I've noticed this with the last half dozen girls I've dated. They've all picked up the tabs on our dates, especially our first dates and sometimes subsequent dates if there are subsequent dates. I'm pretty shy, so half the time, it's the girl asking me out. But even when i ask the girl out, she winds up paying.
I tried paying for one girl (we were at the movies). She got extremely pissed off, offended and shoved my cash aside as if she were disgusted at my offer then continued to pay.
I DID manage to pay for a date with a girl recently. However, she kept asking me if she couldn't pay for her half of the check. "I got it," I said. "Are you sure?" she must've asked three times and seemed genuinely surprised that I would not let her pay.
These are all inexpensive first dates at the movies or a cafe so the financial burden on either side is minimal. But the thing is, I would feel more comfortable paying myself on the first date. However, I can't seem to get girls to allow me to do this. It also seems to create a very weird vibe when I do pay or try to pay. None of the girls has passively allowed me to pay.
What's your guys experience with this?
I tried paying for one girl (we were at the movies). She got extremely pissed off, offended and shoved my cash aside as if she were disgusted at my offer then continued to pay.
I DID manage to pay for a date with a girl recently. However, she kept asking me if she couldn't pay for her half of the check. "I got it," I said. "Are you sure?" she must've asked three times and seemed genuinely surprised that I would not let her pay.
These are all inexpensive first dates at the movies or a cafe so the financial burden on either side is minimal. But the thing is, I would feel more comfortable paying myself on the first date. However, I can't seem to get girls to allow me to do this. It also seems to create a very weird vibe when I do pay or try to pay. None of the girls has passively allowed me to pay.
What's your guys experience with this?