Girlfriend say's shes NEVER Orgasmed.

[hellfire105]

I have this girl whom I have been seeing for about 3 weeks now. She tells me that while she has the sex drive of a nympho she has never had an orgasm. We have not had sex yet simply because she isn't comfortable enough yet to do it, which I am fine with, however she tells me that her last boyfriend and her were having sex for 6 months out of the 2 yrs they went out...and she still has never had an orgasm in her life, masturbation, sex with men or women...never. She has told me shes pretty much sure nobody will ever give her one. This is a confindence tester.

I'm fresh into college and I am a virgin. Despite this I am a quick learner and I know enough about the process that things would go smoothly but I was wondering if any of you guys had any advice I could utilize so that when the time comes that she is comfortable I can burn her down and send her packing. ^^

BTW, we made a dinner bet that I could give her an orgasm inside a month from the first time we have sex. Personally, If I can't give her an orgasm in a month...seeing as shes talking about having sex every 30 minutes some nights........I think that would insult my manhood. I mean were talking something like 90 sex sessions where I would continually fail to give her an orgasm...seems hard to believe.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

As a virgin, you need to jump in first.

Since you guys talk so much about sex (which I'm confused by since you're a virgin and you two haven't even had sex together...combined with the fact she doesn't even orgasm!!!...not sure what you two could possibly talk about!!), she should know you're a virgin.

PLAN OF ATTACK:

1. Stop "talking" about sex and start being aggressive with her. You two COULD be having sex by now, believe me. If I was with her, I'd be banging the sh*t out of her by now. She's a nympho, and obviously desires it. Rather than talking (talk is cheap!), get her alone, watch a movie, cuddle a little bit, start caressing her, massage her all over (tits, hips, shoulders, neck), and start kissing her. Start moving your hands down to her crotch area and begin simulataneously arousing her while making out with her and feeling her.

Seriously, don't talk. Do. It's hard because you're a virgin, but you need to JUST DO IT.

2. Have sex. Don't worry about her too much. Just have some sex. You might bust quick. That's okay. Let her know it's your first time. SOME TIPS:

-Try as much as possible not to become SO EXCITED that you spooge ultra-speed.
-EAT HER OUT. Focus on the ****oris, and focus on CONTINUOUS, REPETITIVE, STEADY, SOFT touches with your tongue. You can also finger her WHILE stimulating her **** with your tongue. Find her G-Spot with your middle finger and stimulate it. Tease her a little bit by going back and forth BUT NOT IF SHE'S ABOUT TO ORGASM!! LISTEN TO HER. If she's moaning as you're licking her, KEEP DOING IT. BUT DON"T GO HAYWIRE. Keep that steady RHYTHM.
-Alternate between pounding and eating her out. This will make you last longer and will also totally amplify her pleasure.
-Women want to be taken. Look deep in her eyes as you're f*cking the sh*t out of her. Mental aspects are the most important to females when it comes to orgasms. Feel her all over. Put your hands on her breasts and massage them AS YOU'RE f*cking her. Kiss her. Even talk to her a little bit. HAVE PASSION.
-A favorite of mine is when she's in doggy-style, flip her legs suddenly onto your shoulders into the wheelbarrow and start eating her out from here. She won't expect it but will be pleasantly surprised!!

3. Start READING and STUDYING female anatomy/orgasms. A great book is "how to make love to a woman."

In order to orgasm, a female needs to feel TOTALLY COMFORTABLE with you. It's not just about technique...it's about BEING COMFORTABLE and totally being able to RELEASE THEMSELVES.

Making bets that you can make her orgasm in a month are silly. First off, you're a virgin. You have A LOT TO LEARN. Secondly, she may NOT BE ABLE to orgasm even if you WERE good. A lot depends on the female also.

Don't make unrealistic claims like this to her. You're only going to make it harder for me when it's my turn with her!!

What you need to focus on right now is being suave, being sensual, and making her feel comfortable. Step by step. No reason to rush here.

This is NOT a confidence tester. What is a confidence tester is whether you constantly try to improve what you can. Whether she orgasms does not determine your value as a man. Again, a lot depends on her.

Here's a story for you. I'm 19, my gf is 21. We started going out in Nov. last year and she was a virgin. I took it in February. She orgasmed in JULY. That's nearly FIVE MONTHS!!

It took several months until I could bring her to the point of comfortability with me and security that she could release herself. And I wasn't too bad of a partner when I started with her.

Point is it will take time.

 

[typical]

Jesus christ 5 months OMG my current lab buddy who I hooked up with is in the same boat, highly religious family, never kissed a guy or had a boyfriend (till I showed up LOL), and on top of that never orgasmed. Great I gotta wait ages till she screems in pleasure so sad

 

[TheSplat]

Workerouter has a lot of good pointers, but also, when you do have sex with her, let her get on top. That way she can control everything and should eventually ***. I had a girl like that awhile back. I was the 4th guy she'd slept with and she had never came. Well, she never came until I came along. Just let her ride you for a while then fvck the piss out of her.

 

[Driven2Succeed]

hellfire,

thats a lot of pressure on u man.. i personally wouldn't have made that bet. especially if i was a virgin. hopefully she doesn't know ur a virgin..

what i suggest in the future is not bragging or talking about stuff like that so early in..

good luck man

 

[Hitman10000]

To be honest, it's not a man's problem if a woman never got her orgasm. If she wanted it so bad.. and wanted to have one with you, she'd directly communicate with you on how she likes it and stuff. Since women are poor communicators, you can possibly guide your way into finding out what she likes by asking, but again to be honest - Most of us men have to go through hell to get some vagina, why should we honestly care so much about pleasing them when they don't seem to communicate that properly in the first place?

 

[pressure0354]

To be honest, it's not a man's problem if a woman never got her orgasm. If she wanted it so bad.. and wanted to have one with you, she'd directly communicate with you on how she likes it and stuff. Since women are poor communicators, you can possibly guide your way into finding out what she likes by asking, but again to be honest - Most of us men have to go through hell to get some vagina, why should we honestly care so much about pleasing them when they don't seem to communicate that properly in the first place?

I love hitman.

Agreed, my girlfriend was the same way. Never masturbated, never told me anything. basically said ive never had an orgasm here is my body. its not your job. I can give myself an orgasm in 2 minutes so its not my problem. Just try to have her communicate and try new stuff. ITS HER JOB TO LET GO AND HAVE AN ORGASM AND EXPERIEMENT WITH HER OWN BODY!

 

[wayword]

Uh, if she can't even get HERSELF off masturbating, what the hell makes you think YOU can? And on top of that, you're a VIRGIN? Gimme a break dude, get real.

Until she figures out how to get off on her own at least, you basically stand slim to no chance of doing it FOR her.

And making a bet is only going to increase performance anxiety and reuce relaxation...further worsening matters...DOH! :crackup:

 

[vorbis]

anyone else read this as girlfriend say's shes never organised.

 

[Nighthawk]

I bet she's not counting Mr Pillow. Believe her if you like, but note how she has framed the potential sexual relationship - it's a challenge for YOU to please HER.

 

[mrRuckus]

Wtf you're not a cure for her sexual dysfunction.

"oh i'm not comfortable enough." Too bad.

 

[Tau]

A few things:

First, there's no law that says you have to give this girl her first orgasm. I know it can seem like this big challenge to your manhood, but you don't have to go for it. Don't make it such a quest that you suck all the fun out of sex. You can still have a good time going at it without anyone cumming.

You're not 100% responsible for her orgasm. The girl is at *least* 51% responsible. It's her body after all. She's the one who knows what she's feelong, what she likes, what she needs to climax, etc. You don't know all these things. You can be stimulating her but she has to do her part too and position her body, etc etc.

If she's never orgasmed then she may have issues with inhibition, inexperience, not knowing what she likes etc. Again, these are things aren't under your control.

All in all, if you're going to do it with her you have to be patient. My current gf had never had an orgasm before. I didn't make a big thing of it and we had sex for about four months before she came (she can climax through regular sex). Over time you slowly refine little things like variations in position etc etc etc and one day it will all come together. Or mayhe she can't come from intercourse and you need to practice your oral technique, slowly honing it to what she likes. But again, if she doesn't pull her weight then she can't blame anyone if she doesn't orgasm.

 

[Tazman]

"She has told me shes pretty much sure nobody will ever give her one.

Don't make this YOUR problem. Don't make it YOUR mission to give her one either. In fact, if she brings it up again you should say something like "damn, that's too bad, glad I don't have that problem", in a joking and/or half serious way. In my opinion, it's a power move on her part to gain the upper hand, whether or not it's true, you have to enjoy yourself and not take the burden of someone else's issue. Women use "sex" in many ways to gain the edge in relationships, this is no exception.

BTW, we made a dinner bet that I could give her an orgasm inside a month from the first time we have sex.

lol, a bet? I wonder what the odds are for you since this "bet" is totally dependant on her "honesty".

 

[SoCalMike]

dude, you NEVER say things like "i'll make you cvm" with a new girl. it's like saying "ok, i'm going to make you laugh real hard in the next 5 seconds, ok here we go..."

generally speaking, with a girl you have not banged yet, you NEVER talk about wanting sex, how you're gonna do this or that, etc. you up her desire subtly through actions, not words. there's a reason it's called 'SEDUCTION' my friend.

now if you've been together and banging for months or years, and you've found your groove where she cums like crazy... that's different, it might be ok (depending on the girl) at that point to say "honey i'm going to come home tonight and fvck you till you don't know up from down and make you cvm 15 times"

all the other advice has been dead on too: let her ride you, that's the way many women get off. and while she's riding you, there is no need to do much work. just let her do what feels good to her, and pound her when she gets tired.

i also highly recommend going down on her... i have never met a woman who does not love that. go down on her for a while before you fvck... if you do it good she'll probably cvm just from that alone. or she'll get so horny she'll be close to cvmming by the time you fvck

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Ya let your actions speak for themselves. At this point they might not speak very much and that's okay!!!

Like the other poster said, unless you can CONSISTENTLY bring a girl to orgasm can you start making claims like you're going to f*Ck her till she cums!