Hey fellas, been having an issue lately. my girlfriend (3.5 years), pretty much future wife (mutual feeling) is hanging out with a workmate of hers alot. She sees him roughly once a week for about half a day, dinner, movie, dessert etc. Just a friend and I dont doubt it, been going on for about a year, but its giving me the shlts lately. She would schedule to go out with him and leave me alone on a Friday night sometimes, and she goes and meets his friends and goes to birthday parties with them and makes new friends. But she never wants to go out and hang with my friends with me.
She's doing this because after 3.5 years you haven't proposed to her. She knows you are emotionally involved in her but won't marry her, so she's using this fact to the best of her ability. ("Lordson won't marry me, but he won't leave me either after he's invested 3.5 years worth of money and time into me and our relationship. So what I'm going to do now is get my ego stroked by this new and exciting guy, so Lordson may get jealous and angry, then it will give me an excuse to break up with him and say to him 'You are too controlling, we've grown apart, I don't think we should each other anymore' and not be the bad guy.)
Now i've been saying nothing but more and more its getting me frustrated. Theres 0% chance she'll cheat, but it gets me angry that she rather spend time with another guy than me.
Think about what you just said and read that sentence again. Analogy "There is 0% chance she'll have a Big Mac, but she keeps on going to McDonald's".
And one of my fears is that she might see something in this guy that she likes instead of me too. But thats unlikely, because i am charming and funny and good looking, and he's and ugly bugger. It doesn't seem that she is bored with me, I dunno.
It doesn't matter if you are charming, good looking, 100% funny and as rich as Brad Pitt, if this ugly bugger can make her feel things you don't, game over dude.
Anyway, i've already brought up the issue, in an annoyed tone again a few weeks ago, and she just explained that we can't always spend every waking second together and she needs time to herself. thats fair enough, i'd like time to myself to, to play games. But that should not include going out with another guy.
I know hardly anybody reads post this long but, thanks for reading. Gist is: Can men and women be friends? Hell f'ing NO.