Girls telling me they are single but actually in LTRs

[Bingo-Player]

I moved too Melbourne about 3 weeks ago since then I have really been ramping up my approaches

Confidence is high atm and after a year of cold approaches I understand what works and what doesn't

So ive done about a lot of approaches in the last 3 weeks not all women but obviously the vast majority

Since I have been here I keep meeting girls the interaction goes well they and are telling me they are single

Then later I go too look at the instagrams and theres quite clearly a boyfriend

One girl I meet Friday night in a bar we connect well , we kissed at the end of our encounter and she told me message her

The next day I check her Insta theres a BF all over the page , I message her something casual she replies a bit then ghosts

Women are fvcking mental

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I will build on the fact I'm being told "I'm single" and not " I have a boyfriend" which clearly means I am doing something right at the approach stage

but still so frustrating when you connect with a chick and then you find out she has just been lying the whole time

 

[Hamurabimbi]

We all like attention. I don’t tell girls I have a GF. We’ve all wasted time on people in relationships.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I don't get it, is there a problem somewhere?

Yea because i am in the market for a wife

No girl who's telling me shes single when she actually has a boyfriend is gonna be suitable to be a wife

 

[RickPound]

They’re attention addicts. If they told you they have a boyfriend they’d miss out on a couple more hits of the drug and also not be able to add you to their “options” list.

 

[DreamAgain]

You are looking for a wife in the UK in your 30s.

Mate you are fishing in the wrong stream.

 

[Clockwerk50]

They just want the attention and fun without strings attached. You probably look like a cool time.
Please believe they are not going to leave their secure consistent provider in the some rando they just met on the street. I mean, they probably don’t know what you have.

 

[The Duke]

Never before have I experienced what I have the past few weeks. Almost every time I go out there is some girl that approaches me. It never fails at some point i learn she is married/has a boyfriend. I thought it was b.s. but typically it's been discovered to be the truth.

I think it comes down to there are a lot of weak men that have women that aren't getting enough attention. The attention she craves is what she is after. The men don't get that some day it will come back to haunt them.

 

[manfrombelow]

I don't get it. You would just pump and dump them anyway (let's not BS ourselves here: It's not like you're going to wed any of them soon), who gives a fvck they had a boyfriend or not?

 

[manfrombelow]

@Bingo-Player is trying to wife them up.

Why?

 

[Bingo-Player]

You are looking for a wife in the UK in your 30s.

Mate you are fishing in the wrong stream.

I am living in Australia now , women from all over the world here

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That doesn't mean they won't fvck you.

C'mon man...you know as well as I do when it reaches that stage, it's usually in the last stages before they dump their boyfriend after trying to make them dump her for months.

She is just looking for someone else to monkey branch to at that point. That's just how women do things.

 

[DreamAgain]

I am living in Australia now , women from all over the world here

There your odds should be better, but you will probably need a lot of $. I have a friend in Brisbane who told me prices have become astronomical relative to local earnings.

 

[zekko]

Of course girls like the attention. But there are a lot of them that have never had any intention to be faithful, they just want their cake and eat it too. Some just see having a side piece as a regular part of life. For that matter a lot guys here see it that way too.

 

[Bingo-Player]

@manfrombelow @AmsterdamAssassin

I have had a lot of casual sex with a lot of women and yes its fun and exciting but pu$$y is a drug and ultimately your constantly having to run around trying to find the next hit

As I've entered my 30's I want something more stable now , I'm still having casual sex especially if its very straight forward for me

But ultimately I want a woman that supports me and will be capable of being a good mother to my children not some slooot thats spinning around the carousel being used as a *** dumpster

 

[Bingo-Player]

That doesn't mean they won't fvck you.

C'mon man...you know as well as I do when it reaches that stage, it's usually in the last stages before they dump their boyfriend after trying to make them dump her for months.

She is just looking for someone else to monkey branch to at that point. That's just how women do things.

I am aware but it's still a red flag for me

 

[manfrombelow]

I am aware but it's still a red flag for me

Agree 100%. A woman telling you she's single while still having a boyfriend is a big fat azz redflag.

Such a chick would be good to fvck (she's obviously interested in you anyway), but bad to wed or get into LTR with.

 

[corrector]

You really want to wife up now with a Modern Western Woman after you see how they are? At least these women are disqualifying themselves to you. But, you should really reevaluate your goals and make sure you are going after the right women.

 

[old_skoolr]

As I've entered my 30's I want something more stable now , I'm still having casual sex especially if its very straight forward for me

Nothing wrong with that, everyone changes over time.

Keep in mind Mel is ethnically diverse, so if you have a type you can find them at local nights i.e Greek, Serbian, Vietnamese nights.

Chapel St has some cool bars where you'll find Anglo-Aus from top class snobs at the Emerson to drug-****ed bogan trash at Revolver.

All the best with your search

Source: An old school Melbournian

 

[LTG71]

I moved too Melbourne about 3 weeks ago since then I have really been ramping up my approaches

Confidence is high atm and after a year of cold approaches I understand what works and what doesn't

So ive done about a lot of approaches in the last 3 weeks not all women but obviously the vast majority

Since I have been here I keep meeting girls the interaction goes well they and are telling me they are single

Then later I go too look at the instagrams and theres quite clearly a boyfriend

One girl I meet Friday night in a bar we connect well , we kissed at the end of our encounter and she told me message her

The next day I check her Insta theres a BF all over the page , I message her something casual she replies a bit then ghosts

Women are fvcking mental

-------------------------------------------

I will build on the fact I'm being told "I'm single" and not " I have a boyfriend" which clearly means I am doing something right at the approach stage

but still so frustrating when you connect with a chick and then you find out she has just been lying the whole time

Because some women are validation and attention hoes.

Had an experience with a coworker yesterday. She wants to walk outside for a break. She’s dressed in new clothes and looks like she has a new haircut. The entire time she is making negative comments about her body and playing with her hair. She was fishing for me to counter her negative compliments and validate her. I didn’t take the bait. Would have liked to see her reaction if I agreed and said, “yeah, your azz is huge now. Used to be amazing years ago but you got lazy and let it go to hell.”

This same woman used to tell me how she flirted with guys at the bar while her partner was sitting there. She would test, “to see if she still had it.” She openly admitted to this behavior. I find it disrespectful to her partner. But she is too selfish to think about anyone but herself.

Got me thinking how women say, “that they don’t owe men sex or access to their bodies.” Same goes for us giving out free validation, attention, resources and time.

Later after the walk, I see her in the window outside walking with another guy, lol. Lots of fishing that day.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Got me thinking how women say, “that they don’t owe men sex or access to their bodies.” Same goes for us giving out free validation, attention, resources and time.

Later after the walk, I see her in the window outside walking with another guy, lol. Lots of fishing that day.

Yes but the problem is a lot of men offer up validation and attention with zero cost to the woman

So game is always on easy mode for women , the skill is in piquing her interest and then withdrawing yours thats what hooks them

Everything after that just comes down to how much you as a man respect yourself and how strong your frame is