Greasy Pig said:
That's the beauty of putting into practice what this site advises.
You weed out the dead wood quickly, coldly and efficiently until you find a decent one.
You'll learn to recognise bad - and good - behaviour and act accordingly. There are decent women everywhere, you just have to keep "auditioning" them until one wins the part.
pretty much this. this is great advise.
the only thing i would add to that is that, never let your need for companionship determine how you treat a woman or how you place a woman. The things you do, the dates, what you know here, how you treat them, will all in their own way unmask both positive and negative traits that a woman will have... to alter or skew the system because you want a particular result in the end, will frankly end up in disaster every time, and to make it worse you can't even blame her because you know better.
This is the one most guys, even here, get wrong. they think y9ou are supposed to treat LTR's differently than you treat regular girls. that's bull****. it's the exact opposite. those are the ones that it's actually most importantly that you don';t skip any steps
like, say i am the president of the united states. I just got elected, and I need to hire a chief of staff. Now, what if i were to tell you that I met a guy, who when I saw his resume, jumped right off the page at me, so much so, that when I met him, instead of vetting him like i vetted the other 100 guys who applied for this job, I just basically gave him the job after meeting with him for 10 minutes. I mean, beucase we treat these type of guys differently than we treat everyone else right? It doesn't make a fvcking lick of sense lol.
no if i am hiring a chief of staff, I'm not only going to make him do everything else I made everyone do, I'm going to dig deeper, I'm going to go Yankee white on that ass lol. If I think this is the guy who will follow me in the situation room when I need to go, when I trust with my life and to hel me run the day to day operations of the white house, and I honestly this this is the man that can do it, I want to know his fav meal when he was 9 years old.
I say that to say, while i know you want a LTR, it is of the utmost importance for you to treat ALL plates equally. Regardless of what you thinks he might end up being, she still has to end up being that on her own, she has to make it there herself on her own merits by passing all your tests. I used a horse racing analogy before, a good trainer gets a good 2YO from a sale and the first day he takes him out, he knows he has a special horse. he knows this is a derby horse. But just because he knows it's a derby horse doesn't mean he can treat the horse any differently than any other horse in the barn..t he horse has to still develop, still train, still learn, if anything he trains it harder to get to the bottom of him, beucase he's going to ask that horse to do things that no other horse in the barn has the talent to do.
I know this post is long, but this to me is the mistake all men our age make; you played the field for a bit, had some nice lays, you want to do something different. I'm not going to say i didn't' feel the same way when i met my wife 4 years ago. I did. very much so. But, this isn't the movies. she still has to become that. she had to still be a plate. she had to show me on a constant basis why she was better than my other plates. and when she, with her actions, not her words, convinced me that she was the better plate, and she became my girlfriend, she had to show me, again, with her actions not her words, why it's conducive for ME to WANT only to open up to her and make myself open, but to put a ring on her finger and be even more open in that regard.
by the time i met my wife i had probably had sex with 15-16 girls in the last 12 months. easily maybe a little bit more. I mean once you've been there the allure somewhat wears off, it's a job basically. But even though i was ready to do something different, I also knew that i couldn't make a girl be something that she isn't. I thought my wife had potential to be something more than these other chicks but still. she had to actually go out and show me everyday. Guys ask me how do you know your wife isn't going to do this or that.. because she's been yankee whited that's why lol. there is not a fvcing thing i don't know about my wife, her motives and her ambitions.
if you can keep that in mind, you will be fine. you'll know.. one plate will just spin harder than the others and keep spinning.
