Girls care about Social Value

[KneghtRyder]

Obviously they care about who you are socially....and the problem with cold approaching is that if they dont know who your friends are or what organization you are from..there is no way for them to determine your social value ....i think that keeps women hesitate from dating guys even though they are attracted to him.

They care what others will think if she is seen with you...


BUt if you are somewhat socially known to them..e.g. you goto the same school as them or somehow connected to them and not a complete stranger..then i dont think this rule applies and they will be less guarded..

what do you think?

 

[Rebound Material]

agreed

 

[EFFORT]

Your social value is sub communicated. If you have a lot of social value (social skills, friends,connections, etc) then it'll be sub communicated through your behavior and she'll know where you stand.

 

[lebRambo]

Your social value is sub communicated. If you have a lot of social value (social skills, friends,connections, etc) then it'll be sub communicated through your behavior and she'll know where you stand.

Bullseye. You have to show that you are worth it through your actions and non-verbal physical and social cues.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I dont know what to think. I have yet to practise a special opener with girls for kicks --- "Excuse me, can I ask you a question? (smile-kino on shoulder if necessary) I'm trying to overcome my shyness and it's my goal to talk to five women today about what it takes for them to be attracted to a man. Do you prefer it when guys buy your attention with gifts and food, or do you prefer it when a guy teases you, makes fun, makes you laugh, and keeps you guessing what's coming next? "

Have yet to practise with this opener, but if anyone on here has enough balls to test it out, I think that it would help keep some people's guards down, after all, you are trying to overcome your shyness and are taking the initiave to make some approaches by making this disclosure within an approach -- you wont be coming across as a player or a shark that's out to get someone (which is why some people are guarded in the first place) - I mean you have to believe in the style of approach that you are making.

I thought it was a witty opener and I'm thinking of trying it sometime.

 

[Dr.Dude]

Luke, are you trying to sell our super secret techniques via openers to women?!

IMHO, I don't like to open with a question about relationships...

As for your shyness, have you tried letting your watch in your home and go ask "What time is it?" to the ladies? A small step for humanity, a huge one for every shy DJs.

Anyway, good luck.

Oh, for the actual topic, I wholefully agree with EFFORT there.

 

[KneghtRyder]

EFFORT

Fcckn genius man... i can't believe how smart some poeple are on this forum man...no wonder you get laid so many times ehehe

 

[KneghtRyder]

the importance of attitude and outlook on the situation . About being confident in yourself even though you get alot of rejections and 'assuming they are attracted to you'


the saying " its all how you look at it " couldn't be more true for a DJ.

Some days you look hot and sometimes you don't..outside of those decrepencies..

I am generally an unattractive guy..but yesterday the way I saw things was as an opportunity to win. As a result, I did so many sargin and almost got to success.
Today, I let the negative thoughts and outlooks overtake me and even though I still sarged, and I think it reflected in my sarging....

 

[STR8UP]

Social value is golden. Cultivate relationships with a few groups of the right friends and you will ALWAYS have a steady stream of women around you are already qualified to. Half the battle is already won.....