Girlfriend Ignoring me, need advice :(

[beelze333]

Ok guys, I'll try to be short and describe the situation. So I have a relationship with this girl I like and we've been together for a month now. NOTE: I got back together with her after a year apart. Last time I broke up with her because of the same thing that's happening now. Anyway, 6 days ago she was supposed to come over to my place and we've had this planed several days ahead. The morning I call her to set the time and she tells me she can't because she has a girlfriend coming over (I know the girl) to talk about some stuff about college (over the phone that would take 5 mins). I tell her I don't like that she's replacing our plans with the first thing that comes up (on fb chat) that can be done over the phone. No reply. After 10 mins I write "Just so you know, your starting to act like last time by avoiding a serious conversation" and I go away for an hour cuz I had some stuff to do, and I notified her of that. When I come back I see her reply that goes "OMG what serious talk do you wanna have over fb". I try calling, no answer, so I write on fb "That's the point, we can't have serious talk because the first little thing that comes up negates our plans and I can't see you while you hang with everyone else but me" (something along the lines like that). After that, I try calling the night, no answer, next afternoon I call again, no answer. Note: During all of this I keep my temper in check and am nothing but calm, I didn't use a single curse word, or insulted her in anyway. Finally I get fed up and write an sms "You have 5 mins to call me, if that doesn't happen it's over. I've had an excellent attitude towards you, for you to keep doing this". Of course she doesn't call so I remove my relationship status on fb and it's been like that for 5 days now. Not a single word from her or me, but, what confuses me is, she keeps her fb status on "in a relationship". The thing is, there's no 3rd person here, I know what kind of a girl she is. The thing is, I don't understand her deal, and I know it was probably a mistake on my side to be so quick to end it. The thing is, other than this crap she pulls, I really like her and want to make it work...so many people around us are telling us that we're good together and I feel the same way. Plus, she obviously likes being with me...for the past 4 months I was working on a ship, and she contacted me cuz she heard I had some medical issues and had to come home early (not going back again) and she contacted me to see how I am, that's how we got back together. Please guys, take just a little time to help me out and give me some advice how to play this so I can get back with her. I've given her 5 days to cool off, but now I don't know what to do, should I wait, should I call? I'm as impatient and impulsive as you can get. That's a big part of why I'm in this mess. It's a wonder I didn't fly of the handle during the argument (I've never gone into rage mode with her). So again, I need advice on how to deal with this childish behavior of hers :\

P.S. I'm 23, she's 22. And sorry for the long thread, I wanted to describe my situation good

 

[Rainman4707]

Ok i'll be blunt. My advice is don't contact her again. She sees you as an average frustrated chump which is what you are when it comes to women. Harsh, but true. If you want to be successful with women, then you have come to the right place
I'm glad you have came here when you are quite young =) I would advise you to Read the DJ bible.

This girl is taking you for a ride. She's disrespecting you. Really man don't contact her at all in any way.

 

[salinechow]

I usually post long. Thank gosh I don’t have to here. There is no other advice or extrapolation needed.

Dump her. End of story.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Total train wreck, the whole thing.

First screw up? Getting back with an ex who brought drama into your life, one who clearly does not have much interest in being with you.
Second screw up? Your failure to see this low level of interest during the second tenure.
Third screw up? Your relentless drive to make it work despite an overwhelming amount of evidence that you've got a square peg in a round hole situation on your hands (as your friends are telling you).
Fourth screw up? Your impatience and impulsivity - get this handled before jumping into another relationship.

Even if there existed a minute chance of saving this one, it's not worth it. Let it go, read up as much material as you can on this site and learn from your mistakes.

 

[asa_don]

seriously dude, make your post easy for the person to read, i'm not going to read through that sh!t.

going from your title, girls ignore due to a lack of losing interest or she is bummed or pissed off at you. figure out which one it is, wait for her to contact you, if she is losing interest there is nothing you can do, end it before she ends it with you.

 

[EvilSpirit22]

This one is actually a gone case because :-

1. You have zero self respect.

2. You pedestalized your woman.

3. Your texts are way too emotional and full of insecurity.

4. You only have one option and that's why you wanna make it work.

5. You have a lower self value.

6. Stop acting like a husband.

7. The emotional texts you're sending her, that's a woman's job.

8. You are not fun to be around.

9. You DON'T LOVE YOURSELF.

What you should do?

1. Don't contact her ever again in this f*cking life.

2. Get a life.( Get better, workout, have some hobbies etc)

3. Start to love yourself.

4. Don't put women or p*ssy on a pedestal.

5. Make yourself the prize.

6. Talk to more women and start having options.

7. Read the DJ BIBLE. (You need it)

P.S. I don't like to sugarcoat things, You are a man and if you do womanly **** then you deserve these harsh words.

Be a man! And yeah stop being emotional over a woman.

 

[RangerMIke]

Your most recent break up was caused because you were upset that she sent you a Facebook chat saying she had made other plans, and that she should have called. You expressed your dissatifaction with the 'chat', with another chat.... Do you see how this is incongruent? Women hate it when we are inconsistant.

Then you delivered to her a vailed threat buy suggesting that you might break up because of this, like the last time. Making threats makes you look weak, indicating her actions are effecting you.

Then you issued a demand for her to call you. Weak... I know you think this makes you look strong but it does not. But hey, you told her 5 minutes, or it's done. IT HAS TO BE DONE. No going back, but now you are saying she has 5 days.... Sorry, if you take her back now she owns your fvcking ass until she decides to to toss you off, because you will have surrendered your control.

What you should have done is ignore her Facebook chat, not responded. You should have then just went off and did whatever you had planned without her. Then next time you see her have a calm discussion that you did not like being notified that way. It's likely she was testing you and you failed.

Your problem is too much Facebook, your obsession over her Facebook status. Recommend you delete you Facebook account so you don't find yourself doing this same stuff with your next girl. If you don;t like communication via Facebook chat then don't use it yourself. But if you can, then by all means you need to stop looking at her status.

 

[pyros]

beelze333, how come that you get back together with a girl you previously dumped a year ago?? this shows you're kind of desperate, and your following behaviour with this chick confirms it.

Advise:

this girl has no fuc-king romantic interest in you whatsoever, so erase her from your life. As someone above said, block her, and never ever contact her again cause she's just not into you. And if she is in the relationship is merely because of selfisness: she's getting something from it (resources, company...) but she's looking for something else on the side. This is the root cause of her behaviour towards you. She doesn't love you, and certainly she doesn't respect you.
Do not keep falling into her manipulations and show her the door.

Are you blind?

 

[mikey2012]

Ignore her back

 

[Greasy Pig]

Sounds like a lame excuse. Any indications of cheating?

I think this one is done anyway brother. Stay no contact and let her hamster spin while you set about becoming a DJ.
Read the DJ bible and learn as much as you can. She's shown she doesn't respect you, your time, and the relationship. Exit gracefully and find someone more worthy who treats you like someone she doesn't want to walk away.

 

[christoff522]

Ok guys, I'll try to be short and describe the situation. So I have a relationship with this girl I like and we've been together for a month now. NOTE: I got back together with her after a year apart. Last time I broke up with her because of the same thing that's happening now.

Yet you got back together, this makes you look weak..you stood for it when you should have walked and never looked back

Anyway, 6 days ago she was supposed to come over to my place and we've had this planed several days ahead. The morning I call her to set the time and she tells me she can't because she has a girlfriend coming over (I know the girl) to talk about some stuff about college (over the phone that would take 5 mins). I tell her I don't like that she's replacing our plans with the first thing that comes up (on fb chat) that can be done over the phone.

You sound like a girl, and fb chat? I've been where you are! Recently as well, the girl also went quiet, so I texted her "Okay, I won't be contacting you again. I wish you well in al your future endeavours", and then I dropped the number. Remember that you've been together for a month, and you sound like a 60 year old woman. If someone is treating you like crap LEAVE.

No reply. After 10 mins I write "Just so you know, your starting to act like last time by avoiding a serious conversation" and I go away for an hour cuz I had some stuff to do, and I notified her of that. When I come back I see her reply that goes "OMG what serious talk do you wanna have over fb".

You see sir, even she thinks this is pathetic, she had stuff to talk about, and she was probably going to do a lot of talking about YOU, whether she wants to be with you, and you acting like a complete pVssy probably drove her to make the decision that you're not worth the hassle.

I try calling, no answer, so I write on fb "That's the point, we can't have serious talk because the first little thing that comes up negates our plans and I can't see you while you hang with everyone else but me" (something along the lines like that). After that, I try calling the night, no answer, next afternoon I call again, no answer. Note: During all of this I keep my temper in check and am nothing but calm, I didn't use a single curse word, or insulted her in anyway. Finally I get fed up and write an sms "You have 5 mins to call me, if that doesn't happen it's over. I've had an excellent attitude towards you, for you to keep doing this".

You have absolutely no power and you're issuing ultimatums? Have you read the DJ bible, Anti-Dump's machine? You should have just gone quiet, you should perhaps take some anti-anxiety medication or something. You're not dating, you're in a relationship. You want to be the boss but you're way to effeminate and passive-aggressive for that to be the case.

Of course she doesn't call so I remove my relationship status on fb and it's been like that for 5 days now.

Oh wow, its over cos I changed my status :crackup:

Not a single word from her or me, but, what confuses me is, she keeps her fb status on "in a relationship". The thing is, there's no 3rd person here, I know what kind of a girl she is.

No you don't, she knows what kind of a man you are, and so she acted accordingly. You've got a lot of work to do my lad in getting those balls to drop.

The thing is, I don't understand her deal, and I know it was probably a mistake on my side to be so quick to end it.

I do, okay, let me explain. Shes going out with this guy, but he keeps acting like a sissy, he keeps wanting to talk all the time, every time she tries to do something for herself he keeps arguing and moaning about being passive-aggressive about it. She goes quiet hoping he won't text so she can have a break, but sadly no, he keeps texting and won't give up. He's so damned insecure. So she decides the best thing to do is end it so she makes an excuse to make sure she doesn't have to see him again, then he starts being all sissy-fied, talking about serious talks! Then he changes his facebook status, and ends it, just like she wanted. Truth is though, YOU DIDN'T END IT

The thing is, other than this crap she pulls, I really like her and want to make it work...so many people around us are telling us that we're good together and I feel the same way. Plus, she obviously likes being with me...for the past 4 months I was working on a ship, and she contacted me cuz she heard I had some medical issues and had to come home early (not going back again) and she contacted me to see how I am, that's how we got back together. Please guys, take just a little time to help me out and give me some advice how to play this so I can get back with her. I've given her 5 days to cool off, but now I don't know what to do, should I wait, should I call? I'm as impatient and impulsive as you can get. That's a big part of why I'm in this mess. It's a wonder I didn't fly of the handle during the argument (I've never gone into rage mode with her). So again, I need advice on how to deal with this childish behavior of hers :\

1. Its the crap YOU PULL thats the problem, shes reacting to you.
2. Why are you listening to other people?
3. You cannot get her back, she's not a dog, she made her choice
4. She's given you 5 days to get the message
5. Yes you are impatient and impulsive - and immature

YOU ARE THE CHILDISH ONE. :nono:

P.S. I'm 23, she's 22. And sorry for the long thread, I wanted to describe my situation good

Sorry to be so harsh but I hope you take it to heart and start making changes to YOURSELF (cos thats all you can change)