Girls that date younger guys...

[Rebound Material]

Yea, I was just wondering if there was any significant meaning as to when a girl dates younger guys. Notice I said girl and not woman. And Im not talking about some cougar in the mid to late 30's hunting down young c0ck. Im saying girls ranging from 21-27 that date guys 1-3 years younger than them...Im just curious.

 

[Dannyrt34]

yea there is significant meaning.. it means she found somebody she likes and that guy happens to be younger than her.

 

[Rebound Material]

yea there is significant meaning.. it means she found somebody she likes and that guy happens to be younger than her.

Yea, but if you know about her and her dating history and saw all of the guys were younger....None were older or about the same age.

 

[Warrior74]

control issues could be the culprit. the question is, not if they are younger, but if they are AFC or not.

 

[Rebound Material]

control issues could be the culprit. the question is, not if they are younger, but if they are AFC or not.

ahh, someone mentioned this to me before and I thought it was a pretty legit answer. Maybe it roots from her relations with her father?

 

[Rebound Material]

the question is, not if they are younger, but if they are AFC or not.

Oh yea. Well from the last chick I dated, her last ex I knew for sure was a total AFC.

 

[Metaphysical]

There's nothign wrong with a woman dating younger or older than her. Attraction is a strange thing and if she genuinely feels attracted to a man, she won't care how old or young he is.

 

[pg_lost]

There's nothign wrong with a woman dating younger or older than her. Attraction is a strange thing and if she genuinely feels attracted to a man, she won't care how old or young he is.

I think he specifically said that the girl has dated numerous guys younger than her. So I don`t see how its a special guy that just happens to be younger than her as the reason.

 

[Lexington]

As said earlier, it could be control issues if she seems to have a consistent pattern of dating younger dudes. Generally, the man takes the lead in relationships. The girl may feel she can be more in control if she dates younger men.

That's not necessarily a bad thing. I've known guys who are married to or in long term relationships with girls 3-5 years older than them. Sometimes, it can be nice if a girl takes more of a lead in a relationship. It could be nice if the girl took on more responsibilities.

 

[Metaphysical]

Think of the reasons why a woman would date a younger guy versus an older guy.

Let's exaggerate the differences and compare a 20 year old with a 40 year old.

What does the 20 year old have that the older guy doesn't:
- he's more spontaneous
- physically more attractive
- usually better shape
- has a fun vibe
- very energetic in the bedroom

etc.. etc.. so its very likely that this girl is attracted to those kinds of traits. as long as you are that type of a person, there should be no problems.

 

[pg_lost]

Think of the reasons why a woman would date a younger guy versus an older guy.

Let's exaggerate the differences and compare a 20 year old with a 40 year old.

What does the 20 year old have that the older guy doesn't:
- he's more spontaneous
- physically more attractive
- usually better shape
- has a fun vibe
- very energetic in the bedroom

etc.. etc.. so its very likely that this girl is attracted to those kinds of traits. as long as you are that type of a person, there should be no problems.

I disagree. If your example is an exaggeration, I dont understand how it serves the purpose of proving your point. How bout something more realistic. Would a gr.10 girl want to date a guy in gr.9 as opposed to a guy in gr.12. Even if they were both cool guys, the gr.12 guy would have more experience, higher social status in the school, not to mention maturity (There are exceptions, but as a general rule, I think its pretty straight forward).

 

[Metaphysical]

I disagree. If your example is an exaggeration, I dont understand how it serves the purpose of proving your point. How bout something more realistic. Would a gr.10 girl want to date a guy in gr.9 as opposed to a guy in gr.12. Even if they were both cool guys, the gr.12 guy would have more experience, higher social status in the school, not to mention maturity (There are exceptions, but as a general rule, I think its pretty straight forward).

You highschool kids should stick to the highschool forum. This is the real world here.

 

[Columbia]

I agree that it seems to be a control thing, just based on a current example from my own life. A girl I go to university with (2.5 years older than me) was chasing me down most of last month, but I'm not attracted to her and have a girlfriend, so I stayed very distant. In the last week or so she's started on a guy a year younger than me - almost 4 years younger than she is (she's 22, he's 18).

Nothing wrong with it of course, but she's told me repeatedly how hurt she was by her ex (he was cheating on her for pretty much their entire relationship) and just has extremely low self-esteem in general. She goes for these younger guys because she feels she can control them. So my advice, and I'm basing this solely on my own experience, is to check for some sort of previous guy-related trauma in her life. If it's there, then that could well be the reason.