Girls Dump me because I check out other HB's. I need advice.

[Healer]

I constantly get in trouble with my Girlfriends because I have this STUPID habit. I cant help checking out the HB's wherever I am.

Sometimes Ill even Unconsiously let go of their hands and turn a quick 180 just to check them out for a couple more seconds.. This REALLY burns my girlfriends.

I need help. I just lost another girl because of this bad habit, but thats ok because I think it was ONE-ITIS anyways. Does anyone else have this problem? And can anyone give me some advice on how to change?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Healer
I need help. I just lost another girl because of this bad habit, but thats ok because I think it was ONE-ITIS anyways. Does anyone else have this problem? And can anyone give me some advice on how to change?

It is apparent that you need to work on your self control. It is one of the key stones to being a DJ but it is also one of the most difficult to build up. It takes both time and a concerted effort on your part to identify situations that get you in trouble before you react to them and then adjust your actions appropriately. In other words control your actions and stop reacting to situations.

I will assume that since you want to work on a LTR so first and foremost you need to understand that women in LTRs need respect, affection and romance. You can only imagine what your GF feels when you let go of her hand and do a 180 to look at another woman. In doing that you have lessened her respect, affection and romance in a matter of a couple of seconds. So why should she date you?

I am in no way saying that you shouldn't look at other women. The key is to respect the one you are with by not gawking or breaking any type of kino just to look at someone else. Here's an example that happened to me just this weekend.

My GF and I were at a Renaissance Festival and she noticed a scantily clad belly dancer from behind and as we walked by, commented that she didn't have the right hips for belly dancing. I looked at the belly dancer, grabbed my GFs hand and told her to slow down. Still holding her hand I walked her around to see her from the front. I told my GF about a girl I had previously dated who danced at the festival and I curious whether it was her or not.

After a quick look I said that it wasn't her and that I was lucky since I couldn't even remember her name for some strange reason. While saying that I gave my GFs hand a squeeze while giving her a quick wink. She smiled and gave me a kiss and everything was good with the world.

I respected her in that I did not hide my actions nor broke the kino we had established. The affection was there because I was comfortable in showing others that we were together by holding her hand. The romance was there in that I gave her a complement (although non direct) and a little flirt on the side. All of this made my girl feel confident that although I was looking at this other woman, I was definitely with her.

Hopefully this helps you understand that you can still be a DJ by staying in control of the not only the situation but also yourself PLUS having the ability to keep your GF IL on high.

 

[Player_Supreme]

your right about one thing it's a stupid aszzed habit. imature and doesnt' serve your purpose. look at ya know, dateless cause you have no self control.

you gotta be sly as a fox around women. you can't be some dumb assed chump who's all thumbs and no common sense...maybe that's why you keep getting dumped.

wear sunglasses next time and practice not turning your head...develop your preriphial vision. and do not...I repeat do not make noise just cause you see a hot broad in a movie, on the streets or in a magazine....

how would you like it if your date did the same thing to you? or if she talked about how black dudes have huge diycks and what happened to yours....get the point.

 

[Wild at heart]

I cant help it..every time i see a post by Player Supreme i laugh like hell

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
...you gotta be sly as a fox around women. you can't be some dumb assed chump who's all thumbs and no common sense...maybe that's why you keep getting dumped.

wear sunglasses next time and practice not turning your head...develop your preriphial vision. and do not...I repeat do not make noise just cause you see a hot broad in a movie, on the streets or in a magazine....

I can understand not being a chump but wearing sunglasses and acting like Inspector Gadget does nothing for your DJ status. Is this for guys who are afraid of their women or what?

how would you like it if your date did the same thing to you? or if she talked about how black dudes have huge diycks and what happened to yours....get the point.

They DO the same thing as us. Women look at guys all the time comparing them to their guys. They do it almost as much as they look at other women comparing themselves to them. The fact of the matter is acting as self conscious as they do does nothing to your DJ status.

Why aren't confident enough in themselves to be able to look at another woman without gawking (even in front of our GFs)? Why do guys bring up the "how would you feel" BS line or even worse fall for it?

Be a DJ, give a rip about noticing a pretty woman. If you didn't like pretty women, you wouldn't be dating one, now would you? And if you are afraid of your girl leaving you for any guy she sees on the street, you definitely have more DJ skills to build up.

And if you are silly enough to worry about comparing D1ck sizes of other men of other cultures, grow up! You can't fight facts!!!!