Tyson420 said:
That's called like an evaluation period.
They show your picture to her friends, if their friends approve etc. You're Golden.
Sometimes it takes a while for a chick to decide if she wants to hang out with you or not.
No, not at all. If it's pre-date or post-date then she'd mention it to her friends, maybe show a pic on facebook, either way her friends will always say "oh he looks nice" and she knows that. Girls don't share things for approval but for being involved in each others lives. It's only if it becomes a serious relationship that 'approval' comes into it and even then getting on with her friends won't significantly gain you anything, their loyalties are with her at the end of the day.."approving" is purely questioning "is he treating her well? is she happy?"
You're closer with the latter, but if she's having to decide it's because she's fairly indifferent (is it worth it?) or maybe she shouldn't be doing it (taken) ...do you really want either?
Maxtro said:
I wonder if that's true or not. If she's weighing the pros and cons and just can't make up her mind.
My guess on why they take a long time to get back is that the guy simply isn't a priority. Contacting him might just fall off her to-do list. She may also have ADD or something *shrug*
Pretty much this, if she's really into you then you'll get a reply soon enough, no matter how busy she is. But if she's undecided and you're not a priority then she's probably indifferent to you as opposed to weighing up pros and cons, she doesn't know yet if you're worth making an effort for. It's happened with me a fair bit in the past, I've not bothered with a date with a guy because I'm indifferent to him and have had an offer from my mates. With my mates I know I'm getting a good night in or out and don't want to miss out.
You want the woman to like you enough so that she doesn't wanna miss out on the date.
(Personally I think that's the most difficult part for both men and women in dating, the early days when you don't know each other, I think that's why first impressions are particularly important for guys because there is still an expectation of them to do the chasing and more pressure on them to have a good personality. Then it's easy to get the girl. And that is probably because women really at the end of the day are looking for something more but a lot of guys are satisfied enough to just get sex out of it, so the pressure on girls is for looks moreso than personality and that's about it).
mahoney said:
its not a sh1t test exactly its more subconscious than that
basically the problem is this, if a dude sends a text and the girl replies, the dude will almost immediately send another one (whether its needed or not), then if the girl responds to that even just to say "ok cool" - dude will then reply again, straightaway..text after text after text (you can see it all over this board when people have a problem)
it happens often because its a fairly standard dynamic - overcontacting with not particularly interesting messages. these messages chip away at any anticipation the girl might have about you. its funny, all dudes seem to care about is how often a girl responds to their messages. they could have a great time on date 1 and a great time on date 2....what do they post on here about? that there weren't enough messages in between the dates or they weren't replied to quickly enough...and its supposedly the girls that are AWs? ha!
Yeah I completely agree with this, too many texts are borne of politeness
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