Girlfriend is too suave! A female DJ?

Engetsu

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Nothing beats the experienced SS people for advice on things like this.

Today, I have a simple question for you gentlemen: Is it possible for a girl to be seducing a guy the way we seduce women?

Let me explain. My current girlfriend never screws up after she lied to me once, and I found out about it. It was a meaningless lie but I used it against her.

Now, she is always putting me on a pedestal, saying that she is always thinking of me, telling me that I make her so happy, etc. I have never had a girl tell me things like this before. Plus, this is the first girl that I'm dating who is actually mature: I actually have meaningful conversations with her. Some people wouldn't see a problem with her worshipping me, but I often call BS. She then proceeds to tell me that she means every single word of it!

She also does very thoughtful things like buying me gifts for Valentine's day, making me a CD, giving me pictures of her, and never letting me pay when we go out.

But here's what made her game not seem very solid: Today, she told me the thing she likes best about me is that I treat her very delicately, and that I'm not aggressive like other guys. [WTF??? I was actually trying to be agressive, but I digress...] Sadly, I know that all girls like guys who dominate them.

This one knows how to keep me... But other than redefining my way of being aggressive sexually, what seems to be the problem here? Is this girl playing me? She's way too smooth!!!

We haven't had sex yet, but I know she's not a virgin and she thinks I'm not a virgin (even though I am, guess I lied to her about that). We haven't even talked about sex either. Is there a link between the two?

Maybe I'm actually making her feel that way, but I find it hard to believe... Help, I'm confused!
 

Genghis Juan

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Don't know all the details but I think everything is going fine. You're overanalyzing. Why would you think she is playing games? She is buying you gifts and paying for dinners. Chill out and enjoy it. Somehow, you're being a challenge because you're not all over her like the other guys. Keep up whatever it is you're doing and don't get clingy. Certainly don't whine or accusse her of playing games.
 

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Am I just being paranoid because I've never met a girl with a normal behaviour that pleased me?

This is what you get for getting your experience with psychos...
 

Genghis Juan

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Relax dude,

Have you heard anything adverse about her reputation or something? Because if you haven't, I see no need for you to be concerned.

Just relax, take it one date at a time, and just look at the bottom line. Unless the girl is super rich and wants to string along guys like gigalos, a girl does not waste her time and money on a man she is not interested in. I bet she has also dated some psychos to and appreciates your mellow behavior.

If you keep thinking negatively, it will begin to effect your game, then it will become a self-fulfiling prophesy.

Make a move for a kiss close too. ;)
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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