Originally posted by CLOONEY
hahahaahhaa, calm down, I am just saying it how it is. I am not disrespecting anyone!! I am not saying EVERYONE does cheat, I am saying that EVERYONE has the possibility to cheat. No-body can trust themselves 100%, so why trust your partner 100%? I bet if there were some beautiful lady you clicked with at a bar, and she went in for the kiss, and u had a few drinks, you would kiss her back. Try to say you wouldnt maybe you wouldnt, but if it happened a few times there is a chance u would. There is a chance ANYONE would. Your girlfriend might meet a guy who she considers cuter, or nicer or sees something in him that she doesnt see in you. She will most probably cheat on you if this guy knows how to lay down his game. I have been cheated on, and I have been the person who has stolen the girl off their boyfriend plenty of times. Sh*t happens dude, deal with it!! The world is not a perfect happy place like some of the people here beleive it is! Once u realise this, and have no expectations about your woman, not only will you get many more, but you can be freer and just have fun with them!! Once u are married, then its a different story. However even then it still has been known to happen every now and then (well actually, quiet frequently, more than anyone knows)!!
Point is, in nans situation, his girlfriend has probably already cheated on him from his story!!
But thats not how it is. Not one of my friends in serious relationships have cheated. You got cheated on, which is why you feel this way.
However, i have been cheated on, i have been abandoned when i thought i was pregnant, lied to, ive had drugs chosen over me (asked the guy to give up weed for me and he wouldnt). Ive had a crap-load of bad relationships, and i have a reason to be bitter. But i'm not, because I finally found someone who is willing to accept me for me and forget about my past, and to treat me as he would want to be treated. We love each other. Just go watch
The Princess Bride and you'll see what i mean about true love.
I think you are only bitter, CLOONEY, because of your immaturity and the inability be totally and completely naked in front of a woman, and to truly give yourself up and love. I understand how hard it is. I'm not bashing you for it. You just need to learn how to
love and be
vulerable again.
And you should be able to trust the woman that you are going to marry BEFORE you marry her! I am not living in "la la land". Just because you've been cheated on, doesnt mean everyone has or will. My boyfriend doenst put himself into situations that would involve cheating. We happen to have a strong relationship and only have eyes for each other. Yes, i am slightly attracted to other men, its natural, but i would never consider anything other than friendship. I know he would say the same. Thanks, Dudeman, for sticking up for me.
Now i can see how psychological theories are proven somewhat. CLOONEY has constantly been exposed to cheating, thus he sees it as the norm. Children who grow up, constantly watching their parents hitting and fighting, see it in the media, think of violence as the norm. Its not CLOONEY's falut. He just needs to realize it isnt the norm, and how to be vulnerable.
I think the reason people cheat is because of immaturity and lack of respect. THey are only thinking of themselves, when they need to think of their significant other, their partner, their bf/gf, and they arent. They arent rotten people, they just need to work on some things. Thats why you get to know someone and their past before you get intimate.
As for wasting my time and not being young, I'll tell you, dietzcoi, I'm not. I did my "playgirl" phase and i didnt have fun. I did the hook-up thing, party, drink, i even went home with a guy on halloween and slept with him. And to tell you the truth, those are the times i'd rather
forget than remember. My good times have been with my boyfriend. Hooking up only means you long to be loved. Many people can live fully in a relationship. Some cant., and thats OK. Its up to the individual to know what they want and pursue that.
You pretty much summed the entire thing up!!! hahahaahaha, the way you wrote it was interesting.