Girlfriend of 5 years cheated (99.9% sure)

[pyros]

I would either:
a) downgrade her to fukk buddy (if you can emotionally) and keep her this way until she gets really upset or something, then when she threatens to leave you you can just let her know you know she cheated so she can go to hell.
b) if you cant do a, just tell her you know she cheated and send her to hell.

What you shouldnt do at all is to keep her as your girlfriend, forgive her or any stupid things like these.

 

[adam225]

I wish when I was 22 somebody told me this....

She cheated. It's over. It was probably something minor but it doesn't matter. You will never be able to trust her again. Don't beat yourself up over it. Don't get overly emotional. You're 22 and she is just one of many girls in your future.
Consider yourself lucky to have found out before you waste any more time.

Leave her before she leaves you. Don't tell her or anyone that you looked at her Facebook or what you know. Don't get sucked into a big chick-like drama fest breakup. Be calm and cool and end it quickly. No big emotional "talk". Tell her its over and you are moving on. If she asks for a reason tell her you are too young to be tied down. That is all. She may try desperately to evoke some emotion out of you. Give her nothing. She may ask if you have found someone else or cheated. Tell her nothing. Walk away.

Don't go seeking revenge or try to make her feel guilty. She never will. Especially if you attack her this way. In fact she'll turn it around in her mind and make you out to be the bad guy. The best way to get back at her is to leave her hanging with very little explanation and no show of emotion whatsoever. Do it fast and get out of there. Cut her off completely. No contact. Ever. This type of rejection will sting.

Get out there and enjoy yourself!!! You are 22 and have been tied down for too long! The world is yours. Don't ever let yourself get dragged down by a chick who did you wrong.

P.S. Whether you follow this advice now or during some future breakup it doesn't matter. Sometimes we need to experience the wrong way to do things in order to understand the right way.

Good luck

This

 

[LiveFreeX]

CONFRONT and DUMP

B1tches must know consequences. She will pine for you forever if you do that. If you let the relationship go on, she will dump you or start to disrespect you. You are too young to be dating someone that old anyway. Why do men insist on dating women their own age, retarded. My wife is 2 years older than you dude. The older you get the more well equipped you are to have a young female. When you are a kid, you don't know your ass from a hole in the wall.

Either that, or take a dump somewhere in her car or room, rub it into the carpeting or behind a bookshelf and conveniently forget to tell her. This is basically what she has done to you.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

At least the OP gained experience in his prime, youth

 

[Bokanovsky]

Here's what I would do. Call her up and tell her that you "know everything". She will likely play dumb and be like "WTF are you talking about". You then say that you know "what happened on Friday". Again, she will probably try to play dumb. Here's where you admit that you snooped on her on FB, right? Wrong! Instead, say that her best friend told you everything about what happened on Friday. And leave it at that. Hang up and go NC.

 

[CostaDeSol]

I wish when I was 22 somebody told me this....

She cheated. It's over. It was probably something minor but it doesn't matter. You will never be able to trust her again. Don't beat yourself up over it. Don't get overly emotional. You're 22 and she is just one of many girls in your future.
Consider yourself lucky to have found out before you waste any more time.

Leave her before she leaves you. Don't tell her or anyone that you looked at her Facebook or what you know. Don't get sucked into a big chick-like drama fest breakup. Be calm and cool and end it quickly. No big emotional "talk". Tell her its over and you are moving on. If she asks for a reason tell her you are too young to be tied down. That is all. She may try desperately to evoke some emotion out of you. Give her nothing. She may ask if you have found someone else or cheated. Tell her nothing. Walk away.

Don't go seeking revenge or try to make her feel guilty. She never will. Especially if you attack her this way. In fact she'll turn it around in her mind and make you out to be the bad guy. The best way to get back at her is to leave her hanging with very little explanation and no show of emotion whatsoever. Do it fast and get out of there. Cut her off completely. No contact. Ever. This type of rejection will sting.

Get out there and enjoy yourself!!! You are 22 and have been tied down for too long! The world is yours. Don't ever let yourself get dragged down by a chick who did you wrong.

P.S. Whether you follow this advice now or during some future breakup it doesn't matter. Sometimes we need to experience the wrong way to do things in order to understand the right way.

Good luck

THIS

especially:

"Don't go seeking revenge or try to make her feel guilty. She never will. Especially if you attack her this way. In fact she'll turn it around in her mind and make you out to be the bad guy. The best way to get back at her is to leave her hanging with very little explanation and no show of emotion whatsoever."

 

[betheman]

Here's what I would do. Call her up and tell her that you "know everything". She will likely play dumb and be like "WTF are you talking about". You then say that you know "what happened on Friday". Again, she will probably try to play dumb. Here's where you admit that you snooped on her on FB, right? Wrong! Instead, say that her best friend told you everything about what happened on Friday. And leave it at that. Hang up and go NC.

this is evil....but I love it

 

[Cremasta]

Normally I would just say trust your gut and simply walk away, but you know what? After 5 years of sticking by the same girl I'd be real tempted to get spiteful about this one...

Here's one possible sequence of events:
1. Go back into her Facebook - copy and paste that whole conversation into a Word document (it will bring across photos and the text so there's no mistake about who the conversation is between), print out a couple of copies and put them in your back pocket.
2. Start getting all of your stuff out of her house.
3. Start actively looking for another girl
4. Drop your girl as nonchalantly as possible when you've found another one.
5. If your soon-to-be ex gets pissy about it, give her the printout and tell her that her best friend gave it to you (the best friend can get fvcked too - she was an accessory).
6. Walk away.

I know, it's juvenile, but these two deserve to have a grenade dropped on them as you're leaving the scene.

 

[Solomon]

You have to know where your boundaries are. Would you accept it if she was honest and told you about it showing regret? If not dump her. Would you accept if she didn't tell you? If not dump her.

If you would accept the first situation would you accept it happening again? If not you should make a clear statement that you won't accept her treating you like that again.

You can't ever build a good relationship without honesty and respect from both parts. You're here asking about how to handle it and your girlfriend is asking her best friend. Communication is key to solve this.

^^This

I wish when I was 22 somebody told me this....

She cheated. It's over. It was probably something minor but it doesn't matter. You will never be able to trust her again. Don't beat yourself up over it. Don't get overly emotional. You're 22 and she is just one of many girls in your future.
Consider yourself lucky to have found out before you waste any more time.

Leave her before she leaves you. Don't tell her or anyone that you looked at her Facebook or what you know. Don't get sucked into a big chick-like drama fest breakup. Be calm and cool and end it quickly. No big emotional "talk". Tell her its over and you are moving on. If she asks for a reason tell her you are too young to be tied down. That is all. She may try desperately to evoke some emotion out of you. Give her nothing. She may ask if you have found someone else or cheated. Tell her nothing. Walk away.

Don't go seeking revenge or try to make her feel guilty. She never will. Especially if you attack her this way. In fact she'll turn it around in her mind and make you out to be the bad guy. The best way to get back at her is to leave her hanging with very little explanation and no show of emotion whatsoever. Do it fast and get out of there. Cut her off completely. No contact. Ever. This type of rejection will sting.

Get out there and enjoy yourself!!! You are 22 and have been tied down for too long! The world is yours. Don't ever let yourself get dragged down by a chick who did you wrong.

P.S. Whether you follow this advice now or during some future breakup it doesn't matter. Sometimes we need to experience the wrong way to do things in order to understand the right way.

Good luck

and this

OP confront her and act accordingly.

But we all know what will happen, It's like the scene in the Matrix where Neyo should walk towards one door but he walks to the other because he thinks he can save Trinity and everyone.

OP will not follow any of the advice and will drag this out, and this will be another 10 page cringeworthy thread!

 

[Darth]

Just disappear.

 

[thatfeel]

Here's what I would do. Call her up and tell her that you "know everything". She will likely play dumb and be like "WTF are you talking about". You then say that you know "what happened on Friday". Again, she will probably try to play dumb. Here's where you admit that you snooped on her on FB, right? Wrong! Instead, say that her best friend told you everything about what happened on Friday. And leave it at that. Hang up and go NC.

Sinister sh!t right here. I'd do it.

 

[Albatross953]

I laughed at framing the friend..bravo.

Seriously, be glad you're not married and no kids. Now go play the field!

 

[CJ 101]

Dump her and do it as harsh as possible and don't tell her why. She's a cheating slut and she deserves to be treated like trash.

 

[Epimanes]

Your not married... Dating is the interview for marrige. I would confront her and ask her what's up. Give her a chance to own up to it and come clean. If she fails to give you the info you seek (you know in your gut something is up but by the convo it appears she didn't fvck the guy but may have drunken kissed him or let him feel her up). If she owns up to it tell her your conditions in which you would stay with her and if she disrespects you again she will be nexted. Then get a hold of her phone and slap some spyware on it (if your living together you could keylog the pc too).

Or just next her and don't give her a chance to own up and drop her.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[Zarky]

Proof is in the pudding.

The correct idiom is:

"The proof of the pudding is in the eating."

Not sure why everyone gets that wrong. Can proof be in pudding? Of course not. Makes no sense.

Aaaaaanyway, OP, the chick probably made out with another. She's over you and it's only a matter of time before she "really" cheats. Time to start dating other women.

Oh and if she ever "confesses" about it. Just smile, slap her on the back, and say "Hey, no biggie, happens to us all every once in awhile doesn't it?" That'll blow her mind.

 

[TheBossman]

All I'm gonna say is that "LoL" comment pissed me right off.

 

[TheCWord]

I wish when I was 22 somebody told me this....

She cheated. It's over. It was probably something minor but it doesn't matter. You will never be able to trust her again. Don't beat yourself up over it. Don't get overly emotional. You're 22 and she is just one of many girls in your future.
Consider yourself lucky to have found out before you waste any more time.

Leave her before she leaves you. Don't tell her or anyone that you looked at her Facebook or what you know. Don't get sucked into a big chick-like drama fest breakup. Be calm and cool and end it quickly. No big emotional "talk". Tell her its over and you are moving on. If she asks for a reason tell her you are too young to be tied down. That is all. She may try desperately to evoke some emotion out of you. Give her nothing. She may ask if you have found someone else or cheated. Tell her nothing. Walk away.

Don't go seeking revenge or try to make her feel guilty. She never will. Especially if you attack her this way. In fact she'll turn it around in her mind and make you out to be the bad guy. The best way to get back at her is to leave her hanging with very little explanation and no show of emotion whatsoever. Do it fast and get out of there. Cut her off completely. No contact. Ever. This type of rejection will sting.

Get out there and enjoy yourself!!! You are 22 and have been tied down for too long! The world is yours. Don't ever let yourself get dragged down by a chick who did you wrong.

P.S. Whether you follow this advice now or during some future breakup it doesn't matter. Sometimes we need to experience the wrong way to do things in order to understand the right way.

Good luck

Repeat. OP, listen to this guy...

 

[backbreaker]

^^This




and this

OP confront her and act accordingly.

But we all know what will happen, It's like the scene in the Matrix where Neyo should walk towards one door but he walks to the other because he thinks he can save Trinity and everyone.

OP will not follow any of the advice and will drag this out, and this will be another 10 page cringeworthy thread!

lol this.

what should happen: break up, go no contact, don't get sucked in, move on with life

what WILL happen: guy will make some half ass attempt to talk to her, she will deny deny deny, she will fvck his brains out and he will think is all right with the world. 2 weeks later she will do it again and this time she will leave him, he will come here crying like a little ***** and start overanalyzing every facebook post she has like it's the national budget and he's a defeict hawk. he will keep trying to get the upper hand on her and it will never work and he will just get more and more fustrated, which will turn into spite and he will then start to hate women....

when i was 22 years old i was dating a chick for a year, she lived with me by this time. she went ot the club every thursday with her sister, came home like clockwork at about 12:30am. i had no problme with this i knew what she was doing. one day however she comes strolling in like at 4am in the morning and her phone rings like 3 mintues later and it's some dude asking did she get home okay.

i rolled over, went to bed admist her trying to talk to me. woke up before she did, put her **** in a garbage, put it outside, called a lock smith and changed the lock and told her to GFTO. no drama, no nothing. i was done. just like that.

 

[VladPatton]

The guys are right. Dump her ASAP and frame the friend if you're really pissed!

However, I bet backbreaker's prediction will be true.

 

[VikingKing]

The more green squares you see below some ones name, the higher regards you should hold their opinion in. But dont always take what they say to heart, look at what all of them say, and evaluate it. Look for the similarities.