Girls escalates to kissing, then says she is not interested in going further.

[The Duke]

Truth is, no one knows exactly why she did what she did. Its all speculation. There isn't anything here that I am totally buying into.

I'd definitely ignore her friend request, or at least go delete it. Hit her up in a week or two. Make it sechsual from the start.

Girls reject guys for all sorts of crazy things. I'm thinking she wasn't that into you, which is why she wasn't very forgiving.

The moral of the story here is, this is low interest. You rarely get anywhere with low interest girls.

 

[marmel75]

Not trying to sound desparate, or needy, but what would the best course of action be to recover from this mishap? It is not even as much about getting the girl, but fixing the mistake.

I obviously will be having a no-contact for at least 2 weeks, very likely a month, or even longer, unless she approaches me first. I will be meeting, acquainting, and seeing other girls as well, during that time.

The part that makes me a bit uncomfortable is that I apparently was this close to sealing the deal that evening. A part of me appararently did not expect that things would escalate so quickly, and I had not planned for this. What a way to learn, eh? Also, I have some trouble forgetting about girls into whom I have invested two or more dates - not money-wise, but time-wise. I have let my game down once I see the girls soften and open up, thinking I have won them over, and it somehow goes naturally from there.

Would it be reasonable to assume, that even if she labeled me in her friendzone, it has not had time to root in, as I haven't actually been a "friend" to her - nor do I plan to be one? At least I know she found me attractive and likely wanted to sleep with me, so if I were to get her to a private setting, I could just move ahead - more confidently this time - and she would then thing, that "it just happened".

Meet up with again and act like none of this ever happened and try and escalate further.

 

[Styr]

I must be really mad.

I was in a park, talking, and walking with a friend (ca 40 years old, and a rather dominant guy), and I saw the girl coming towards us. As soon as she noticed me, she waved and continued walking toward me. She stopped, and out of all the possible things I could have done or said, I thought it would be a brilliant idea to do this trick:

She told me she was in a hurry to a lecture, but complied. She looked rather surprised though, and did not understand what was going on. My friend meanwhile was standing close by (behind me). It did not go very smoothly, and she quickly understood that I had removed my hands, and she left, again saying that she was in a hurry, and looked back and waved.

Looking back at this whole thing it was very awkward (it seemed so in my opinion at least), and my friend (he is not local and speaks another language) did not understand what was going on as well.

The one positive side I can think of is that I did not really care in that moment what she thinks of me - and I am sure she noticed that, at least. Then again I apparently care enough about the outcome to write about it here.

In the very worst scenario I have at least an excuse to call her, perhaps say what this was all about, and arrange to meet up at a later time. That is, if she answers. If she does not, well then I at least know where I stand, and can move on. And another lesson learned.

 

[Juanto]

It does sound awkward just by reading it....

 

[Igetit!]

I must be really mad.

I was in a park, talking, and walking with a friend (ca 40 years old, and a rather dominant guy), and I saw the girl coming towards us. As soon as she noticed me, she waved and continued walking toward me. She stopped, and out of all the possible things I could have done or said, I thought it would be a brilliant idea to do this trick:

She told me she was in a hurry to a lecture, but complied. She looked rather surprised though, and did not understand what was going on. My friend meanwhile was standing close by (behind me). It did not go very smoothly, and she quickly understood that I had removed my hands, and she left, again saying that she was in a hurry, and looked back and waved.

Looking back at this whole thing it was very awkward (it seemed so in my opinion at least), and my friend (he is not local and speaks another language) did not understand what was going on as well.

 

[Styr]

I probably deserve your reactions, so don't hesitate posting them.

Meanwhile I thought what I should say to her, if she were to answer. Apologizing is certainly not an option. I thought of saying that it was some sort of a bet with my friend. Probably not a good idea either (especially as it is a lie). I will just have to say that it was an uplifting trick that people like, but it just failed this time.

 

[nismo-4]

Failure to lead, and now she sent you to the friendzone.

Didn't seal the deal, you sealed your own fate.

Move on, she did! With someone back home.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Maybe try Pattycake the next time instead of that youtube trick? That trick to me seemed like something that could backfire, especially if she already finds you the least bit creepy.
Pattycake says "Hey, I'm in touch with my inner child, and my inner child is a girl" That could work.....

 

[MrWood]

I accompanied her to her bus, and on the way there she said, that I am very nice to talk to and to be with, and she is not interested in taking this any further

what you didnt do was make her pvssy tingle, you gave it a shot
could be your kissing, could have been the cuddle (on a 2nd date?), likely you showed her some needines there...
the FB add was to let you down easy and put you in the orbit