. We got drinks, talked... did an awseome job with timely kino... had the girl pass a compliance test... she even ordered more drinks and told me she was really buzzing... So anyway when we left I walked her to her car and she said she would drive me to mine. So she did, she looked at me and I went in to kiss her.... Now she didn't pull away but she didn't really reciprocate.. kind of just kept her lips stationary... in the past when I have done this to other girls we usually get a nice little make out session going...

So anyway I pull back but being buzzed and horny I went in to kiss her again... she basically did the same thing... except this time she opened her mouth for like a second.. and then closed it quick and remained stationary...

So I really should have just left it at that... but again I was drunk and horny and I had this girl I was attracted to in semi isolation.. I went in a 3rd time (this probably killed any IOI she had in me lol I don't care) and her lips just stayed the same...

So its not like she pulled away or stopped me... but it was almost like kissing a wall. I had this happen to me in the past with 2 other girls...

1 girl flat out told me the next time she talked to me that it was too soon to start kissing.... and the other girl never said anything...

Now in all 3 of these cases I was getting IOI like crazy from these girls.... These same IOI's in other girls have led to make out sessions....


My only guess is that maybe some girls have a hard rule not to kiss on the first date even though they like someone?????

If so this is ridiculous because if 2 people are attracted to each other, they should hook up lol

But anyway curious if any of you have had similar experiences or have feedback! :(

Dude you pissed out...ignore that she obviously wanted you to be more aggressive....happens to me..grab her shoulders pull her in big and give her a long hard kiss on lips and start kissing her face and neck and back to lips, you will be making out in no time...never accept hesitance or no...be the man and go for it until she screams stop.
 

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Just go by the gut feeling! I bet you probably feel that she wasn't all the into you.
 

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PapiChulo said:
Just go by the gut feeling! I bet you probably feel that she wasn't all the into you.

I have felt that way many times only to be banging her half an hour later....being aggressive sexually always pays off if you halfway know what you are doing.
 

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yeah.... no=yes, and yes=anal
 
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