Girls Love Me, But Still No Same Night Sex

[aura]

I'm slightly disappointed, but I promised myself I wouldn't beat myself up about not getting the same night sex, lol. I'm realizing it's more about ego than anything else.

Anyway, I still had a great weekend. I was approached by lots of girls (nearly double digits?), got invited to a bunch of parties, had tons of options with many girls approaching me and even doing a few approaches myself, hanging with some cool friends and so on.

I need to be more aggressive and be more assertive and naturally sexual, which is quite frankly, a serious, serious sticking point.

The only thing I can do is keep trying...

 

[cola]

ONS's aren't as common as you think. A lot of dudes lie and say they have ONS's on a regular basis but actually they aren't very common place. Most women with even an small amount of self respect require atleast a 1st date, as you get older they get way more rare.

Unless you have some type of elite social status which they get some type of validation from boning you the first night

Rockstar, Millionaire, Mogul etc etc

Or shes a hoe, which you probably don't want anyway

 

[Thundernuts]

Yea one night stands are kind of fun but often youll notice the women aren't exactly your ideal dating material.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

When you get a ONS out of a girl you have to think to yourself "How many other dudes got this outta her too? How many of them might've been around themselves and caught STDs" **** going for a ONS. I'd rather not get laid than get a disease from some trashbag wh0re.

 

[DonGorgon]

it may not be you per say.. but in recent years its getting harder and harder to have same night sex with most women cause due to cell phones and texting most women have 5 or 6 guys begging them to meet up after the club or bar to F and that is what most women are doing now meeting some guy who is at some other bar to F so if you meet her on sat you may need to wait till some other day to F..

 

[Aaron B]

in my experience if you are able to isolate to a place where you can have sex and it doesn't happen, its because you aren't aggressive enough and/or you aren't able to effectively deal with her last-minute resistance

she came with you to have sex with you. women can be funny in that you can be in the process of providing her with something that she wants and she will still put up road blocks to it in many cases

single-minded determination is the order of the day. you wanna have sex, she wants to have sex, everything that has happened that night has lead to this moment

your frame has to be that she came with you to this private area to have sex with you and its your responsibility to defeat her last minute resistance

i think where many of us mess up is we want to revert to logical conversation which is almost completely ineffective. its all about the physical at that point. understanding her motivation for the sex to have "just happened" and it not to be "her fault" is important because she is going to need to be able to explain this to her friends later in a way that doesn't portray her as a slut

its up to you to work out all the details. don't defer to her. if your goal is a same-night lay you need to have worked out in advance where you are going to take her. that can be her place but you need to have found out who she lives with, who will be there, can you take her there etc. also important is to have an actual reason other than sex for going there. it doesn't even have to make logical sense, but she needs an excuse for why she went with you so when she tells her friends later it makes some kind of sense to them. Like "Yeah, we went to his place to listen to this CD he told me about, then one thing lead to another and it just happened"

 

[thevilittletroll]

at this point if you are getting approached by women constantly then you are building a lot of attraction upfront. its really up to you to pull the trigger. when a woman is attracted to you, you can get away with a lot more then you can possibly imagine. i would suggest this, try your hardest to intentionally mess up and cross the line. be overly aggressive, touchy and grabby. this will give you an idea where most women's thresholds are. gotta break a couple of eggs to make an omelet.

i do agree with some previous posts, most snl's are about logistics and not that she's not attracted to you. most times she's with her friends and doesnt want to look like a slut. but remember there are no rules only guidelines. if she's super attracted she wont care what her frineds think.

keep your coversations escalting sexually. once she's talking about sex, she's thinking about sex, and if she's attracted to you, she's thinking about having sex with you. its all up to you to escalate kino and close the deal.

 

[Zarky]

I think the OP is right about saying he needs to be more aggressive. You'd be surprised what you can make happen when you really try.

 

[Masculinity]

I honestly don't think making a big fuzz about the lack of one-nigh-stands is necessary.

 

[3countriesPlan]

Calibrate yourself, I never got any ONS before cause I was hoping to go out with them a few times first, lately after deciding to shove that notion off to the side I've had a couple and nearly had another last week. No, I'm not some MPUA I just changed my goal for the evening and the whole energy changed as did the interactions.