Girlfriend said she wants to "talk about us"

[HeadLightsOn]

Yup and make sure she finds out you fvcked another woman during that time.

Id rather be outcome independent and just get on with my life, if I was OP. That way her drama doesn't even come into your life, your frame is solid and - well - you can just do what you want to do.

That in itself is quite a powerful place to be.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

If you go NC before you dump her, then you look like you are too scared to have a difficult conversation with her.

^^ I agree with this actually. A very brief non butt hurt text THEN go NC. Best of both worlds.

 

[Desdinova]

My strategy is to head her off at the pass. If she wants to end it, then I want it done right fvcking now. I don't like wasting my time trying to set up a meeting to get dumped.

When I get that "I want to talk about us" 5hit, I straight out ask, "Are you done with me?" If I get a resounding "No! Not at all!", then I commence with setting up a meeting. If I get some other bull5hit like, "well, I want to talk about things blah blah blah" then I know she's done and say "Ok, let's just end it right now then."

Take charge when you think you might be getting dumped. Women like to drag out the ending of relationships and feel like it's their duty to have a face-to-face breakup. Why face-to-face? It doesn't matter how it gets done because it's inevitable. It's much better to get it done quickly and move on ASAP.

 

[mikey90]

I ended up going to her place yesterday after several calls from her and I told her to talk, I was listening. It turns out she wanted to talk about why I didn't tell her about my dad being diagnosed with something. Apparently, my mom called her a few days ago and told her during conversation. I told her I just didn't feel like making her worried. She started going on and on about me having to open up to her and all that.

I obviously know to do the exact opposite because women claim to want one thing but really want the other. Anyway, it ended with me f*cking her in the back of my car and some time spent together before I left.

I feel like her whole idea of wanting to "have a talk about us" was just a ploy to get to see me in person or attention from me. Oh, well.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I ended up going to her place yesterday after several calls from her and I told her to talk, I was listening. It turns out she wanted to talk about why I didn't tell her about my dad being diagnosed with something. Apparently, my mom called her a few days ago and told her during conversation. I told her I just didn't feel like making her worried. She started going on and on about me having to open up to her and all that.

I obviously know to do the exact opposite because women claim to want one thing but really want the other. Anyway, it ended with me f*cking her in the back of my car and some time spent together before I left.

I feel like her whole idea of wanting to "have a talk about us" was just a ploy to get to see me in person or attention from me. Oh, well.

She was mad because she thought you where treating her like $hit, from not telling her. She didn't want to just feel like some s1ut you bang out. She wanted a stronger position in your life. Like I said, this could've been one of the reasons she had to talk.

 

[yungballa]

I ended up going to her place yesterday after several calls from her and I told her to talk, I was listening. It turns out she wanted to talk about why I didn't tell her about my dad being diagnosed with something. Apparently, my mom called her a few days ago and told her during conversation. I told her I just didn't feel like making her worried. She started going on and on about me having to open up to her and all that.

I obviously know to do the exact opposite because women claim to want one thing but really want the other. Anyway, it ended with me f*cking her in the back of my car and some time spent together before I left.

I feel like her whole idea of wanting to "have a talk about us" was just a ploy to get to see me in person or attention from me. Oh, well.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

honestly i thought she was gon give you the break up speech but who cares lmfao you still got to smash her :cheer: :cheer: :rockon: hip hip hurray

 

[Fela Kuti]

Looll, a good thing that you're not like the majority of the members here.

 

[Desdinova]

Looll, a good thing that you're not like the majority of the members here.

That's why my approach works. I've been in both situations where it's the "I want to dump you in person" speech, and the "this irrelevant thing is bothering me" speech. Throwing the "are you done with me" question at her causes emotional fluctuation which works in your favour. If she asks about why you said it, just let her know that you don't want to waste any time if her interest drops. Doing this actually puts you in the position of power because it lets her know that you could drop her like a smelly old hat and move on.

 

[bigneil]

When you think a girl wants to breakup, simply ask "Do you think we should end the relationship?" If she says anything but "NO!!!" it means yes.