Girlfriend takes forever to respond or ignores.

[Glassguy]

Yea... disrespect to a guy she doesn't respect

Ok, then tell him to dump the chick, but all this just go excersise and not care, and she'll come back is a bunch of bull

I never told him to dump her. I told him to move on. Closure isnt needed as that is old school thinking.

And with the right mindset of knowing there are more and better chicks around the corner, he shouldnt want her to come back at all after acting like this.

 

[17 shots]

Nah. I disagree.

You can "check" your woman if you do it from the beginning. Not when things are at the ending point.

Silence and uhhdistance (along with hitting up new prospects) is the only way to go. Any "checking" her at this point comes across as fake/unnatural and she will see right through it as him being all butthurt. S&D is the way to go and really gets the hamster spinning overdrive.

Also glass, sometimes a woman needs to see that your butthurt instead of always acting like nothing bothers you. Sometimes your indifference can be the very thing that loses a woman. It's not always a bad thing to make yourself vulnerable. U just have to have the right balance of it

 

[Glassguy]

Its just like true NC. Its not go get her coming back. Its to move on without the urge to continue communication, fall for the crumb trail she will leave and stay in limbo.

Silence and distance.

If she has a sudden change of heart, you have now put yourself in a position to either accept her back or keep moving on. In reality, you spin new plates, get your mojo back and you realize that you dont need her anymore when you peel the panties off a new one and realize how easy it is to get better attention from women who are disrespectful.

S&D always.

 

[Jay25]

I didn’t think it was that bad until this, she can be hot and cold yes. like we are still having sex and she’s saying thing like you’re so ****ing sexy and calling me her boyfriend just a few days ago.

But she always texts me she loves me, idk

Just yesterday she asked if I found a workout plan we could do together.

So kinda why I’m all confused, I am way too available though I answer her texts quickly sometimes even double text lately.

She’s also very submissive sexually as of yesterday, so idk, it’s just hot and cold too much for me.

She even said I haven’t been saying I love her as much lately which I haven’t because of this bs.

 

[Soflobro#3]

I didn’t think it was that bad until this, she can be hot and cold yes. like we are still having sex and she’s saying thing like you’re so ****ing sexy and calling me her boyfriend just a few days ago.

But she always texts me she loves me, idk

Just yesterday she asked if I found a workout plan we could do together.

So kinda why I’m all confused, I am way too available though I answer her texts quickly sometimes even double text lately.

She’s also very submissive sexually as of yesterday, so idk, it’s just hot and cold too much for me.

She even said I haven’t been saying I love her as much lately which I haven’t because of this bs.

Not good. Be advised mix singles are a sign of low interest.

She can have low interest and still try to be nice because she feels bad. I could be wrong.

 

[Billtx49]

I didn’t think it was that bad until this, she can be hot and cold yes. like we are still having sex and she’s saying thing like you’re so ****ing sexy and calling me her boyfriend just a few days ago.

But she always texts me she loves me, idk

Just yesterday she asked if I found a workout plan we could do together.

So kinda why I’m all confused, I am way too available though I answer her texts quickly sometimes even double text lately.

She’s also very submissive sexually as of yesterday, so idk, it’s just hot and cold too much for me.

She even said I haven’t been saying I love her as much lately which I haven’t because of this bs.

She can be doing and saying all that and still be fvcking another man…
Have personally seen it happen before.
Your first clue is her having you on a current lowered communication priority.

 

[Jay25]

You're confused from lack of experience. This has happened to me like 7 times

So you believe there is someone else in the picture?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You're confused from lack of experience. This has happened to me like 7 times

Your situations had a common culprit?

 

[resilient]

She can be doing and saying all that and still be fvcking another man…
Have personally seen it happen before.
Your first clue is her having you on a current lowered communication priority.

This.

 

[Jay25]

She just sent me a message asking if I was ok, my love.

Respond or?

This is after ignoring me all night, still possible I’m being played?

 

[Billtx49]

This is after ignoring me all night, still possible I’m being played?

If she ignored you all night her attention was likely on someone else.
Don’t respond. Pull away and see what she does while you’re busy living your life.
If you’re not her top communication priority, she’s not yours either…

 

[Jay25]

"She even said I haven’t been saying I love her as much lately which I haven’t because of this bs."

Biggest red flag in a relationship imo, projection.

I really haven’t that because of her actions.

Do I respond to her

 

[Jay25]

I once had a GF ignore me for a whole week and then accuse me of ignoring her lol.

Here's the thing.

They want you to chase them, yes, BUT they are incapable of playing that hard to get game without being around another guy. It is truly a zero-sum game.

If she didn't have the other guy, she would not have the fortitude to ignore you. Of course, knowing she has the other guy, you have absolutely zero reason to speak with her.

I am in a similar situation so I do understand, not technically exclusive but we said ILUs etc and then for the first time in months she starts ignoring me and likely fvxking around. It was painful(even though I hooked up with other girls) and I'm not sure what I'll do but be thankful for the clarity of the relationship status you have because cheating is an automatic next.

The only reason I believe she may not be cheating is because she told me she hadn’t had sex in years before me, and that she was,beginning to believe she might spend her life alone if she didn’t meet the right person

 

[Jay25]

That lie doesn't make this lie less unlikely

I feel like replying to her go jerk someone else around
But probably just act indifferent and say I’m busy like I’m not phased

 

[Soflobro#3]

So you believe there is someone else in the picture?

Maybe not don't get paranoid. He had it keep happening to him so he probably believes their is. However your privy to more information but you're also emotionally involved.

Be ready for anything

 

[djreez88]

Don't do anything. Just let her mind wonder. Trust me, when they do what you saying it's because her mind is elsewhere. Concentrate on yourself. That's the only thing that will fix the problem you are having now and in the future

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yes. They can't stand to be alone with their thoughts for 5 seconds, if they aren't talking to you it's someone else.


No lol

Not the same guy. But always a guy?

 

[Soflobro#3]

I feel like replying to her go jerk someone else around
But probably just act indifferent and say I’m busy like I’m not phased

Indifference is key

 

[devilkingx2]

If it were up to me I'd just tell her

"Hey, i dislike that you randomly disappear for hours without warning or reason, cut that out or I'll spend that missing time with other girls instead of you."

Then the ball is in her court, if she doesn't stop that she's cosigning you texting other girls while she's busy, if she makes time for you because if she won't be your girlfriend someone else will, that's good.

Don't accept any excuse unless it's absolutely verifiably true AND finite but not long term.

If it's something she can't prove or you can't look into that's not good enough

If It's gonna last for months or years then she can be your girlfriend months or years from now

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

If it's my GIRLFRIEND, then I call her out on it, and see what she says. If she says something I don't like in response, or doesn't change her ways, then I dump her ass. That's that

All that pulling back for attention stuff is for plates, when it's your woman you check her ass, and get to the bottom of it

Acquire younger hawter thinner is a better alternative. You can grow distance too or troll. I prefer trolling.