Girls know about the AFC; Don't be afraid to show affection

[Soshyopathe]

Just want to give you guys some insight from my experience. Don't be afraid to let your girlfriend know how you feel about her when you are serious. You are no longer worried about making her figure you out. It isn't AFCish at all to tell her you love her or that you saw something that day that reminded you of her.

Girls already have a classification of AFC guys. They call it "Too sweet to be Sexy." I saw the phrase in my girlfriend's cosmo mag, and asked her what girls mean by that. She said it's the kind of guy who is so emotional and devoted that he loses his sense of humor and sex drive. He worships the girl so much that he can't be a friend to her, and you need to be best friends with your girlfriend.

So don't be afraid to let a girl know you like her. Just don't get so infatuated with her that you forget she's human. Joke around, respect yourself, and care for her. There's nothing wrong with that.

 

[Dale North]

well said Soshyopathe. however, I also believe timing is critical. Often, its hard to tell exactly when is the ripe time to say the three magical words in a relation, and when it would blow the whole thing.

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[Smooth as Anything]

Honestly, if you genuinely think you love a girl -- tell her or you're an idiot.

Nothing could possibly go wrong, if you honestly think you love her

What matters is if you really love her. If you tell her you love her (and you think you do) but you don't really -- you're an AFC and she'll drop you.

Just follow your own ****ing logic guys! It was said on this board awhile ago... YOU NEED TO FAIL, AND THE BEST WAY TO DO IT IS TO FOLLOW YOUR OWN WORDS.

We aren't here to get your feet off the ground, which is a common misconception. We're here to teach you how to get your feet off the ground.

We expect you to fail, it's all a part of learning.

...so my advice, is to do what your heart says. (awww...)

 

[Too_Nice]

That was so beautiful smooth...*sniff sniff* let me grab a tissue.

 

[Gold Heart]

Very true. From the time you've been dating, they already know what you are. And if you were the ideal, then it sure isn't an AFC. "Too sweet to be sexy" is a great way to describe it. That's basically what we are all trying not to be.

Being sweet somtimes keeps her guessing. Some people have the perception that we frown upon sweetness. In the right moment, it can do a lot of good to a relationship. Just don't abuse it!

 

[Canadianpimpology]

I say you wait a mininum of 3 months though. I don't believe it's possible to love a person in a span of a month or so of dating. Make sure you are exclusive too. Also, my rule is that make sure she says it first. Now that me and my gf both say it...I just make sure she says it more than me.

 

[drixsa]

actions speak louder than words

if you really do "love" her then your words will only lower the meaning of what you feel

if she REALLY needs to be told that you love her, then you need to be a better boyfriend

 

[punkrockpylot]

dirx...you always have words of wisdom that hit right on the mark... (please give me some on my thread...)

the punkrock DJ