blackbelt2k said:
depends on how you ask... i usually offer mine, or tell them we should exchange numbers..
There's a mindset that giving her your number tends to putting the ball into her court and you end up playing the waiting game. I infrequently give out my number and seldom (if any) ask for her number, especially if we are just getting to know one another. Not asking seems to make them feel as if they are in control of how you contact them.
It's not a big deal to me since my goal is to see them again face to face and not just chatting on the phone. I tell them that we should meet at a certain place at a certain time and they agree, no phone number needed. However, there are times when they offer their number just because they are anxious themselves. When they do that it's a good indicator of their interest level.
I'm meeting up with a woman on Friday who gave me her number to call her before the date (talk about an AFC move), but she is extremely interested. I haven't called her yet and she doesn't have my number.
Am I playing a game with her? Nope, I don't have a reason to call her. By the time she gets home from work I'm out for the evening. There's not a need to be dependent on having a woman's number, if she's interested you'll be able to hook up using few spoken words if any.
