Girlfriend problems...

[drummin2002]

Ok, I have been coming here for sumtime now and I read the articles about everytime I come to the site. After being single for almost 6 months I finally got a girlfriend. The funny thing is I knew her for less than 10 minutes before we started dating (love at first sight?) The weird thing is for some reason our relationship seems like it is goin to h3ll. We don't fight or anything, but she never talks to me, we get on the phone for about a half an hour and we talk for about the first 5 then we just sit there and i decide to tell her I have to go help my parents sometimes, I tell her I need to go to the store, and I make up other excuses. I feel like and idiot doin this but I don't kno any other way to get off the phone with her w/out bein a prick. Also the funniest thing about my relationship is that her and have kissed open mouth ONCE in 3 months... I kno that isn't normal. I went to the movies with her last night and I was too afraid to kiss her becuz she seemed like she was more interested in the movie than me. So I figured I would just "let it go". PLEASE HELP ME

 

[mrsoy]

you could dump her...

 

[Canadianpimpology]

Fun relationship eh? Dude, it sounds like neither one of you is really feelin each other. Dump her...it's only 3 months.

 

[punkrockpylot]

you started dating after 10 minutes...thats the problem...next time make sure you and a girl have more in common...(not meant as a flame, just as advice)...

 

[LaZaRuS]

Man I was in a very similar situation with my ex-girlfriend...It started out as the perfect relationship (she would always talk to me, wanna spend every second she could with me, gave me compliments - very high interest), but then one day out of nowhere thingsjust complely went to hell. I called her to set up a date and she wasnt her normal self. Shw would answer me with "yeahs, no's and ok's" and that was seriously about all she said..And just like you - our phone conversations lasted around 5 minutes if that...She later suggested that we just be friends instead (her interest level dropped drastically for no reason and she dumped me for some other guy)..Well anyways the moral of this story is that if u 2 arent talking much then that could mean a few things...1. She's not interest in you anymore(the problem i had) 2. You're calling her too much and running out of things to talk about or 3. Maybe you BOTH lost interest?

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

OMG! Its like the twighlight zone. The same thing happened to me ... High IL and then it went to hell. I started getting the whatever treatment and the kissing was a big part of it ... I could not get a open mouth kiss after 2 months and got rid of the girl. I tried talking to her and she just forced me to do it, I am still friends with her and she admitted that she wanted to make it easier for herself and therefore forced me to break up with her. She made the signals obvious.

 

[oprahjimfrey]

i gotta side with the other guys. I think you gotta break up... but im not sure how much there is to break.

 

[Sammo]

Love at first sight? Probably not, chances are she's ugly and/or has low self-esteem and needed a guy to cling on to so she can be 'cool'. Tell me this, how did you know that the girl was good enough for dating after 10 minutes? Dump her, there obviously isn't enough interest. Confront and defeat your inner fears before you get a girlfriend. For info on this you need to learn how to unlock your power.

 

[SomethingCreative]

Well maybe things are different depending on where you live, but from my experiences and from most people I know, people usually hang out before they become exclusive. And making out usually comes before people are going out (depending on the girl of course). Maybe thats just how thing are here, but either way, if your not going to do "together" type things, why go out? Why not just be best friends or friends or just hang out or whatever if you aren't gonna even make out?

 

[misunderstood??]

I think it's kinda conclusive here that you should dump her, if it isn't working out, then dumping her is defianetly on the horizon. Don't waste your time if it isn't going anywhere but down. Now for some advice if you want to fix things here (who knows maybe you do) but especially for the next lady to come along. Don't start being exclusive with her after 10 mins, that's way too fast for any desireable girl, they'll get freaked out and say no, keep them in suspense and wait it out for a bit. Secondly, phone conversations are a relationship killer. Don't call her to casually talk, the only exceptions I make is if I can't see her for a bunch of days on end. Also, as soon as you sense the conversation dieing down, attempt to bring it up on a high note then get off the phone on that high note. Don't let phone conversations drag on forever. Anyways, best of luck with everything

 

[drummin2002]

Thanks you guys

Hey, I'm back thanks for all the help. I just helped muh friend get a girlfriend, he is datin one of muh best friends (which I like a lil) I think she might play him tho. I have been back and forth on dumping her. For some reason I can't though. What should I do if I like alot of other girls? One of muh best friends likes me, but I am still back and forth on the "breaking up thing". My best friend is talkin to her about alot of sexual things on the phone right now... lol I think he tried too hard. Well, please give me more advice.

 

[Emilian]

Me?

I would give the advice to just dump her and find someody you "click" with.

It seems to me that you are afraid of dumping her just because you won't have a "girlfriend".

So yeh just go ahead and do it.

 

[Biphoria]

Sudden drop in IL? did oo forget to be a chawenge?