Girl's boyfriend threatening

[devilkingx2]

Why is that so? Everyone I know (including myself) used to think that they were so strong and could beat everyone up until they actually get into a gym and got strong. And everyone I know who started to do REAL martial arts/self defense felt the same way until they got skillful at it. Once they got good, THEN they start to have respect for people. Why is it like that?

because when you go to the gym you see how many other bigger and more badass people are out there and get humbled

 

[zekko]

Why is that so? Everyone I know (including myself) used to think that they were so strong and could beat everyone up until they actually get into a gym and got strong. And everyone I know who started to do REAL martial arts/self defense felt the same way until they got skillful at it. Once they got good, THEN they start to have respect for people. Why is it like that?

Also, when guys actually gain skills and build strength, they become less insecure, so they don't feel like they have to overcompensate by putting up a false front (in addition to what devilkingx2 said).

 

[btownbuck2012]

Let's say there's a situation with a certain girl where she gets into an argument with you, she pussies out and decides to tell her boyfriend you "offended her" and now this ******* turns to you, threatening you. How do you handle it?

Scary to think about how many guys have their lives ruined because women start drama like this. Let's say you and this dude get in a fight and you critically injury him or he does you. One of you goes to jail the other is dead over some c*nt starting drama. This happens at a grander scale too all the time. Guys get thrown in jail over false allegations (happened to me), get taken for everything they have in court, kill themselves, etc.

I don't know why as a society we consider women's word as bond. I really don't understand it but I've seen it with my own eyes, seen it happen to friends and family members and read about it happening to other guys online. Women are the equivalent of children in how they handle adversity and problems in life and cannot be taken lightly in their ability to ruin your life if you suddenly become a problem they don't want to deal with anymore. The smart man realizes this and avoids it. The sucker thinks he's got to have a line or response to all this and try to put women and the system in it's place. That's what they want. They want a reaction out of you. Just walk away from it man. You're overrmatched here in ways you can't even fathom.

Walking away doesn't mean you're a p*ssy either. Control what you can control man but do NOT f*ck with the feminist imperative beyond handling sh*t test and holding frame with quality women. Anything else and you could end up with serious, SERIOUS problems.

 

[Reykhel]

Meh, I used to, not so much anymore. I work online and I use social media here and there. I spend averagely 6-7 hours outside of the house, working, connecting, flirting, etc. That's an old pic.

Bull****e.

The majority of what you post is based around your online life. i.e. Facebook posts and interactions, newspaper articles that you've read online etc

You appear to be disingenuous with yourself.

 

[Desdinova]

She comments telling me "You post nothing positive, just negative things"

Quit posting negative things on Facebook.

I end up with a lot of people talking about my Facebook, and how I'm always posting things that make them laugh. People enjoy keeping me on their friends lists, even if they never interact with me. It gets to a point where people are TELLING others about my Facebook, and that they should send me a friend request just to see the things I post.

When things go bad in my life and I post about it, I automatically have a bunch of people willing to help me. It's almost like I have my own personal army of supporters.

I'll say it again... Keep your Facebook positive.

 

[Reykhel]

Why is that so? Everyone I know (including myself) used to think that they were so strong and could beat everyone up until they actually get into a gym and got strong. And everyone I know who started to do REAL martial arts/self defense felt the same way until they got skillful at it. Once they got good, THEN they start to have respect for people. Why is it like that?

"LEAVE YOUR SHOES AND EGO OUTSIDE"

Many reasons:
You start to develop real self respect. Only when you fully respect yourself.......
Your self esteem (happiness) levels rise. If someone is "rude" to you (rudeness is only a perception) in a store for example and you have all of your needs met (high self esteem) it will be water off a duck's back to you and you may even feel empathy for that person recognizing that they probably are feeling ****e about themselves or simply having a bad day. Contrast that to a "want to be tough guy" who might think or and say "hey I'll smash your fvcking head in for being rude to me"
You develop self-discipline and recognize it in your gym mates. You know the sacrifice you are making and your gym mates are making it too.

Martial Arts as Self development:
If you are partnered with someone who has less experience than you......you must know how to lead without being an overbearing douche. Not possible for everyone......

If you are partnered with someone who has more experience than you....you must know how to let them lead without being a ****y douche.

Both of these scenarios takes mental developing and breeds mutual respect.

If you spar, you'll learn that it's not all about the physical (more quick chess with muscles). You've got to learn to control your emotions and your ego. Otherwise you run the danger of falling into your opponents traps and becoming reactory.

If you practice a traditional martial art, you'll learn the traditional protocols......ie finishing the class with respect.

As you develop in skill and strength level you should realise two things:
1. What you're capable of
2. How much there still is left to learn

 

[lizardking82]

Bull****e.

The majority of what you post is based around your online life. i.e. Facebook posts and interactions, newspaper articles that you've read online etc

You appear to be disingenuous with yourself.

Well, I am not gonna try and convince you further. My posts are not mostly about online things, if you go through my posts, you will see I talk about real life situations a lot. I might use the internet more than you do, and that's cause we were raised differently and are 15 years apart, but I don't use it all day and I am not the nerd type of guy that you need to kick out of the house so that he gets some sunlight LOL if you don't believe that, it's OK anyways.

 

[lizardking82]

Quit posting negative things on Facebook.

I end up with a lot of people talking about my Facebook, and how I'm always posting things that make them laugh. People enjoy keeping me on their friends lists, even if they never interact with me. It gets to a point where people are TELLING others about my Facebook, and that they should send me a friend request just to see the things I post.

When things go bad in my life and I post about it, I automatically have a bunch of people willing to help me. It's almost like I have my own personal army of supporters.

I'll say it again... Keep your Facebook positive.

You are taking her words for granted. I rarely post something angry/negative on Facebook. I post songs, I post mostly pictures I take cause I am a photographer. I also post, sometimes, mocking/funny posts about phenomenons happening in my city and country to which most people laugh and I have had quite a few people tell me in comments "I think the same!" or "thank you for sharing your thoughts, you make my homepage one I enjoy scrolling through". There are some people who get "offended" because they practice some of the phenomenons I mock and they are the ones who are bitter and will make a comment war about it LOL but I am not a negative person and there are people telling others about my Facebook profile, too. So we're kind of the same in this one, I guess

 

[wifehunter]

Don't waste your time with crazy toxic people...

Just block and ignore them both....

Aka damage control

Check this book:

https://www.amazon.com/Million-Dollar-Habits-Getting-Everything/dp/1626363986

 

[wifehunter]

Martial arts can help you in many ways. It will give you more control over yourself, and also help you avoid conflicts by having a quiet, yet confident attitude.

The ARMY helped with this...I don't know how to fight, I only know how to kill.

 

[switch7]

"LEAVE YOUR SHOES AND EGO OUTSIDE"

Many reasons:
You start to develop real self respect. Only when you fully respect yourself.......
Your self esteem (happiness) levels rise. If someone is "rude" to you (rudeness is only a perception) in a store for example and you have all of your needs met (high self esteem) it will be water off a duck's back to you and you may even feel empathy for that person recognizing that they probably are feeling ****e about themselves or simply having a bad day. Contrast that to a "want to be tough guy" who might think or and say "hey I'll smash your fvcking head in for being rude to me"
You develop self-discipline and recognize it in your gym mates. You know the sacrifice you are making and your gym mates are making it too.

Martial Arts as Self development:
If you are partnered with someone who has less experience than you......you must know how to lead without being an overbearing douche. Not possible for everyone......

If you are partnered with someone who has more experience than you....you must know how to let them lead without being a ****y douche.

Both of these scenarios takes mental developing and breeds mutual respect.

If you spar, you'll learn that it's not all about the physical (more quick chess with muscles). You've got to learn to control your emotions and your ego. Otherwise you run the danger of falling into your opponents traps and becoming reactory.

If you practice a traditional martial art, you'll learn the traditional protocols......ie finishing the class with respect.

As you develop in skill and strength level you should realise two things:
1. What you're capable of
2. How much there still is left to learn

I'm kinda diverting the conversation here but, I really want to start doing bjj, but I'm worried the trade off is going to be cauliflower ears and screwed up skin on my face. I don't want to mess up my looks because although im starting to age I have a fairly good face for the ladies and want to try and keep it atleast until my 30's are over. Whats the chance of martial arts creating some facial disfigurement or weathering?

 

[lizardking82]

Scary to think about how many guys have their lives ruined because women start drama like this. Let's say you and this dude get in a fight and you critically injury him or he does you. One of you goes to jail the other is dead over some c*nt starting drama. This happens at a grander scale too all the time. Guys get thrown in jail over false allegations (happened to me), get taken for everything they have in court, kill themselves, etc.

I don't know why as a society we consider women's word as bond. I really don't understand it but I've seen it with my own eyes, seen it happen to friends and family members and read about it happening to other guys online. Women are the equivalent of children in how they handle adversity and problems in life and cannot be taken lightly in their ability to ruin your life if you suddenly become a problem they don't want to deal with anymore. The smart man realizes this and avoids it. The sucker thinks he's got to have a line or response to all this and try to put women and the system in it's place. That's what they want. They want a reaction out of you. Just walk away from it man. You're overrmatched here in ways you can't even fathom.

Walking away doesn't mean you're a p*ssy either. Control what you can control man but do NOT f*ck with the feminist imperative beyond handling sh*t test and holding frame with quality women. Anything else and you could end up with serious, SERIOUS problems.

This resonates with the way I think of this a lot. I do not want to be one of the guys that got stabbed or killed because some stupid **** decided to play victim.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Why is that so? Everyone I know (including myself) used to think that they were so strong and could beat everyone up until they actually get into a gym and got strong. And everyone I know who started to do REAL martial arts/self defense felt the same way until they got skillful at it. Once they got good, THEN they start to have respect for people. Why is it like that?

There's nothing wrong with working out a gym. It's just that strength and muscles have very little to do with fighting. There are a lot of fighters who are muscular and ripped, but their training is what elevates them to another level when compared to a guy off the street. They only need the muscles, because they are fighting opponents who also have a lifetime of training.

In order to advance in martial arts, the first thing you learn is to accept that there will always be someone better. I trained with a few guys who could beat up anyone in their small town and thus thought they were invincible. But then they show up to train with real fighters and get humbled. No one gets very far without giving up their ego. When you understand that skill isn't something you can judge just by looking at someone, it sinks in that it's not a good idea to fvck with random people. You never know who you're messing with.

 

[Reykhel]

I'm kinda diverting the conversation here but, I really want to start doing bjj, but I'm worried the trade off is going to be cauliflower ears and screwed up skin on my face. I don't want to mess up my looks because although im starting to age I have a fairly good face for the ladies and want to try and keep it atleast until my 30's are over. Whats the chance of martial arts creating some facial disfigurement or weathering?

The "conversation" is a non starter anyway. The kid's quite stubborn and hypocritical. Why? He'll fight and disagree with responses yet he goes to great lengths to "advise" other posters that they should listen to the advice given by the "crowd". Personal growth takes humility, being disingenuous and ignorant are devises of the ego.

To your question: The life benefits that you'll gain will greatly outweigh any of the concerns you have stated. It will literally change your life for the better.

Ok so let's look at a secondary benefit with regards to women:
1. A man that knows how to defend himself, and thus as an extension, in theory, her (it's what she feels)
2. You master something, thus contextually you are Alpha with regards to your martial art.....teach her
3. You're passionate about something (not just another nerd addicted to pizza, booze and video games)
4. Physically fit and flexible (not just showy muscles)

What are you waiting for.....

 

[lizardking82]

The "conversation" is a non starter anyway. The kid's quite stubborn and hypocritical. Why? He'll fight and disagree with responses yet he goes to great lengths to "advise" other posters that they should listen to the advice given by the "crowd". Personal growth takes humility, being disingenuous and ignorant are devises of the ego.

To your question: The life benefits that you'll gain will greatly outweigh any of the concerns you have stated. It will literally change your life for the better.

Ok so let's look at a secondary benefit with regards to women:
1. A man that knows how to defend himself, and thus as an extension, in theory, her (it's what she feels)
2. You master something, thus contextually you are Alpha with regards to your martial art.....teach her
3. You're passionate about something (not just another nerd addicted to pizza, booze and video games)
4. Physically fit and flexible (not just showy muscles)

What are you waiting for.....

You could be a little bit less attacking, you know? I have followed your advice in the cases where it seemed fit to follow. There is no need for this to turn into a personal war between me and you. I will not stand not you, but noone talking to me like my father. I heard this kind of **** from my father when I was younger "get off the internet". I did not come here to ask you whether I should use the internet more or less and that is nowhere near the problem being discussed here. When I do, advise me on that. You jump to attack some people here like your life depended on it LOL

Oh, and by the way, I am following the advice of the crowd in this case which is somewhere in the lines off "stay away from unnecessary trouble and stay away from toxic people". There are people here who know how to transmit a message without attacking anyone. In quite a few cases, you don't seem to be one of those people. When you advised me on my roommate in another thread, I followed it all and ate it all up because of the way you wrote it and how much sense it made. When you tell me "get off the internet, nerd" and I tell you I am not anything close to a nerd and I spend a good portion of my day out of the house and you call me ignorant for saying that... I mean, that;s just non-sense.

 

[Reykhel]

This boy ought to develop the intelligence to decipher the difference between when he's being spoken to and
when he's being spoken about....

When he's being spoken about someone ought to explain to him that it's none of his fvcking business....

Learn to hush. Look at the overall picture. He should know that I'm not that vain that I'm referring simply to my posts. It was
a general observation.

 

[lizardking82]

This boy ought to develop the intelligence to decipher the difference between when he's being spoken to and
when he's being spoken about....

When he's being spoken about someone ought to explain to him that it's none of his fvcking business....

Learn to hush. Look at the overall picture. He should know that I'm not that vain that I'm referring simply to my posts. It was
a general observation.

OK, tough guy. So you're speaking about me and I should "hush". Well, that explains a lot about you. Thank you for showing your true colors. You are going to join one of the ladies on my ignore list now for thinking your age alone gives you the right to call me "this boy" and strut around like you're always right. Bye tough guy.

 

[Reykhel]

OK, tough guy. So you're speaking about me and I should "hush". Well, that explains a lot about you. Thank you for showing your true colors. You are going to join one of the ladies on my ignore list now for thinking your age alone gives you the right to call me "this boy" and strut around like you're always right. Bye tough guy.

Yawn. Cry more, little beta boy.

What's interesting to note is that my little words are stirring up the hatred this boy has for his father. There's a term that's used for
it such as "emotional footprints". Basically it's an overreaction to something that's happening in the present which is reminding the person of a trauma that happened to them in the past. The unhealed trauma has been triggered.

They say the Father-Son relationship has become the most fractured of all relationships in is a huge contributing factor to male suicide (I'll link the study if I can find it later). As Robert Bly would say "we must follow the grief down. after grief there is healing"

Anyway, isn't it funny how these crybabies always send you a personal message to say "nah nah nah I'm putting you on ignore" and then run for the ignore button, so that their ego childishly has the "satisfaction" of believing they have got the last word in.

Let me tell you, if this kid didn't care so deeply and emotionally about my opinion (after all I remind him of DAD), he would have
just quietly hit the ignore button.

All of these wonderful insights I'm presenting to the young blighter, all opportunities for growth. It's thankless work, but we can't give up on the lost kids. I don't expect a thank you card.

Good night.