Girlfriend said she wants to "talk about us"

[mikey90]

She's away on a work trip and comes back tomorrow. We were on the phone chatting today and she was being short and uninterested then says she "wants to have a talk". I ask her about what? She says about us. I say okay. We can talk tomorrow.

She says "tomorrow won't work". I simply say okay and nothing more.

I have a feeling she's trying to play dread game on me so I called one of my friends and we're hitting a bar later tonight. I'll have fun and it will take my mind off her.

I just want to know if there's anything I should do, prepared to say, should I ignore her outright etc. You guys seem to know a lot of about dealing with these types of situations. Thanks.

 

[marmel75]

Prepare to be dumped.

 

[Suspens]

She will be talking from a position of power. So you avoid the talk and move on with your mental peace and self respect intact.

That will give the hoe and her excited hamster a head**** as she won't get the satisfaction of humiliating and belittling you.


GF: We need to talk.
You: Don't need to. You are dumped and replaced already.

 

[dustmuffin]

Read the "No Contact" thread. There is some good advice in it on how to deal with a dumping. I just got dumped and it helped me.

 

[thatfeel]

I love how you're like okay tomorrow and she's like "tomorrow won't work" like you're back to square 1 dating flakey ass chicks. Drop her ass OP.

 

[Lozboss]

Sadly OP you need to prepare for the worst.

 

[yungballa]

As others have stated, prepare for the break up, OP.

She wants to talk and on top of that she's telling you tomorrow ain't good.. lmao. Like everyone else is saying, just drop her ass.

 

[blind_one]

Drop her to the curb ASAP

 

[BrainDamage92]

No, prepare for the best, which is the single life, forget this ho.

Also when she dumps you, just prepare for it, be calm as a shaolin monk on his morning meditation.


Be like "Well, K bye been a pleasure"

Again, idk I have never been dumped, I know when things go sour I just sense it (not that Ive had that many relationships), but in the one where I lived together with the girl for 3 years, I sensed it and just walked out on her. It wasn't pretty, I didnt do it calmly, it was like prison break.

But in the end when the people I know found they were like: "Like a boss"

And Im sure she had the pleasure of painting me black in front of her peeps (she was from a diff city than me, and we lived in a third one ). Let her have that pleasure.

This way everyone wins.

In the reverse scenario look what happens: Youre the ***** who gets dumped, shes the ho who left her BF for another (couse there is another and he is where she is at the moment, elementary Watson).

Because women dont like to be alone, and prep the new fool while still being with the former (if you let them). This is why you must use your spidey sense to feel when things are broken beyond repair.

There are signs, and believe me, this is not some PUA BS, this is real:

- she starts taking care of her looks
- she stops fighting with you and wanting to change you
- she goes out her "friends" alot
- she meets new people, which are not your kind of people
- she doesnt seem to enjoy the sex or is refusing (tho the latter never happened to me)

that basically covers it

YOU DONT NEED A GF

PLAY ON PLAYA, YOU ARE FREE

We didnt choose the single life because it is easy, but because it is hard, but yo, at least you dont have to take **** from noone.

 

[RangerMIke]

This is what happens when a relationship does not go in the direction a woman expects. Here is what you do.

Her: I don't think this is working out, my needs... blah blah blah... I care about you blah blah blah. We should see other people blah bla blah....

You: Okay.

Her: I really want to still be friends.

You: No. I don't want more friends. Have a great life

Get up and walk away.

 

[Mike32ct]

She wanted to officially dump you over the phone BEFORE the end of her business trip. Then she can hit the hotel bar on her last night and have a guilt-free post-breakup ONS. That's why it couldn't wait until she returned home.

Sorry man, but it's probably a blessing in disguise.

 

[Alvafe]

Sadly OP you need to prepare for the worst.

worst? she will marry him? or the best it can happen? he dump her because that is what she is trying to do.

serious I still don't get why its a bad thing she break up with you, its her loss, plus you finally can go after that hottie you saw last night

 

[mikey90]

I woke up to two missed calls from her this morning. I called her back and she wanted to know a day when we can get together to talk about us". I said "What do you want to talk about?"

She said "You didn't answer my question." I said "I did." After a little back and forth from her insisting I give her a time, I told her I can't meet up with her.

Conversation ends.

I think what Suspens said about "her talk" being in a position of power is true. She seems to be on some sort of power trip.

 

[guru1000]

Do you have balls? Disappear for one month with no notice. No phone calls, no texts, no e-mails, no appearances. Just <poof>.

One month from now, when you do pick up the phone, she will be begging to fvck you.

 

[In2theGame]

Anyone who has been in this position before knows whats coming. If I were you, i wouldnt bother answering her anymore because that's exactly what shes trying to do to you. By having the "talk" she is basically going to give you the "reason" why its not working out or how she needs some space etc... Exit now before this happens. I know it's very difficult but why walk into the land mine, You know it's there. Just walk around it by going no contact and move forward.

 

[BMX]

HO: We need to talk, brah.
You: Huh, nah.

You'll be fine. Move on with it.

 

[skinnyguy]

Do you have balls? Disappear for one month with no notice. No phone calls, no texts, no e-mails, no appearances. Just <poof>.

One month from now, when you do pick up the phone, she will be begging to fvck you.

Yup and make sure she finds out you fvcked another woman during that time.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She seems to be on some sort of power trip.

So dump her first. I would text her something like

hey, this doesn't seem to be working out. I really like you as a person. I don't want to hurt you, and I want you to be happy. Let's just be friends.


Getting dumped before she gets the chance to dump you will steal the power away from her and fvck with her more than anything else you can do. If you go NC before you dump her, then you look like you are too scared to have a difficult conversation with her.

 

[Albatross953]

Not really sure why so much strategy needs to go into this. If she breaks up with just say OK. And move on.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So dump her first. I would text her something like

hey, this doesn't seem to be working out. I really like you as a person. I don't want to hurt you, and I want you to be happy. Let's just be friends.


Getting dumped before she gets the chance to dump you will steal the power away from her and fvck with her more than anything else you can do. If you go NC before you dump her, then you look like you are too scared to have a difficult conversation with her.

What if her discussion is to see "what we are?", you guys assumed dumped and not to see if she can escalate their situation, because it might be a FWB right now and she might want more.