girlfriend grinded another guy

[everywomanshero]

This is a big trap. You feel guilty because she was having more fun than you.

Let me say this, if you had been banging a 9.5 and she grinded on some weirdo at a club, would you still have cared?

You're mad not because of her actions but because of how her actions compared to your own.

If you're really sure this is truly such a great woman for you, then by all means have it out with her and set things straight. I've done that before with good results. However, if she's just some random skirt, then I would just make sure I was getting busy myself then there is no reason to feel 'cheated' or bitter.

 

[backbreaker]

you knwo what you need? You need a good ole fashion, ball sucking *****.

seriously. you need to get your confidence updated.. and nothing gets you going like a good ole fashion, slobbing humm job

 

[zerocelcius]

dancing, no kissing.

would you dump her?


to kdnash82:

i heard about it from a few totally reliable sources. there's no question that it actually happened.

she messaged me the next morning, and acted as though like the night was boring, and that a few guys came on to her and her friends, but she pushed them away. i take her word for it, but i find out later that she was actually grinding one of them.

the issue isnt that she tried to cover up, that doesnt bother me. what disturbs me is that she actually did it.

i have not talked to her directly since i found out about this. like 12 hours ago? (awesome night hahahah)

we're dating, and she understands that its exclusive. i have been been respectful of that all the while, which is why im very troubled by this.

granted, she thought i wasnt serious about her due to my past before i met her. the thing now is that, my head says dump her.. but i really dont know

This may have already been stated but I didn't feel like reading all the responses.

Here is what I would do:

I would tell her I found out that she was dancing/grinding.

Than tell her she could have told me and that it isn't a big deal.

Tell her that the picture of her a$$ in some guy's crotch isn't the best visual, but it could be worse.

Let her respond and than comfort her in the fact that she can tell you anything.

 

[MooseGod]

Dude, if you dump her for that you are waaay insecure... What are you, Baptist? It's the way people dance to today's sh!tty music.

 

[Hullothere]

i think you're a little over confident there backbreaker. You're still pretty young and you're monogamous with one girl? As tom leykis says, "if you are young and in a relationship, you have no game or else you would be out there with multiple women."

Also I believe this goes beyond the point of insecurity. It is now a personal choice as to whether or not you believe it is disrespect or not. When you break it down she is grinding her ass on someones ****. I don't see how anyone could just put this in the black and white category of insecure or not. I don't fault people who think its ok for their girl to grind on a guy nor would I fault someone for thinking it was disrespectful. It comes down to personal preference at that point. I dont think you should dump her but let her know it is something that bothers you and see how she reacts in the future.

This is one of those gray line areas and again is not something that should be considered insecurity. It also depends on how hardcore she was dancing. When im dancing with my friends' girlfriends i usually dance about 2-3 inches away from them even though we may be going through the moves of "grinding". Its out of respect. To each his own...

 

[Bible_Belt]

Yeah, backbreaker is the biggest AFC here. That guy has no game at all. I think he's like, a virgin, or something....

 

[Hullothere]

haha im not saying breakbreaker is an AFC or anything close to that but I think he was way too quick to judgement there. At that point I believe its a personal choice of what you think is appropriate or not.

Would you be ok with your girl kissing other men when first meeting them? If not then maybe you're insecure? Some cultures view it as acceptable. Everyone is different in what they feel is appropriate or not. However you feel does not make you insecure or AFC. Its the way you react to what you deem unacceptable or acceptable which determines what type of man you are. I think that is very important to note.

 

[wayword]

When I take my GF out.. she will be hit on.. at least 3 times.

and that real man ness will do more than any whining on earth will ever do. When your GF goes out with her friends, comes homes 2 hours early, hops in the bed and just starts giving you a mindnummin BJ becuase "she was thinking about you the whole night".. in a night club.. in the middle of San Diego..

Going out with you...vs going out alone with her gf's...are 2 very different things.

"Girl's Night Out" = Sloots Night Out. She will be attention-whoring at the very least...maybe cheating at the worst. This is common knowledge, people. There's a reason why girls go to meat markets at night only with each other, instead of their bf's.

BB - maybe you got her whupped, or maybe she got you snowed. Who really knows? Girls often show extreme affection right after they just secretly did something they feel real guilty about. It's like when a guy suddenly gives his woman flowers out of the blue. Or maybe she felt demoralized by all the 20-yo hotties at the club stealing all her attention...and so scurried back early with her tail between her legs. Not saying that's what happened, just that unless you had her on candid camera, you don't know for a FACT either way. There's a fine line between being secure and naive.

I mean, if you hadn't found a powdery dollar in her purse...you think she woulda told you she had been snowblowing?

 

[sexybeast]

so let me get this straight... becuase I don't want to overract here.

you are considering dumping your GF for going to the club.. and (gasp)

DANCING?!!!!

First of all.. most women can't dance. they don't grind becuase they want to ****, they grind becuase that's all they know how to do. if you have a parrot and all he can say is "**** you buddy".. he probably doesn't mean it.. he just says it whenever het hinks it's appropiate which is all the time. Damn micky you need to learn new new phrases.

Mabye.. jus tmaybe.. she sees you for what you are acting.. like an immature little boy, and figured you couldn't handle her going otu and having a good time without acting like a chump. just my opinion.

dude.. if you want th goods.. you gotta execpt the terms. world's have been conquered, lives destoyed, riches given up, and made.. for the pursit of hot ass.

men will want your woman if she' shot. Take it as a compliment. she's yours. You can't hide a hot woman in a shell

When I take my GF out.. she will be hit on.. at least 3 times. One guy, at some point in the night, will get the balls to appraoch her with me there. Me being the DJ I am.. will not stop him. Actually.. I encourage him.. Then I have no problem telling him what he's doing wrong if he wants to know, and send him on his marry way. Or I let my babe do it. But do I get offended? God no. One of my Gf's pet peeves is that can't stand the fact that I dont' get jealous. Why? NOthing is better than seeing yourwoman being hit on in a club by every guy there.. taking her home and fvcking like rabbits all night long, k nowkng you just ook home the prize of the night

back to my GF. She has.. and admits it.. and I don't give a damn.. 2 guy "friends" (oneitis LJBF's) who will literarly do anything for her. they call her all the time and she likes them as friends but in her words "I don't think I have to tell you who I choose..do i?"

And women play on this.. women love knowing they have a real MAN at home.. and that real man ness will do more than any whining on earth will ever do. When your GF goes out with her friends, comes homes 2 hours early, hops in the bed and just starts giving you a mindnummin BJ becuase "she was thinking about you the whole night".. in a night club.. in the middle of San Diego.. youa re doing something right. and I wasn't even there. hell I was at home (Still) tryhing ot beat Metal Gear Solid 2..(man.. I just can't do it. this game has been out what now.. 4 ish years? Now it's getting personal. It's the princpal of the matter now. it's a damn game an dI"m human. a game isn't supposed to be this damn impossible. )
back to my point. Grow some balls man..

This is about the only post you need to read and understand. It's about time someone wrote some good sh1t on here.

 

[JoeDallas]

so let me get this straight... becuase I don't want to overract here.

you are considering dumping your GF for going to the club.. and (gasp)

DANCING?!!!!

First of all.. most women can't dance. they don't grind becuase they want to ****, they grind becuase that's all they know how to do. if you have a parrot and all he can say is "**** you buddy".. he probably doesn't mean it.. he just says it whenever het hinks it's appropiate which is all the time. Damn micky you need to learn new new phrases.

Mabye.. jus tmaybe.. she sees you for what you are acting.. like an immature little boy, and figured you couldn't handle her going otu and having a good time without acting like a chump. just my opinion.

dude.. if you want th goods.. you gotta execpt the terms. world's have been conquered, lives destoyed, riches given up, and made.. for the pursit of hot ass.

men will want your woman if she' shot. Take it as a compliment. she's yours. You can't hide a hot woman in a shell

When I take my GF out.. she will be hit on.. at least 3 times. One guy, at some point in the night, will get the balls to appraoch her with me there. Me being the DJ I am.. will not stop him. Actually.. I encourage him.. Then I have no problem telling him what he's doing wrong if he wants to know, and send him on his marry way. Or I let my babe do it. But do I get offended? God no. One of my Gf's pet peeves is that can't stand the fact that I dont' get jealous. Why? NOthing is better than seeing yourwoman being hit on in a club by every guy there.. taking her home and fvcking like rabbits all night long, k nowkng you just ook home the prize of the night

back to my GF. She has.. and admits it.. and I don't give a damn.. 2 guy "friends" (oneitis LJBF's) who will literarly do anything for her. they call her all the time and she likes them as friends but in her words "I don't think I have to tell you who I choose..do i?"

And women play on this.. women love knowing they have a real MAN at home.. and that real man ness will do more than any whining on earth will ever do. When your GF goes out with her friends, comes homes 2 hours early, hops in the bed and just starts giving you a mindnummin BJ becuase "she was thinking about you the whole night".. in a night club.. in the middle of San Diego.. youa re doing something right. and I wasn't even there. hell I was at home (Still) tryhing ot beat Metal Gear Solid 2..(man.. I just can't do it. this game has been out what now.. 4 ish years? Now it's getting personal. It's the princpal of the matter now. it's a damn game an dI"m human. a game isn't supposed to be this damn impossible. )
back to my point. Grow some balls man..

Where was this post 5 months ago? Would have saved me alot of trouble.

 

[kdnash82]

what backbreaker, karmasutra and biblebelt said seems like the same i said... don't be upset that she danced with some dude.. be upset that she didn't tell you the truth about it.

also backbreaker... let me know if you ever wanna hang out