Girlfriend weirds out after she goes with me to a party??

[jamescr73]

A little over 2 weeks ago I met a girl that is absolutely awesome. I am white and she is Asian, but we hit it off and things have been really good. We met through mutual friends as she told my friend that she likes tall white guys, and my friend said "i know the guy you need to meet". We met on a thursday, and had sex the following saturday, and 2 mondays later (7 days ago), we went official. She calls/texts me all the time, is very loyal and is just overall a great girl.
So last night a friend of mine was having a big party, and after we did the dinner/movie thing (triple date with 2 of her friends and their boyfriends), we went down to the party. She acted strange at the party and just sat there with her purse on her shoulder most of the night, and she told me that she just didnt know anyone (I only knew about 4 people too). So after a bit she went outside to smoke while i hung out with friends and had a few drinks, and once in a while i would go see what she was up to and give her some attention.
She talked to some guys there, pretty much every guy in the place took their turn hitting on her but to no avail. We were there for maybe 2 hours, and she wanted to leave so we left. She drove me home but on the ride told me she wanted to go home and sleep alone. (she usually texts me late at night and says she wants me to come over to sleep with her), so im wondering whats going on automatically. Well i was pretty drunk so I didnt think i could drive home from her house so she said she would stay at my place.
She just went straight to bed, with her clothes on and didnt do or say a thing in bed. It was pretty late and we were both tired but she hasnt ever acted like this. So we wake up 4 hours later when the sun is up, and she wants to be taken home. I drive her home and now im here typing this.

This girl was so hooked on me for the first 2 weeks. She wrote a blog about me on her myspace about how great i was and that she was very hopeful that things would work out. She told me she had a good feeling about us and that we would be great together and all that. So i think its cool and all, cause ive never dated a chick thats like her. What the hell could of happened in that 2 hours at the party that made her weird out?

 

[Jerry Maguire]

If nothing happened with any other guys then I'd say that she was just taking a mood with you because you went off and did your thing when she didn't know anyondy.
Probably something simple and childish like that.

 

[Maxfarsigth]

I agree with Maguire.
Maybe its just that she wasn't too comfortable cause she dint know anyone.
Maybe she was not in a good mood when you guys arrived or she wanted to spend more time with you at the party.
Im sure its something simple. Just wait till you see her again, everything will be just normal.

 

[skirtChaser]

maybe one of the guys hitting on her called her a "fish head"
that tends to make asian girls quite.

 

[Christopher Philip]

Could be mood or could be something else. Maybe she gets bored quickly with guys. Goes through a high phase then can't deal with the low phase of being secure with a relationship.

 

[DonJuan11]

An Asian girl to sleep with you that fast?

Impressive

 

[stylemaker]

An Asian girl to sleep with you that fast?

Impressive

What? Next day with maybe 15 minutes or less of interaction for me, not counting kissing time, sucking my neck.. ahh. She was about a 8.5. Easily the finest i've scored.


To OP: Being on look-out and looking for friends/enemies/new men and maybe avoid being seen comes off as strange. She may have told a guy she'd try to call later and he may have been the new man she saw. Communication is extremely pleasurable, second to sex for women. Its the way their brains are wired.

 

[Snow Plowman]

An Asian girl to sleep with you that fast?

Impressive

Wow your retarded


BACK ON TOPIC though

It could've been a test and she also could've disliked the fact that you weren't hanging with her. You are "OFFICAL" now. lol.

The thing that is funny about all this is how quick an exclusive relationship started. You barely even know the chick personality. You haven't seen the good, the bad, and the ugly.

You've only seen the honeymoond phase, where she is all fascinated.

One thing for sure if this keeps up for about a week or two of her being very bored and slightly disinterested it my be a sign that your not giving her the excitement she was loved before you were offical. Also for some reason I always find chicks act different when you get into the whole bf/gf frame. (Which is why I no longer do that BS)

 

[jamescr73]

I found out she is pissed about doing my own thing at the party and leaving her sitting on the couch. Im not the kind of guy thats going to hang on her hip all night. I asked her numerous times if she wanted to play beer pong with me, or if she wanted a drink, and never once did she want to do anything but sit and text her friend on her phone. I talked to her earlier today, and am meeting up with her tonight to talk. Ill report back later.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Bigger issue: You met her 2 weeks ago and she's already your gf = big trouble down the road for you






PIMP

 

[jamescr73]

we talked tonight. She told me she felt like she moved too fast into the relationship. I decided not to call her or text her sunday, and she was pissed about that. She told me she isnt the one to pursue, so if i wanted to make things work i would have to be the one to make it happen. She told me she likes to bottle stuff up and not talk, and I told her that communication is the most important thing in a relationship, and actually got her talking. We decided to slow stuff down a bit, but we are still together. We'll see what happens in the next week.

 

[jamescr73]

Update:

I havent seen her since monday. I havent talked to her since about 8pm thursday, until about 10:30 friday. Im about to walk into a club, and i get a text message saying "we need to talk". I sent her the same message last week when she almost broke up with me. I sent one back saying "yeah, i said that last week". And then i get 2 messages in a row, first one saying "and we did, now we need another one". 2nd one saying, "its over". I started laughing. I called her and she was out at a bar, I told her what club i was at. I ended up hanging up on her, cause i wasnt going to listen to her sht. about an hour later, she shows up at the club im at, with about 5 of her friends. I tried to approach her, but one of her friends grabbed her and pulled her away from me. another friend talked to me, and i told her straight up "i have no idea whats going on". She didnt know either, and told me to work it out with her later. I said "later doesnt exist".
Tonight at the club, i met the hottest brunette girl, and got her number in literally 90 seconds. It was brilliant. We danced a few times, and i got in a little kino.
What a great night. :rockon:

 

[Potbelly]

Dude...you're doing everything right. Don't let this stuck up attention wh0re waste your time. You have the right mindset...hell you fvcked her right? It's all good and done man. You got the goods, and threw out the trash.

GL with this brunette....damn lucky bastard.

 

[j0n024]

Yes good job man, during the whole texting it sounded like she was trying to become the dominant one right before she dumped you so she can be the BIGGER person if you know what I mean. Good job you should have flaunted the brunette in front of her maybe leave with her or kclosed her in the vincinty of where the other girl was so she can know that she isnt as good as she thinks she is, but then again that might be thinking about the other girl far too longer then what one should. Damn your a good dj and keep it up that was a nice turn around since she tried to destroy your ego with the whole "We need to talk" good job.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Damn, who knows what the fvck went wrong...

Besides that, atleast you not caring and still gaming other women! Unlike some guys who sit at home all night crying wondering why their girl left. I'd like to hear an update on this new girl your going for.

 

[stylemaker]

 

[jesusrules]

she probably was just really bored at that party. shes probably having mood swings that day. so dont take it personall im sure she still likes you man.

 

[muzicfreak2k3]

Yeah you're doin a great job man, esp with finding new options. She sounds like an unstable attention wh0re-ish type of girl, which will def affect your life in a negative way and you will want to stay far far away. I say NEXT her...

 

[jamescr73]

she probably was just really bored at that party. shes probably having mood swings that day. so dont take it personall im sure she still likes you man.

thats exactly what happened. She told me she has never been more uncomfortable in her life. Sure, whatever. she was so sprung for me the first couple of weeks, the sex was fukin awesome too. She literally couldnt get enough. Why else would she show up at the club im at, when there are 40 clubs in town? Im sure she still likes me, the problem is, I dont give in to shlt tests, I dont let girls control me, or manipulate me, and when they cant get their way they get frustrated and start bltch mode.

So tonight i went to the mall to get a new shirt for the club tonight, and on the way out (i was with my roommate), and 3 very attractive girls walked in, right as we hit the exit doors. I was watching them in the reflection in the glass, and my roommate said "damn that blonde is hot", I said "go talk to her" right then she turned and looked at us (saw her in the 2nd set of doors). Roommate says "i cant" and walks outside. i get about 6 feet outside and stop, and say "what do you have to lose?, you will probably never see them again", (dude cant talk to girls unless he has had a pitcher or two). I said "fine, watch this". I walk back inside and my roommate heads toward the car. I approached the girl he was interested in. Said "the guy i was walking out with a minute ago said you were hot, but didnt want to come talk to you, so will you girls come outside with me and tell him to quit being a pu$$y already". They thought it was funny and they came outside with me. We come around the corner, and hes standing there by my car, and is like holy shlt, cause its only about 45 seconds later. They said something to him about not being afraid to talk to girls, and I asked the girls what they were going to do tonight. They said they didnt know, so I told them what club i was going to, and they said they were planning on going to the same place. I said "which one of you is the leader of the bunch?" 2 of the girls say "she is", I say "ok give me your number, Ill text you in a minute to give you mine, and when you get down there call me and Ill get you in". We texted each other for a few hours before the club.

So to make a long story a little shorter than it is, I had a great night. The girls showed up. 2 of them are single, got both of their numbers, one going through a divorce (didnt get the # cause she had to go pick up a friend at another bar and didnt even see her leave, but she had the highest IL in me of all 3). My roommate was pissed at me, and didnt even go out to the club with me, what a chump. I could of made it happen with the blonde chick and him. And they are all coming to my birthday party next weekend.
God I love my life