girls asks too many annoying questions on 1st date

[racerX]

I went out on a date recently w/ a girl that i met on the internet. She asked me alot of odd questions over the phone, before our 1st date even. She asked me "what short term & long term goals do i have"? She also asked me about all my past relationships & how long i was w/ each one, what ethnicity they were & why we broke up. I kept trying to change the subject, but she didnt get the hint. She then proceeded to talk about all her relationships in depth. So annoying. I think she might be materialistic when she asked me about the goals that i had. I am usually asked those questions on a job interview, not a 1st date. I think first dates should be fun & to stay away from questions that are too personal. I dont think i will go out w/ this girl again. Are these questions too personal?

 

[Starman]

next time you encounter a girl like this..say "what is this a job interview? or am I on trial?

This chick sounds whacked..no they arent too personal..but there are stages of dating that you progress in when asking these questions..(i.e. getting to know yyou phases)

asking this stuff waaay to early makes her come across as "weeding" people out so she doesnt have to waste time getting to know them

NEXT

 

[seulaxplaya]

ive learned that all chicks on the net are either hideous or psycho. just speaking from experience. i asked myself this question. if they are so hott why are they looking for a man on the net instead of picking out the guys that hit on them? if shes so hott whats she doing online on a friday or saturday night? (know this cuz the emails have the times on them) and lastly there must something fishy about her if no guys in person are hitting on her or going out with her? yeah yeah i know alot of girls and guys are shy and resort to the net. i use to do it freshmen year of hs but screw that not anymore. ive learned that the best are out in the world. and when a chick is all asking u tons of questions like that. just next her. shes askin all those questions cuz shes insecure and needs reassurance before she gets with u.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

thoes questions are soo wack



" what kind of woman do you want "

if she thinks its not her then you'll just ruin the date


" what do you do "

this usually makes you powerfull or inferior

ahh theres others

i think , we ask these questions because we sometimes feel like were obligated to have a conversation and you have to get serious..

ive always wonderd how to get around these questions

i like the way in fight club where the guy was like " what do you do " and the other guy wa slike " why so you can pretend like you care"

hahaha silky

 

[toot86]

dam

Atleast you get asked questions.. I didint get asked barely anything on one date i went on!! And they told me to next..

 

[squirrels]

If it were me, I'd put a finger over her mouth and say, "No more questions. Relax." with a smile.

If she didn't loosen up a little after that...just finish the date out and NEXT her.

It's possible she's nervous...she may have been in some bad shtuff and thinks she has some magical quiz or game that'll weed out all the "bad guys." Assure her that she doesn't need to waste time with that gimmick with you...that she'll come to know you well enough in due time and she should just have fun in the meantime.

If she doesn't take the hint, find a woman who will.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

LOL, I was reading your post and immediately thought, "what the fuk were you on a job interview or a date" and then you mention it yourself. Funny shiznit!!! That broad is lame, she's CUT!!



PIMP

 

[WaterTiger]

Your goals? JEEEEZ! This b!tch is interviewing for a husband and not even being a little subtle! I ask question that might be considered wierd, but fun! And I can get lots of info from him. For example:

ME:What kind of pasta do you like?

Answer 1: You mean like Chef Boyardee?
I think:I can "WOW" this poor man with my wonderful Italian cooking!

Answer 2: Uh...what ever's on sale.
I think:He knows how to stay on a budget & isn't a "label" buyer

Answer 3:I prefer Barilla or D'ecco
I think:THIS MAN IS GAY....NEXT!!!

 

[racerX]

Yes, this date was a turn off. I should have mentioned that the girl was in her early 30's & i am in my late 30's. Single women in there 30's are always looking for a dude to support them financially in the near future & if they see any signs that the dude wont be able to support her, kiddies, vacations to Hawaii every year, new BMW, a new house in the suburbs w/ a swimming pool, new Prada shoes every week-then they arent interested. It seemed as if this girl wasnt interested in me, but my accomplishments, goals & how i challenge myself day to day. It was a weird & annoying date & she wasnt really that great looking. Just like that website www.nomarriage.com says, women get sick of working in there early 30's & want someone to support them & they try to find the best money earner they can get w/ there looks. Dating in my 20's was far more interesting & fun & i would like to date women in there 20's again, but at my age thats tough. I try to look & act young, but they just arent interested. It just seems nowadays that as a dude in your 30's, you have to have everything right in your life in order to date or keep a steady GF: stable, good paying career, big new house, ambitious, constantly striving to better yourself mentally, physically & professionally. I suppose it all comes down to: guys want the best looking girl they can get & girls want the best $$ making guy they can get. I done ok for myself. I have a condo & cool car, traveled quite a bit, a still have all my hair, im slim. But my job is sucky & i only make $35k a year & that part is a turn off to women. I dont tell them i make that little $$$, but they realize i make little $$$, after i tell them what i do for a living & my typical workday. Oh well, its all part of the game. Check out that website nomarriage.com, its very interesting.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by racerX
Yes, this date was a turn off.

Its obvious she was attempting to determine if you were LTR material. What happened when you asked her the same questions? Besides her going on about her past relationships what were her long term goals?

Out of curiosity, did you dislike how she was asking you the questions or just the questions themselves. I don't see the problem with the questions if they are asked appropriately.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by WaterTiger


ME:What kind of pasta do you like?

Answer 3:I prefer Barilla or D'ecco
I think:THIS MAN IS GAY....NEXT!!!

What exactly would you be doing on a date with a gay guy anyway?

He's obviously not gay. So you're either intimidated by his knowledge, or think he's a wimp because he can cook? Interesting.

 

[racerX]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Its obvious she was attempting to determine if you were LTR material. What happened when you asked her the same questions? Besides her going on about her past relationships what were her long term goals?

Out of curiosity, did you dislike how she was asking you the questions or just the questions themselves. I don't see the problem with the questions if they are asked appropriately.

She asked me the goal & relationship questions on the phone before we even met eachother. That should have been a clue & i shouldnt have went out on the date...The challenge questions she asked me on the date & they were asked just like an HR person would ask them on a job interview-direct & to the point. Maybe i am old fashioned, but i think a 1st date should be simple & fun.

 

[DJ_Dork]

There's actually NOTHING wrong with this. Have you seen personal ads? People putting out "My goal in life is to travel, I enjoy blah blah blah, like to raise kids" She shows interest in what you think about life.. however these questions are REALLY EARLY in the relationship. She's being slightly AFCish.. but try to be vague or change the subject and concentrate on having a good time and giving answers to her in the next proceeding dates...

 

[OddTech]

If she's in her 30s, then it's probably normal for her to act that way. She's looking for something LTR and rather impatient about it. She's weeding guys out early. It happens and I agree that it is a turn-off though. It looks too much like business.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by racerX
She asked me the goal & relationship questions on the phone before we even met eachother. That should have been a clue & i shouldnt have went out on the date...The challenge questions she asked me on the date & they were asked just like an HR person would ask them on a job interview-direct & to the point. Maybe i am old fashioned, but i think a 1st date should be simple & fun.

She is definitely a woman on a mission. Those types of questions asked over the phone was specifically for sorting issues to weed out guys who were looking for a one night stand.

For me any questions shot off as a list tells me the person is either uncomfortable or has an some agenda. I can work along with the former but the agenda is something I would pass on.

As having the first date be something simple and fun, that's all well and good as long as both people are having fun. Otherwise it is just a waste of time. Going through this exercise should give you some incite so that you can do your own telephone screening before moving onto the date.

 

[GirlCrazy]

Maybe i am old fashioned, but i think a 1st date should be simple & fun.

It should be simple and fun. She took control of the situation and you let her. I can't imagine how this chick would have many good first dates when she puts guys in the hot seat even before the first date. Maybe she's used to guys supplicating her. Somebody needs to burst her bubble.

I would have neg-hitted the hell out of her and backed off. Let her IL raise and forget about all that interview sh1t or let her IL go lower and use that crap on the next poor shmuck that comes along. Either way don't reward her with your valuable time by taking this interview seriously.

Her: How many relationships have you had, and how long did they last?

Me: I'm sorry but I don't kiss and tell. It says that on my resume. Didn't you read it?

Her: What are your long and short term goals?

Me: Before we get into that I have some questions about your benefits package. Assuming you hire me, how many times a week will I be getting sex? I will need to get that in writing of course.

Her: I'm serious. Tell me how much money you make.

Me: I don't really think you're in a position to ask that. I can recommend a few books on the art of negotiation and reschedule this interview for a later date, if you like. Thank you for your time, but I have 3 other interviews today.

 

[Player_Supreme]

In Sales they have what are called Qualifying Questions. She was qualifying you to become her next AFC symp. If you answered those questions then you were automatically put in the afc catagory. A true playa would of turned the tables on her game and reversed it. The more you remain a mystery the more control you will have over the relationship.

Ho: so what was your last relationship like
DJ: well I dated this chimp from the local zoo since bannanas were free, oh did I mention my love for bannanas? Why do you ask...what was your last boyfriend all about and why did you break up...


Oh yeah yeah...I know don't talk about past relationships on a first date...but you get the point. You could even go so far as to tell the ho "I'm sorry but I don't discuss my history on a first date...let's talk about you for a moment or something more positive"...like do you put out the first time or not....am I getting laid tonight....lol

 

[WaterTiger]

Oscar Wilde~

I just meant it as a joke! I'll have to work on my delivery and put a little silly smiley at the end of the sentence! Actually if he starts naming gourmet pastas I'd be thinking: "Hell! This guy can cook for me!"

 

[Gold Heart]

Wow, on the phone? That's crazy, she's definately not someone I'd like to know...