Girls says "I wish you knew more about cooking"

[MetalFortress]

*shakes head and dies laughing*

Originally posted by 00Kevin

I'm interested in knowing how some of you guys would respond. Keep in mind I'm only interested in an LTR. If she was a fling.. I would care what she said.

"You're a professional cooker, and I'm a professional eater, so that makes us the perfect couple!"

Are you HIGH? Dude, for her, cooking is as enjoyable as, say, playing videogames is for you, so of COURSE she's going to want someone who shares an interest like that! This isn't about damn gender roles, this is about compatibility!

And how the hell is it less manly to know how to cook anyways? You know me, I'm one of the more traditional guys here, but that don't stop me from not only cooking my own, but even INVENTING my own dishes, even damn near getting into competitions with my sister in that category. And hell, I'm a weightlifter, I'd BETTER know how to prepare some stuff.

Just because she wants you to know more about cooking doesn't mean that if you're working every day and she's at home, she's not going to have a great meal laid out on the table for you when you get back. Hell, it means you two will be able to discuss the culinary arts together, and if you compliment her on her food, it becomes that much more genuine.


Oh, wait, I missed the part about her teaching cooking. OF COURSE SHE'S GOING TO WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT COOKING! I mean hell, if you were a professional baseball player, would you want to date a chick who knows something about the game, or one who just ignores it completely and refuses to learn? SAME DEAL! So you say you aren't that kind of guy? Well, aside from the fact that you're a closed minded nutcase who probably spends too much time listening to Art Bell reruns to get any sleep, why don't you just TELL her you're not that kind of guy instead of assuming that SHE HAS TO READ YOUR MINISCULE MIND? What, so she's supposed to read your mind? Date a psychic instead then! Sheesh, stop being such a chick about this.

If you are insulted by what she said, then I hope you feel more insulted when you get kicked in the danglers for being such a pvssy, unless you retracted your "ZOMG IM SO NSULTED LOLOL SHE TOLED MEE I NEED LURN MOR BOUT CUKING" crap. Stop with the oversensitivity.

So, while I find and date girls who are wonderful (and generous) cooks who ask me for ideas on messing with recipes, you can end up stuck with a chick who makes nothing but cheeseburgers, but hey, AT LEAST SHE COOKS FOR YOU.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by spider_007
learn haw to trow a mean BBQ,

that's all you need to know.

Yeah, MFM (Man, Fire & Meat)! It's an awesome combination...

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Yeah, MFM (Man, Fire & Meat)! It's an awesome combination...

dude , did you see last years first annual american grill off competetion. wow the bbq!! i want to be this years judge haha.

 

[nonstop]

this is a tricky one.

the woman cooks.

but you also have to demonstrate that you can look after yourself.

therfore you don't need a woman to cook.

and her cooking skills are devalued.

but it's the woman who cooks!

you can cook but you choose not too, you don't need to, because you have a woman that can cook.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by penkitten
dude , did you see last years first annual american grill off competetion. wow the bbq!! i want to be this years judge haha.

Missed it but I can only imagine what it was like. I've seen some very interesting things done on a grill. Some of these guys are very inventive.

 

[lebRambo]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
A girl I've been dating for a bit recently told me that she wished I knew more about cooking.

I was very insulted by this remark.

This girl is an expert at cooking. Why the **** would she want me to be one? What is she doing sizing me up for marriage already? That kind of **** scares the hell out of me.

We never finished the conversation and quite frankly as a result of this she is almost on my next list.

I'm going to tell her off and that is it.. I'm so sick of these *****es with all these feminist concepts in their head.

**** her.. I am not a f-ucken cook and I never fu-cken will cook half the meals!

I should also point out that I do know how to cook a few things. but that isn't my focus in a relationship at all.

In fact she is the one that should have to cook for me!


I'm interested in knowing how some of you guys would respond. Keep in mind I'm only interested in an LTR. If she was a fling.. I would care what she said.

tell her "well, if ever needed, I could go out and f*cking kill any animal i need to and then eat it! You think your so special cause you can turn on a f*cking stove?"

 

[penkitten]

you could always tell her you really dont enjoy cooking very much
just never was your thing

 

[thirial]

Originally posted by TheDarkSaint
If you wish to be a moron and be dependent on a woman instead of being independent, go right ahead.

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for thousands of years cooking has traditionally been performed by women in most cultures; today if you can cook it just shows her that you're man enough to not give a **** about the feminine stigma attached to cooking, which in turns tells her that you're independant and not reliant on a females care like we all were when we were children waiting for our mums to serve us up food.

it can be very powerful, especially if you're good at it

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by penkitten
you could always tell her you really dont enjoy cooking very much
just never was your thing

True, but don't you think she was commenting on it because she was hoping to have something in common to share?

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
True, but don't you think she was commenting on it because she was hoping to have something in common to share?

to be honest im not sure
cause honestly my sister in law said that to my brother once and now she doesnt cook and he does. she hates it and cant do it well and said something like that to throw the responsibility.

however this guy did say that the girl in the story was a chef or something, which does mean she really enjoys it.

perhaps the guy could just tell her he doesnt know alot about cooking and maybe they can cook together. she can teach him how.
and hey, even if the relationship doesnt last forever, he will have gained some cooking school knowledge, which is a plus for anyone who needs to eat dinner.

 

[Daral]

"cookign is for women" is retarded. Like others have already said, cooking is an art. And it's a fun one at that. Whether you like eating extravagent meals or not is irrelevant; if you want to spend time with other people, eventually you'll come across a situation where it will be useful to know how to cook. It's best to have a handle on said situation.

 

[nonstop]

just don't start cooking butterfly cakes or sugar mice

 

[Chrispy]

has she been to your place yet? Sounds like she wants to come over, so if you knew how to cook, she'd be in your place overnight!

 

[Phoenix_of_the_ashes]

To all the "Im a man so I wont cook" guys : Who makes your food?

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by MVPlaya
Sure, here's what I think:

Don't be a ****ing ***** and assume that because you are born with a penis and she is born with a vagina you are required to fulfill certain roles in a relationship. Don't assume men who cook somehow subjugate themselves or that you are less of a man if you don't always act as the dominant member. Learn to ****in share in a relationship, its not a game of pick-up or a quick trip to sex, learn to fulfill a role not because of what dangles between your leg but because of what you're good at. If you're a better cook than she is, then cook, if she's a better cook than you, than she cooks, but get these stupid archaic gender constructs out of your mind. If she wants you to occasionally cook to help get the load off her back, then be a man and help your partner out.

I'm sorry but I have to totaly object toyour concept of "archaic gender contstucts"

I don't see them as constructs I see them as the natural order of things.

You, just like the feminists, are nothing but a gender bender. I have not respect for such people and therefore I have don't care for what you have to say.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Luveno
Dude, snap out of it!


To hell with all this masculine crap. Cooking is an art. EVERYONE likes food that tastes good.

Your relationship probably won't last long, so get what you can out of it. And what that is, is FREE COOKING LESSONS!

If you cook good meals for yourself, you will love it! I love to cook and I'd be thrilled to have the opportunity to be taught how to be a better cook.

Don't be such a stubborn arse and improve your culinary skills! It'll help you in the future. Trust me.

My concept is masculine crap is what makes me strong. It is part of who I am as a man. I can't change that and I don't care to. It serves me well NOT to be effeminate.

The first thing everyone learns on this site is to be yourself and to have confidence about it. I don't care to know how to cook.. I would much rather have someone cook for me. In fact I would rather pay someone to cook for me then do it myself. I have other more important thigns to do in my life.

I don't understand how improving my culinar skills will ever help me. I would much rather focus on making more money and aquiring more power over my life then to learn how to cook.

F-cuk anyone who suggests that a man should focus on culinary skills

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Sazuki
One day i'm comming over to America and check out the chicks for symptoms of severe feminist infection.

I don't get why she is complaining, she can cook well, infact, she teaches how to cook! and now want you to be a master chef also? Wtf is that for messed up logic?

Woman should know their place, that is among many things also the kitchen.

thank you.. this is exactly my point. f-cuk american s-luts ...

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by Qmanchoo
First, you're blowing this way off base here if you call her up to tell her off about...a cooking comment you thought was an insult? lol, she'll probably leave. Stop being so immature and completely blind and look at this for what she was REALLY saying....

She's trying to relate to you, one of her _passions_ in life is cooking, if you're an expert at something it's (hopefully) because you love it. That is not one of your passions and she's probably thinking how cool it would be if you two could relate on that level but you can't, she probably said that because she's disappointed that she wont be able to share that with you not to insult you! Now unless this girl has a black heart and just wanted to insult you (which she probably doesn't) that's most likely the case.

You have to sit down and think about why you're having such an immature reaction to this man, if you blew up in front of her she'd probably never see you again and it would have been because of your over reaction.

And for the love of god...listen to diplomatic_lies he speaks the truth. lol

Let me explain something.

She is not trying to relate to me. She is just one of those girls who is screwed in the head when it comes to gender roles. I have no respect for that kind of woman. She is into this 50/50 bullcrap that basically only ends up working in her favour.

Here are some good qualities that you need to have in a woman for a long term relationship and/or marriage.

Cooking, cleaning, mothering, nurturing, wants kids, loves kids, loyal, trustworthy.

What is important is that the woman does not have a real negative attitude towards doing those things. Any trace of snobbery at doing traditional female tasks is a bad sign of a princess.

Marrige is a case where both partners need to give up something to get somthing different and greater in return. If anyone is selfish about the realtionship then it won't work.

And a marrige except for a few cases needs someone to be a provider, and someone to be a domestic.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by TheDarkSaint
My grandfather has your same attitude. Women should cook, not men.

Thus, he goes hungry and can't make his own sandwich when she had a hip replacement. He never learned how to work a microwave. My grandmother treats him like a moron when it comes to food.

If you wish to be a moron and be dependent on a woman instead of being independent, go right ahead.

no no.... that won't ever happen. I'll just pay somone to cook for me. I'll eat like a king... but I won't cook for one.

 

[naoi deag se deag]

Should have said, "I wish you did too." And left it at that. I wish I knew how to cook.