guitaronfire411
Senior Don Juan
Hey all.
Been a helluva long time. Been through ups and downs. The first year or so of our LTR relationship was awesome. We went places, she gave me regular sex, the usual pretty much. Even started getting regular blow-jobs.
Up until August 2011 of last year, where she was complaining more. I found out that she had been chilling with this older gentleman. She said they would watch movies but he was 'just a friend'. I trusted her like a fool until I came across e-mails of this dude lamenting that they were so close that they had everything in a relationship except the sexual side. She never told me about this, but when I brought it up she told me that she insisted she wasn't interested.
Yet, still, she would go over there and love having his company, not telling me that he was interested in more than being friends. So I found out that, after a fight, she went over there when she had told me she was chillin' with a family friend. She lied about smoking weed with him but told her mom. I only know that she smoked weed/lied about visiting him because she had also told a friend that she had lied to me. She claims she lied because I had chosen to move out of the apartment we were sharing due to her not being properly medicated at the time. I found out about the weed once she let me read her FB messages to her mother... all 8 months or so. She is really close with her mom but has told me things her parents don't even know about.
She insists nothing ever happened with the older guy that night. She slept on the couch, and she said he invited her to crawl onto his bed but she says she refused. Upon hearing that, I said I didn't want her to hang with this dude... he's trouble. She was still deleting her phone logs and doesn't have cookies enabled on her browser. She claims that she didn't want her phone clogged up but that's not going to slow-down a fast cell-phone...so it's got to be bull****. She did let me read all of her past Facebook messages. I found out periods where she said 'the relationship is going to end', 'he's boring', etc. while we were living together from August through to mid-January of this year.
She also has been diagnosed as having bipolar disorder but is now on meds. She also seems to sleep a helluva lot (sometimes 10 - 12 hours), but she has always been that way since I met her. I insist that she needs to get a doctor to check her thyroid but she won't do it.
She once said she was going to re-join my gym soon and she hasn't. I think that was b.s. looking at her actions. I bring it up and it seems like she knows it's b.s.
Anyways, long story short, the sex has been drying up in the last 2-3 months. We last had sex about a week ago and mid-sex she turns around and says she's 'no longer in the mood'. She hates her job and has a new room-mate, and is moving to a new job. So there's stress from that. She just dyed her hair red *for me* and then decided 4 days later that she wanted to dye it black. I have no idea what influenced her. I know she hates that older guy since she doesn't even want to talk to him anymore, once I explained that he won't ever want to be 'LJBFed'.
Yes, the slowing down of sex is crazy. We've been together for almost 3 years and she has a vibrator and uses it frequently. I barely get any sex but I don't whine about it to her. Think I lost my edge unfortunately in this relationship.
Time to move on?
Been a helluva long time. Been through ups and downs. The first year or so of our LTR relationship was awesome. We went places, she gave me regular sex, the usual pretty much. Even started getting regular blow-jobs.
Up until August 2011 of last year, where she was complaining more. I found out that she had been chilling with this older gentleman. She said they would watch movies but he was 'just a friend'. I trusted her like a fool until I came across e-mails of this dude lamenting that they were so close that they had everything in a relationship except the sexual side. She never told me about this, but when I brought it up she told me that she insisted she wasn't interested.
Yet, still, she would go over there and love having his company, not telling me that he was interested in more than being friends. So I found out that, after a fight, she went over there when she had told me she was chillin' with a family friend. She lied about smoking weed with him but told her mom. I only know that she smoked weed/lied about visiting him because she had also told a friend that she had lied to me. She claims she lied because I had chosen to move out of the apartment we were sharing due to her not being properly medicated at the time. I found out about the weed once she let me read her FB messages to her mother... all 8 months or so. She is really close with her mom but has told me things her parents don't even know about.
She insists nothing ever happened with the older guy that night. She slept on the couch, and she said he invited her to crawl onto his bed but she says she refused. Upon hearing that, I said I didn't want her to hang with this dude... he's trouble. She was still deleting her phone logs and doesn't have cookies enabled on her browser. She claims that she didn't want her phone clogged up but that's not going to slow-down a fast cell-phone...so it's got to be bull****. She did let me read all of her past Facebook messages. I found out periods where she said 'the relationship is going to end', 'he's boring', etc. while we were living together from August through to mid-January of this year.
She also has been diagnosed as having bipolar disorder but is now on meds. She also seems to sleep a helluva lot (sometimes 10 - 12 hours), but she has always been that way since I met her. I insist that she needs to get a doctor to check her thyroid but she won't do it.
She once said she was going to re-join my gym soon and she hasn't. I think that was b.s. looking at her actions. I bring it up and it seems like she knows it's b.s.
Anyways, long story short, the sex has been drying up in the last 2-3 months. We last had sex about a week ago and mid-sex she turns around and says she's 'no longer in the mood'. She hates her job and has a new room-mate, and is moving to a new job. So there's stress from that. She just dyed her hair red *for me* and then decided 4 days later that she wanted to dye it black. I have no idea what influenced her. I know she hates that older guy since she doesn't even want to talk to him anymore, once I explained that he won't ever want to be 'LJBFed'.
Yes, the slowing down of sex is crazy. We've been together for almost 3 years and she has a vibrator and uses it frequently. I barely get any sex but I don't whine about it to her. Think I lost my edge unfortunately in this relationship.
Time to move on?
