Girlfriend's off-hand comments about my height.

[rjc149]

Get busy lining up her replacement.

 

[HenBogan]

She seems to have no class...

Don't lower yourself but it's not acceptable... Do you want to live with this for the rest of your life...

 

[lamath]

When you have high self esteem you have a radar that can pick up disrespect 100% of the time. The thing that keeps you in the relationship is feeling you don’t deserve better.

The OP is not confused. He’s not an idiot. He’s in law school. If he is smart enough to be in law school, then he is smart enough to know what disrespect is. His problem is he doesn’t feel like he deserves better. He has low self esteem......which is one half of a relationship with a narcissist. Two sides of the same coin.

Feeling disrespected is very subjective and does not necessary mean being disrespected.

For some ppl its hard to see the difference, specially when lacking experience with the opposite sex.

Its the same with dealing with women emotional crap, it make you question yourself are they all like this or i got a crazy one.

 

[lamath]

When I was 14 I knew when girls were playing games with me. I knew how fake the kids were. Trying to fit in, making fun of each other, being superficial, etc. I knew how neurotic the world was. I felt it in my core. And I didn’t need any experience.

Everyone is born with an internal compass. North is love, south is fear. This compass is our emotional guidance system.

I knew when girls were trying to use me or acting manipulative way before I started dating. My core would always tell me. I didn’t have to logically discuss it with an online forum.

I knew that 90% of girls in my high school were attention wh0res. I didn’t need Sousuave to tell me and neither did I question myself.

If I knew all of this at puberty, I seriously doubt the OP, who is a grown a$$ man going to law school and living in a luxury apartment can’t tell the when a woman is disrespecting him.

You guys are giving him excuses.

Op situation is an obvious one.
However some situation are more greyish, and this is where experience and social/emotional inteligence is important.

But i see your point and i think that in the end we should follow our internal compass even if its not always objective.