Girlfriend says she can't make me happy and needs a break

[CalmingJay]

Before I begin, let me just say thank you to all of you as this forum has opened my eyes and enabled me to swallow the red pill. It was a very difficult pill to swallow, but I have just just recently gotten over the depression stage and understand that this is how it actually works and I'm ready to play the game. So now I'm trying my best to apply this mindset to ALL of my interactions with females.

So here's the deal. I'm in an open relationship with this girl who, a few days ago, complained to me that nothing she says or does seems to make me happy. She decided to take a break from me. (She didn't say how long of a break she was going to take.) Now, I will admit that I was at fault here this time for stressing her out. I have not attempted to contact her or text her at all and have been doing my own thing and also trying to spin more plates.

My question to all of you is, how do I handle this when she comes back so that she enters my frame and I don't enter hers? Or should I just break it off completely? Her birthday is coming up in less than a month, so I know she'll try to talk to me before then since we were planning to spend it together, but if she is gone for a long time, I kind of expect her to come back and say that she wants to end the relationship. Since it really was my fault, I will wait, but only up until her birthday. If she says she wants to end it, I'll simply say goodbye and will cease all contact and move on. However...

What if she wants to try it again? And starts asking me if I missed her while she was gone and stuff? How should I play this? I don't want to come off as needy, but since it really was my fault, I don't want to come off as a complete ass either. I hope I have explained this in enough detail.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Try Again With Somebody Else

Dude, you're the epitomy of the "beta male f...," that we constantly rail against on here.

 

[CalmingJay]

Wow. Just let her go then? Seriously, tell me where I went wrong.

 

[RagingBalls]

Just be cool about all of it man. Stop worrying and leave them worrying to women, that's their job aside making sandwich. You're job is to be the biggest shlt in town. Let go and don't give a fvckin damn if she goes back to you. She's tryna fvck with your mind.

Give her a mindfvck and dvmp her. That's a nuke for her crap.

Women are replaceable. You can have one in a minute.

Be like a fvckin pimp boss man. Be the shyt. be a badazz m0fo shlt.

Make us proud


Remember, women like to get fvcked. Their pvssies crave your fvcking c0ck. They're so fvcking nasty perverts they'll svck ur c0ck clean and nice. A good bltchslap is rewarded to them nasty girls.

 

[EJay]

Break it off completely I'd think. Exes are exes for a reason. If you feel personal responsibility then at least for your own good conscience be honest about it and tell her you're sorry. Say it and leave it at that, then next her.
Sorry man, those things suck

 

[GotED?]

You see one tree but miss the forest.

Spin some plates, date other women, and she may come begging later. If not, it was never meant to be.

 

[old_skoolr]

First thing you said was open relationship. Which means you 2 are not exclusive. Which means, who cares what and how shes thinking. You can go out and do whatever the f.uck you want and not worry bout her. Let her get over whatever shes pissed and come back, and if not then at least you can go back to partying.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Dumper her - That will nuke the pvssy from orbit and you'll be in control. Other than that - you've already lost the frame by putting up w this sh*t. Remember, YOU are the prize - start acting like it.

 

[Cremasta]

What if she wants to try it again? And starts asking me if I missed her while she was gone and stuff? How should I play this? I don't want to come off as needy, but since it really was my fault, I don't want to come off as a complete ass either. I hope I have explained this in enough detail.

After having been with girls whose only response to problems was to 'take a break' I've just got no time for that crap anymore.

If she doesn't come back to you, then great, problem solved!
If she does come back, tell her "No, I need more time to think about things, we should talk again around <name a date one week AFTER her birthday>"

She had her chance to walk. If she wants to come back, make her come back on your terms not hers.
In the meantime, get out there, get busy and upgrade!

 

[Alvafe]

i'm the only one who would say after she never can make me right and ask for a time, "yeah you are right, better we just break up now"?

calmingjay what you should do is find another woman, that is all

 

[Maximus Rex]

Rex Says

Wow. Just let her go then? Seriously, tell me where I went wrong.

So here's the deal. I'm in an open relationship with this girl who, a few days ago, complained to me that nothing she says or does seems to make me happy.

Exactly what did you want her to do fulfill your happy or was she projecting her issues on to you?

Now, I will admit that I was at fault here this time for stressing her out.

You know that isn't sexy and it's hella beta right. As the man in the relationship, (whether it's platonic, romantic, or in your case bed buddy,) you're suppose to be her rock and her foundation. When she sees you, your suppose to be like Calgon dish washing liquid and "Take her away." When she thinks of you, she's suppose to associate you with anything that's right in her life. You're suppose to be analogous to positive emotions and good feelings. You're suppose to provide her with an momentary escape from this thing called reality. Now that's not to say, you're suppose to be her quasi-pyschotherapist or her manpon. You let her vent for minute, cut the negative energy short, then do something fun.

By using her as a vehicle to your frustrations, you became nothing more than another unnecessary burden in her life. Instead of being happy to see you and basking in the goal of your presence, baby girl is like, "Damn now here he comes with that nonsense." Instead of enjoying your company, you've become merely tolerated.

The only person you should be venting to is your wife of fifteen years or more, even then it needs to be in limited amounts. If you're in need of a kind female ear, then speak to your mother, your granny, your auntie, your sister, a female cousin, or at a last resort a female friend that you have "ZERO," interest in. If you're really trippin' off of something, then seek professional help.

My question to all of you is, how do I handle this when she comes back so that she enters my frame and I don't enter hers? Or should I just break it off completely?

1) How does it benefit you to deal with this chick?

2) What do you hope to gain by her re-entering your frame?

3) What's going to be different this time as opposed to the next time out?

4) Do you want an exclusive relationship?

Or should I just break it off completely? Her birthday is coming up in less than a month, so I know she'll try to talk to me before then since we were planning to spend it together, but if she is gone for a long time, I kind of expect her to come back and say that she wants to end the relationship.

:crackup: What's up with these ultimatums? You're making it sound like the U.S. when we're dealing with a rogue nation that won't let us inspect their nuclear facilities that are supposedly on for energy use. "If you won't let U.N. inspectors into your facilities by "x" date, you'll be in violation of U.N. Resolution 109,345,287 and you'll leave us with no choice but to react militarily to end this possible nuclear threat.

Jay, you have a life, live it. You claim to have had an "open relationship," with ole girl, but the impression you're giving ole Rex is that "openness" was more on her end then yours. Utilize your other options, and if you don't have any, go get some. If she wants you, she'll come and see about you.

I'm in an open relationship with this girl

And this my boy is where you erred. First things first, there's no such thing as an "open relationship." Male/female relationships fall into one of the three following categories,

1) Platonic

2) Bed Buddy

3) Romantic (which includes marriage,)

This chick was nothing more than your bed buddy. If this were pitching rotation in baseball, she'd be your ace, (number one starter,) What happen was you got sprung on the way she'd contract her vaginal muscles on your phallus and the way she willingly and gleefully took those loads of semen to her face and you're using that as a foundation upon which your "relationship," was built. This girl was never your girlfriend, because if she was, you would have made an effort to make her so. The thing is you're weren't confident enough in your game to tell her that you enjoyed her company, but you weren't to an exclusive relationship, however you wanted a definite supply of sex, so you compromised and decided up this faulty arrangement. Since you're missing the fellatio and the coitus, now you're feeling some kinda way about it.

What if she wants to try it again?

Try what again? Being bed buddies? Sure, why not? However she needs to accept and understand that you're not exclusive and not only will you be dating other women, you'll be trying to get to know them carnally also.

And starts asking me if I missed her while she was gone and stuff?

Tell her that you missed the way she would ever so slightly graze your head when she was giving you fellatio? Or the way she worked her hips when you had her in missionary? Tell her you missed the clapping sound her skin would make against yours when you had her bent over in doggystyle or when she was in an extreme state of arousal, she would get dominate and overly aggressive and claim your phallus as her own.

Tell her you miss her glazed ham, her mac and cheese, the money she used to give you, and when she used to let you borrow her car. Tell her you missed any and everything about her except anything that could be cast in a romantic or sentimental light.

I don't want to come off as needy, but since it really was my fault.

Was it REALLY all your fault?

She decided to take a break from me.

Rex doesn't understand how she could take a "break from you when you were never in a relationship with her. Dude, this is a power play and she's trying to either gain or maintain control of this "relationship."
With that being said, your give her her "break," except on your end, it's on a permanent basis.

 

[Maximus Rex]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212178

How you start with a b*tch, is how you end with a b*tch.-Old Pimpin' Proverb

"I think we should take a break." She's so laden with remorse, melancholy, and sincerity when she says it. Things have become too much for her of late. She's busy with school, she's having problems with at work, things aren't going right at home, or more then likely your "relationship," has been less than ideal. So in an attempt to free you from these "unnecessary,," burdens, she wants to release you from the relationship, irregardless of the fact, that part of being in a relationship is dealing with the touch times.

True of the matter is, dude if a chick (with the exception of the relationship being on the rocks,) ever cites one of the reasons that I just gave for wanting to "take a break," she's lying and is not only disrespecting your relationship, but also you.

Let's translate the statement, "Lets take a break,," from the wom*nese. What the chick is actually saying is the following, "For the longest time, I had a feeling that you had some emasculating tendencies. I mean, you were a little too clingy and you were all too willing to please. You would never tell me "No," on top of the fact that you never checked me. Sometimes, I would purposely do things to see if you'd get mad or at least make an attempt to correct my rude behavior.

So what I'm purposing is that we break up. I'm going to get out there, date, suck, get to know some new dudes carnally and see if I can do a little bit better than what I'm doing now; however, we can STILL BE FRIENDS, WHEN NOBODY ELSE WANTS TO TAKE ME OUT HANG OUT, (ON YOUR DIME OF COURSE,) and I might even give you some every now and then. If I don't find anybody else, I MIGHT consider resuming engaging in carnal lust with you again."

For a woman even to approach you about some nonsense like this, she pretty much feels that you are an omega male and would go for it. She feels this way because of you constantly failing her tests of excremental fortitude. So Rex's advice is this, if your girl approaches you about going on a "break," agree to it, only make it permanent on your part.

 

[EJay]

Dumper her - That will nuke the pvssy from orbit and you'll be in control. Other than that - you've already lost the frame by putting up w this sh*t. Remember, YOU are the prize - start acting like it.

QFT

 

[abe0]

Too much unwanted info here....as soon is she said " I need a break".....I tell her take all the time you want and I would move on to another plate. Need a break my a*s.....It is time to do a preemptive strike on her....Abe

 

[member162951]

Wow. Just let her go then? Seriously, tell me where I went wrong.

Why don't you tell us where you went wrong? Since you admitted it was your fault.

We need more context. Were you constantly finding fault with her, criticizing her?

Your girlfriend's comment that nothing she says or does seems to make you happy didn't come out of nowhere.

A female coworker used to date a man like that, constantly criticizing, etc. It really brought her down and she broke up with him because of it.

Own your role man and if you really like/love this girl, apologize for being a shyt and try to work it out.

It's not always about the woman being batshyt crazy.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You are in open relationship, which is basically for all intents and purposes a FWB relationship with a fancy name...she probably has found someone who values her more than you do.

 

[Scars]

Translation: You don't make HER happy and she found someone else who does.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Dudes, this thread is 9 years old...

 

[Learning Curve]

Before I begin, let me just say thank you to all of you as this forum has opened my eyes and enabled me to swallow the red pill. It was a very difficult pill to swallow, but I have just just recently gotten over the depression stage and understand that this is how it actually works and I'm ready to play the game. So now I'm trying my best to apply this mindset to ALL of my interactions with females.

So here's the deal. I'm in an open relationship with this girl who, a few days ago, complained to me that nothing she says or does seems to make me happy. She decided to take a break from me. (She didn't say how long of a break she was going to take.) Now, I will admit that I was at fault here this time for stressing her out. I have not attempted to contact her or text her at all and have been doing my own thing and also trying to spin more plates.

My question to all of you is, how do I handle this when she comes back so that she enters my frame and I don't enter hers? Or should I just break it off completely? Her birthday is coming up in less than a month, so I know she'll try to talk to me before then since we were planning to spend it together, but if she is gone for a long time, I kind of expect her to come back and say that she wants to end the relationship. Since it really was my fault, I will wait, but only up until her birthday. If she says she wants to end it, I'll simply say goodbye and will cease all contact and move on. However...

What if she wants to try it again? And starts asking me if I missed her while she was gone and stuff? How should I play this? I don't want to come off as needy, but since it really was my fault, I don't want to come off as a complete ass either. I hope I have explained this in enough detail.

This is not an open relationship, because you developed feelings for a woman that you don't take seriously.

You never text her, and you spin plates what do you expect?

Most women want exclusivity after a while, this is normal they get attached.

Even if a woman agrees to an open relationship this is not permanent is temporary.

Now in your case there is nothing you can do. If a woman asks for a break you give it to her permanently. You never chase in this kind of situations

Text her after a week, to schedule a date that's all. No replies after a week means you never contact her again.

 

[Gamisch]

Dudes, this thread is 9 years old...

Well that's the funniest thing!

This is as old as the dawn of time!! Might ad well have a post by the one and only Julias Ceasar saying:, "dear forum ,that Cleopatra bytch says she "just wants to be friends". What does that mean?"