Girlfriend of 6 months disrespecting me for the first time, how do I handle this?

[MrSkeletal]

been dating this girl for 6 months, she's NEVER disrespected before because she knows i dont put up with it.

just some quick info

-she texts me first EVERY day since we've been together, she texts me goodmoring goodnight ect every single day and texts me back really fast all throughout the day

-if i ignore her texts she'll triple text me and sometimes quadruple text me to get my attention

-she's told me multiple times that she loves me

-she's never disrespected me before and does alot of little things for me like breakfast in bed ect


everything was going great until recently, i feel like she's losing intrest or cheating but not sure.

the reason i feel this way is because we haven't been having as much sex over the past few weeks when we used to have sex 3-4 times a week now we have sex once a week, we only see eachother twice a week btw.


well today we were just talking over text like always and all of a sudden she starts being really *****y, just a couple hours ago she was sending me essay long texts chatting bout random crap but out of the blue she started giving me one word answers and taking along time to respond, and now she's being extremely disrespectful

heres an example of our most recent conversation

me: turn your internet on (she cant receive pics unless her internet is turned on)
her: hold on
(20mins later)
her: well are you gonna send the pic or not?
me: *sends pic*
her: o wow thats it?


haven't even responded to her since then and probably wont,what the hell is her problem? is she losing intrest/cheating?

i'm seriously considering just staying no contact till the weekend then dumping her ass when i see her.

what do i do?

 

[Poop1337]

There's this thing called the honey moon phase of a relationship and you sir have probably just started exiting yours. You should keep ****ing her and get other girls. Start spinning the plates if you haven't been already. There is no such thing as love and even if she's not cheating things will get worse before they get better and there is nothing you can do really other than walk away when it gets too annoying to deal with. I think you'd be a spaz to walk away now if you're getting sex once a week on some kind of regular basis from her but yeah focus on getting other girls.

Don't take her seriously. Have fun messing with her but don't purposely screw up this weekly sex. Don't get some attitude about the fact that she may be cheating or that she is disrespecting you and spaz out and dump her.

So given what I remember of you text exchange here's what I would do. Firstly I wouldn't be telling her to turn on internet or anything don't waste time trying to show her entertaining things. Secondly when she messages you *****y things like "is that it?" just ignore her as you did until it's time to set up a meeting for sex "coming over to see you" or how every you set that up. If you haven't already done so I recommend you take naked pics of this chick and video lol for your private collection. Every man should strive to have a nice private collection lol. Yeah just have fun and see her for what she is try not to morn the end of the honeymoon phase it's gone that girl is likely never coming back spin the ****ing plates. Get out there and get that honeymoon phase going with another cutie. And just be cool with this other girl and expect more bs and more putting you down but laugh about how you're screwing her to yourself and have fun at her expense a little to make yourself feel better but try not to act butt hurt or like what she says means anything to you. You shouldn't care but if you do hide it well.

 

[El Payaso]

Don't lose your cool. Just go about your normal life cheerful. Don't respond to the text. Don't lose your frame.

Maybe she didn't like the pic. No big deal. Let her get b!tchy with herself. Don't feed it. When she gets over herself. She will contact you.

The sh!t tests at the start of a relationship are minor leagues. The ones when the relationship is on full steam is when your are really tested.

Women subconsciously get their targets used to a certain behavior and to test them, they like pulling something out of left field.

Laugh her response off and continue whatever you were doing.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

The sh!t tests at the start of a relationship are minor leagues. The ones when the relationship is on full steam is when your are really tested.

Women subconsciously get their targets used to a certain behavior

So true. They reason to themselves (often times correctly) that there's more at stake, so they know it's harder (for you) to walk away with so much invested - the more harshly she tests, the more accepting she may be with walking away from the relationship, unless it's coming from a place of insecurity, as a way to reveal his level of 'devotion' to her (ie how pvssywhooped he is).

 

[Desdinova]

Don't lose your cool. Just go about your normal life cheerful. Don't respond to the text. Don't lose your frame.

Maybe she didn't like the pic. No big deal. Let her get b!tchy with herself. Don't feed it. When she gets over herself. She will contact you.

Agreed 100% with the above. If you act like her stupid attitude is irrelevant, she loses. If she's fvcking around with another dude, it'll eventually come out. Give her a week and see how she's behaving. Until then, don't let her know it's bothering you.

And she could be on the rag. With the GFs I've had, I've been able to tell when they're on the day before just by their text messages. I'd be all confused by the odd messages, and then realize they're approaching their period when I look at the calendar. Sure enough, a few hours later or the next day she tells me she's bleeding.

 

[BraddH]

Holy fvck. That's it? That's disrespectful?

I think she is just getting enough of your "playing hard". She can see straight through you. Unless she is a dumb girl, otherwise if she is a smart and intelligent girl, she is able to see your stupid games.

Now she shows you all those little affections, and what do you do? You are just acting like she needs you more. Your ego feels fulfilled.

Once you are truly a Don Juan, you will have compassion towards people. This is what bradd80 was talking about in his journey. Now, how come all you remember about her is just those "she texts me first everytime, she makes
Me breakfast, she texts me everyday, she responds me fast, texts me good night and good morning." How do you remember those things in the first place? Your ego is so full of those that once she does the opposite, your ego feels like it has been betrayed straight away. That text convo is simply showing that she has seen through your manipulative and stupid ego. She realize that your just a kid that once got hurt and is now trying to look like a big catch by playing all those dumb games that you just wrote in your opening. Can you see your stupidity?

A true Don Juan does not remember those things. The things that she "texted you first and so on." If you are still caring about those things you are just simply going from one extreme to the other. From one side of the coin to the other. Deep down you are still just a beta chump. You gotta get beyond both, not hide one side and show the other.

God bless you. You need love, come to me.

 

[mikey2012]

Honeymoon is over. You may have went beta so.. Dump her before she dumps you. Start spinning plates.. From my experience she cheating

 

[Jair213]

damn getting buthurt over nonsense? idk man stop being to sensitive.

 

[narcissist]

Yo man, not trying to be rude to you or anything OP, but that doesnt seem like something you should be getting so worked up about.

I mean have you ever had a sh*tty day where you just dont really want to deal with people? most of all your GF? to the point where you are one word replying her?

I think the most important thing to note here is this: Is this an ISOLATED incidence?

Because if it is it just might be one of those days everybody has where they dont feel like talking to people. I know Ive had those days. And you know youve had those days. Does it mean she wants to cheat on you? Or shes being disrespectful? Or it warrants a break up? I personally dont think so.

To me it definitely seems like an isolated incidence because you even said it yourself, other than this time she has been showering you with love, attention, etc etc etc.

I would say from this point on assume an observant role. Watch her a little more closely because there is always a chance something could be fishy. But dont jump to conclusions just yet and whatever you do dont make any brash decisions because you dont like the fact that shes being a little more distant. Because then youll put yourself in a worse position.

If the incidence becomes a prolonged issue then my adivce would be NC.

Right now, I would say shes prolly just having a sh*tty day. Let her cool off. Shell be showering you with love again soon. But if you become upset and angry because you want her to shower you with love, that shows MAJOR insecurity and shows that you are needy for attention from her. AT THAT POINT the power dynamic will shift and all will be lost. Trust me you dont want that.

So be calm, collected, and observant.

Find a way to let off the steam, productively. Workout, meditate, go for a walk.

And lastly, I would turn off your phone and do a short 2-3 day NC just for your own emotional stability.

Good luck, feel free to PM if you have any other questions brah.

 

[zorg198]

Holy fvck. That's it? That's disrespectful?

I think she is just getting enough of your "playing hard". She can see straight through you. Unless she is a dumb girl, otherwise if she is a smart and intelligent girl, she is able to see your stupid games.

Now she shows you all those little affections, and what do you do? You are just acting like she needs you more. Your ego feels fulfilled.

Once you are truly a Don Juan, you will have compassion towards people. This is what bradd80 was talking about in his journey. Now, how come all you remember about her is just those "she texts me first everytime, she makes
Me breakfast, she texts me everyday, she responds me fast, texts me good night and good morning." How do you remember those things in the first place? Your ego is so full of those that once she does the opposite, your ego feels like it has been betrayed straight away. That text convo is simply showing that she has seen through your manipulative and stupid ego. She realize that your just a kid that once got hurt and is now trying to look like a big catch by playing all those dumb games that you just wrote in your opening. Can you see your stupidity?

A true Don Juan does not remember those things. The things that she "texted you first and so on." If you are still caring about those things you are just simply going from one extreme to the other. From one side of the coin to the other. Deep down you are still just a beta chump. You gotta get beyond both, not hide one side and show the other.

God bless you. You need love, come to me.

Read what he wrote 1000 times until you change your way , i was like this with my ex , i played this stupid games and now she's gone because she's sick of it. understand that you need to go beyond this , be a man.

Joe.

 

[pyros]

DJ overthinking + DJ ego overdose.

WTF? I dont see any problem here with the text conversation. You dont have to have super cool, fascinating conversations with your gf everytime you know? you made her turn on the Internet to send her some silly pic, so what?

However, the thing that you started to have less and less sex is something to worry about. You say you just see each other twice a week but...is it cause she 'cant' see you more? or is it because you two cant really meet more often? if it is the first option she is loosing some interest. If it is the second option its ok.

You say that she makes you breakfast, calls you first EVERYTIME etc...ok nice but...did you think that she may be feeling insecure about your relationship since it seems she's the only one putting effort? or at least she's putting the most effort? why dont you ever initiate texts first? do you treat her nice?
Think about this.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Holy fvck. That's it? That's disrespectful?

I think she is just getting enough of your "playing hard". She can see straight through you. Unless she is a dumb girl, otherwise if she is a smart and intelligent girl, she is able to see your stupid games.

Now she shows you all those little affections, and what do you do? You are just acting like she needs you more. Your ego feels fulfilled.

Once you are truly a Don Juan, you will have compassion towards people. This is what bradd80 was talking about in his journey. Now, how come all you remember about her is just those "she texts me first everytime, she makes
Me breakfast, she texts me everyday, she responds me fast, texts me good night and good morning." How do you remember those things in the first place? Your ego is so full of those that once she does the opposite, your ego feels like it has been betrayed straight away. That text convo is simply showing that she has seen through your manipulative and stupid ego. She realize that your just a kid that once got hurt and is now trying to look like a big catch by playing all those dumb games that you just wrote in your opening. Can you see your stupidity?

A true Don Juan does not remember those things. The things that she "texted you first and so on." If you are still caring about those things you are just simply going from one extreme to the other. From one side of the coin to the other. Deep down you are still just a beta chump. You gotta get beyond both, not hide one side and show the other.

God bless you. You need love, come to me.

this. +1 (well, when i've spread some reputation around I'll get to it)

 

[Soolaimon]

Don't do any dumping now.

There needs to be a good enough reason for it.

If she continues with the attitude here is what you do.

Let her keep contacting you first and continue to gauge her behavior.

Pay attention to how she talks to you.

If it's a disrespectful tone that isn't her normal tone then you know she is losing interest.

If she makes excuses to hang out and to have sex that is a sign of disinterest and cheating.

Then you can plan your exit.

 

[MOTU]

Don't lose your cool. Just go about your normal life cheerful. Don't respond to the text. Don't lose your frame.

Maybe she didn't like the pic. No big deal. Let her get b!tchy with herself. Don't feed it. When she gets over herself. She will contact you.

The sh!t tests at the start of a relationship are minor leagues. The ones when the relationship is on full steam is when your are really tested.

Women subconsciously get their targets used to a certain behavior and to test them, they like pulling something out of left field.

Laugh her response off and continue whatever you were doing.

^^^This. Repped. ^^^
OP, chicks just get emotional sometimes and do stupid sh!t. You have to just ignore it and go about your business. Demonstrate to her that how YOU ACT isn't based on how SHE FEELS.

That being said, sounds like having her is a good situation for you, you Re benefitting. Don't go all alpha and throw out the baby with the bath water. Go to married man sex life . Com and read his blog post on why being too "alpha" kills a relationship after six months.

 

[Trump]

heres an example of our most recent conversation

me: turn your internet on (she cant receive pics unless her internet is turned on)
her: hold on
(20mins later)
her: well are you gonna send the pic or not?
me: *sends pic*
her: o wow thats it?

haven't even responded to her since then and probably wont,what the hell is her problem? is she losing intrest/cheating?

i'm seriously considering just staying no contact till the weekend then dumping her ass when i see her.

what do i do?

Bro I think you are going crazy here. You think this girl is cheating on you and having sex with another guy because she didn't respond appropriately to a pic you sent? What was she supposed to say? "Unbelievable! I am so turned on right now I want to rip your clothes off!"

"O wow that's it?"
"That's it!"

Move on. I don't how you have crazy monkey with a hot girl 4 times week, and then one comment from her makes your head spin like a merry go around. :box:

 

[BraddH]

Bro I think you are going crazy here. You think this girl is cheating on you and having sex with another guy because she didn't respond appropriately to a pic you sent? What was she supposed to say? "Unbelievable! I am so turned on right now I want to rip your clothes off!"

"O wow that's it?"
"That's it!"

Move on. I don't how you have crazy monkey with a hot girl 4 times week, and then one comment from her makes your head spin like a merry go around. :box:

"Move on. I don't how you have crazy monkey with a hot girl 4 times week, and then one comment from her makes your head spin like a merry go around."

I died. So funny. It amazes me too how one comment made his head spin like a fvcking hamster so hard. Hahaha.

 

[pyros]

"Move on. I don't how you have crazy monkey with a hot girl 4 times week, and then one comment from her makes your head spin like a merry go around."

I died. So funny. It amazes me too how one comment made his head spin like a fvcking hamster so hard. Hahaha.

AGREED. HAHAHAHAHAHA....lmao...

 

[sylvester the cat]

Bro I think you are going crazy here. You think this girl is cheating on you and having sex with another guy because she didn't respond appropriately to a pic you sent? What was she supposed to say? "Unbelievable! I am so turned on right now I want to rip your clothes off!"

"O wow that's it?"
"That's it!"

Move on. I don't how you have crazy monkey with a hot girl 4 times week, and then one comment from her makes your head spin like a merry go around. :box:

:crackup: