Girls less than 21 years old are mature enough...

[flyinshark]

Do you agree with the above statement?

I personally think that those younger girls don't exactly know what they want in a relationship, nor do they know what kind of man they really wanna be with.

Shedding some light on this issue could help a bunch of us younger don juan-wannabies (me included) in dealing with the unpredictible behavior of girls our age in a relationship (short term or long term).

It could also avoid some people getting hurt by a girl they had feelings for, as they will understand what to expect from girls in this age bracket: immaturity.

Thanks for voting and/or commenting.

 

[frivolousz21]

it depends people are by products of there situation..

exaple:

girl 1..has to great parents..lives a good life..goes to college, has her first freedom...first time to fail..probably wont be mature for it until she hits the "real world"

girl 2....works fulltime from 16 on...goes to community college...gets some associates....at 20 lands a good job...and works hard..probably better suited for it.

just an example..there are many examples

 

[Gravyboat]

Girls 21 or younger are very rarely able to handle a healthy long-term relationship. If they can, chances are they're the clingy type. More likely though, they're still in their weekend clubbing, boy-crazy phase, going through crushes like pairs of shoes.

Even though there are exceptions, I'd say 23 is a little more realistic. By then, they've gotten plenty of clubbing out of their system, and they've likely been burned by more than a few jerks.

 

[flyinshark]

Originally posted by Gravyboat
Girls 21 or younger are very rarely able to handle a healthy long-term relationship. If they can, chances are they're the clingy type. More likely though, they're still in their weekend clubbing, boy-crazy phase, going through crushes like pairs of shoes.

Even though there are exceptions, I'd say 23 is a little more realistic. By then, they've gotten plenty of clubbing out of their system, and they've likely been burned by more than a few jerks.

Interesting! Now you say that by 23 they start being more serious.

Keeping in mind that we are generalizing, and knowing that there are exceptions, what do others think is the age when girls become serious/mature enough to be relationship material ?

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Regardless of the "family" background, most girls don't know what they want, IF they do, they aren't willing to commit RIGHT now.


I dated an 18 y.o. (who had the background, lifestyle, and mentality to be a stripper) who comes from a sort of broken home. Though her mom is good to her, she has little contact with her father. Yes, he pays her bills, but at 18 she's got dreams bigger than her pocket book can provide and the type of immaturity that will prevent her from achieving those dreams. She was tons of fun, her mom liked me and had no problem her daughter was dating some1 24 years old, 6 years older than her daughter, but in her mind, she always wanted the "freedom" to do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted. Being born of the MTV generation, she ASSUMES life is like it is on TV. Bars, clubs, REAL WORLD, Prada, GUCCI, Pimped Trucks etc. It CAN be, but most girls who follow what they perceive to be the route fall astray into preying hands.


On the other hand, I'm currently seeing a 21 yo beauty who hails from a VERY good family background. Very traditional. Very well off. Currently in college and always Pays 1/2 of what whatever we do. Always does whatever I want, because she cares about being with me, not what I do. She envisions the traditional marriage, traditional wife/husband stuff, but wants to have the freedom to do some of the things she wants, WHILE having a BF. Big difference here.


Girl 1 dreams of the big parties, crazy nights, laughs, boozing, etc.


Girl 2 dreams of the beach, a beach house, her own boat, a condo in Boston, and her sales career before she gets married and has kids.


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Most girls fall into category 1, and those girls that fall into category 2, want the MAN to supply the dream.


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I had this convo with a dealership owner who sees girls ALL DAY LONG. Mostly 18+ looking to drive a hooked up ride, they can't even afford (18k @ 18 years old???). They come in, dressed slutty all day long, flirt with all the owners, and say piggish things. Girls act like this, because most men aren't men. They're boys with d!cks in their hands waiting to get laid. I was @ OLD navy over the weekend and I couldn't tell if the girls were 14, or 24, and frankly, the only thing that will change in 10 years is their MENTALITY, not their body. After 24, it will slide, alot, as most will booze themselves into POT bellies. Yet...these girls dressed slutty...what does the bait expect to attract when they give off such obvious symbols???



A-Unit

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I agree because at they are capable of deciding what they would want as a young adult. This does not mean that they would choose the same thing(s) at 25, 30 or any other age.

Face it, their frame of life is only so big. They are making their decisions on that limited frame (limited as compared to someone older). So what they choose could be completely appropriate for someone their age. The problem is when someone older who is in a different frame gets pissed off because their ideals don't match up.

 

[PRMoon]

There needs to be an inbetween vote here. I know girls who aren't 21 who are married and popping out kids by the time they're 18. This is what they've always wanted in a relationship since they were little girls.

To the contuary I've met ladies who are approaching 30 and haven't got a clue what they want out of a relationship. They've dated, married, divorced in several cycles and haven't figured out exactly what it is they want in a companion.