GIRLS, being UNDECISIVE!!!!!

[nextelman]

i've been with this girl for 2 months, and i thought everything was going well .. til she admitted recently she started to have feelings for her ex again. She is torn between the two of us.

She feels bad about having feelings for him and told me about it. but, now she expects me to be with her while she sorts out her feelings for the ex.

evidently, the ex is still emotionally scarred from the relationship, and she believes they don't stand a chance. but wants closure at least, and maybe a chance with him.

but at the same time, i'm threatening to take a break from her, or just break up. and she's trying to make me stay, cause she knows the ex is not a definite and she wants my companionship.

what should i doooo? i think the right choose should be to break up with her and want me back. say "we'll have a break, and if you do decide to have me back, i'll see if i want you back or not" HELPPPPPPPPPPPPP

 

[Hornet]

Yeah, dump her. What she's telling you about her ex is the tip of the iceberg.

 

[Mortukai]

her = monkey

you = branch

 

[Jaun_Don]

Originally posted by Mortukai
her = monkey

you = branch

:crackup: ...funny but sadly true.

 

[MicCheck1-2]

I think that you should do whatever it takes to make sure she doesn't go back to her ex. Have you confronted her ex yet? Make sure that you have a conversation before deciding if you want to end the relationship with your girlfriend.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by nextelman
i've been with this girl for 2 months, and i thought everything was going well .. til she admitted recently she started to have feelings for her ex again. She is torn between the two of us.

She feels bad about having feelings for him and told me about it. but, now she expects me to be with her while she sorts out her feelings for the ex.

evidently, the ex is still emotionally scarred from the relationship, and she believes they don't stand a chance. but wants closure at least, and maybe a chance with him.

but at the same time, i'm threatening to take a break from her, or just break up. and she's trying to make me stay, cause she knows the ex is not a definite and she wants my companionship.

what should i doooo? i think the right choose should be to break up with her and want me back. say "we'll have a break, and if you do decide to have me back, i'll see if i want you back or not" HELPPPPPPPPPPPPP

Bye.

 

[darth yoda]

Having her cake and eating it too, she is...

Originally posted by nextelman
i've been with this girl for 2 months, and i thought everything was going well .. til she admitted recently she started to have feelings for her ex again. She is torn between the two of us.

She feels bad about having feelings for him and told me about it. but, now she expects me to be with her while she sorts out her feelings for the ex.

evidently, the ex is still emotionally scarred from the relationship, and she believes they don't stand a chance. but wants closure at least, and maybe a chance with him.

but at the same time, i'm threatening to take a break from her, or just break up. and she's trying to make me stay, cause she knows the ex is not a definite and she wants my companionship.

what should i doooo? i think the right choose should be to break up with her and want me back. say "we'll have a break, and if you do decide to have me back, i'll see if i want you back or not" HELPPPPPPPPPPPPP

Know this, my young padawan...many times women don't know what they want, and they are waiting for a man to tell/show them.

In this situation, it seems as if she is either fresh off the rebound or you didn't shore the job up cleanly enough to make her see what a "catch" you are. She is testing her options and at this point is probably telling the ex about you making him jump through hoops to "get her back". She lies, my young apprentice...if she felt they didn't stand a chance, she wouldn't be exploring her "ex" as an option.

Leave this one, much confusion and manipulation do I sense in her.

 

[PimpNHard]

She feels bad about having feelings for him and told me about it. but, now she expects me to be with her while she sorts out her feelings for the ex.

OH MY GOD!

PLEASE!

NEXT!

 

[GrimPhallic]

Nextelman do you work for Nextel? Anyway, dump the b!tch, she is not someone who you want to be with any more. You my friend are an AFC. You just signed on this site, and you need to be single while you convert yourself to a DJ. Read the bible first thing - all of it dood. And go through bootcamp. She wouldnt have started her feelings for her ex back up if you were a DJ. She did because he was more of an alpha male than you are. So, like I said, dump her and ignore her, and read the DJ bible and complete bootcamp. You will be a whole new man I promise you. It will teach you how to live life the way a man should, and I promise you the next chick you get with will never want anything to do with her ex...

 

[GrimPhallic]

Oh and, if you dump her, I can almost garauntee that the girl will sweat your balls (if you do it right). I mean, just tell her its over, short and simple, and then ignore her. LOL watch how much she calls you over and over beggin you back. Then if you get back with her, and become a DJ as well, you shouldnt have any more problems with the girl. That will put her in her place... Only do all this if the girl is worth it though man.

 

[churchwin77]

yeah dude def. NEXT this girl my ex did the same thing over a month ago. I stayed with her another two weeks which was my first mistake and things just went downhill from there. Plus she was an attention b!tch and I had to see her everyday at work but after we broke up i just cut off all contact she didnt know how to respond to that since everyone else would give her attention. But everything is cool now at work I'll talk to her occasionally when i see her.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by nextelman
...and she's trying to make me stay, cause she knows the ex is not a definite and she wants my companionship.

in another words, you are her back up, if the things don't work out with the ex.??????????????????

 

[DrDope]

You're screwed, amigo.

Haul ass.

 

[Travis1962]

flip the situation - can you imagine telling your gf that your ex is back and you have mixed feelings but you want your ex to remain committed to you while you figure it out?

Politely dump her - tell her that she clearly needs space to figure things out on her own - then move on.

 

[nextelman]

yeah, that's exactly what i'm doing .. dumping her. i knew exactly what to do, just wanted to know what you experienced guys would do.

she's trying so hard to get me backk though .. calling me nonstop etc. trying to get me to kiss her etc. but, i know it's not gonna work.

from afc to dj here i come. although i feel like crap dumping her .. seeing her cry and all. she claims she loves her ex, and all girls will always love their first. my ass.

it hurts .. but i know i can get better better girls .. so i'm not upset. her lost.

 

[Luveno]

Listen to Darth Yoda,

once again, the nut who's talking in reverse english makes a wonderful point.

 

[nextelman]

haha, i dumped her .. but she's not getting the picture.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by nextelman
yeah, that's exactly what i'm doing .. dumping her. i knew exactly what to do, just wanted to know what you experienced guys would do.

she's trying so hard to get me backk though .. calling me nonstop etc. trying to get me to kiss her etc. but, i know it's not gonna work.

from afc to dj here i come. although i feel like crap dumping her .. seeing her cry and all. she claims she loves her ex, and all girls will always love their first. my ass.

it hurts .. but i know i can get better better girls .. so i'm not upset. her lost.

Good for you man. Just stick to your gun and keep thinking with the right head and you'll be okay. You definately don't need an attention wh*re like this in your life trying to draw you into her fantasy soap opera world of drama. Although she may claim that her decesion between you and her ex is "difficult" and "so painful" really it's just another story that she can tell to her g/f's to get them more interested/jeoluse of her in order to elevate her status in her clique. By not being a pawn you've saved yourself alot of trouble. Think about that when you're feeling bad about breaking up with her and I'm sure the pain will subside quickly.

 

[ahh69]

Originally posted by GrimPhallic
Oh and, if you dump her, I can almost garauntee that the girl will sweat your balls (if you do it right). I mean, just tell her its over, short and simple, and then ignore her. LOL watch how much she calls you over and over beggin you back. Then if you get back with her, and become a DJ as well, you shouldnt have any more problems with the girl. That will put her in her place... Only do all this if the girl is worth it though man.

Right on,

I'd go quiet, don't tell her whats going on, just keep her guessing how you're feeling and she'll be begging for you back within a week even before she gets a chance with the ex.

On the other hand, if she doesn't realise what a catch you are, then fark.. don't hang around waiting, thats for sure.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by nextelman
haha, i dumped her .. but she's not getting the picture.

You dumped her, took away her power and still have your dignity in tact. Respect to you!

Many guys have to go through a lot of heartache, get trampled on, deceived and humiliated before they get the balls to stand up for themselves. It's good to hear you haven't had to go down that road.

Just beware, when a woman can't get her own way through her sexuality, she'll revert to guilt trips. She'll cry, feed you sob stories and try to make you feel like the bad guy, but that's just a textbook manipulation trick.