Girlfriend going out to lunch w/ another guy..

[libre]

Hello Lost Australian

If I understand correctly your point of view, if your wife of more than 5 years with which you have had to children, goes for lunch with an other man, you should dump her or throw her a fit?

You will not have long relationships with your girlfriends if that it your demeanor.

If you try to restrict your girlfriend from having lunch with another man, you will be rightly be perceived as being controlling and insecure. No reasonable woman will tolerate this type of behavior for long. Quite a few men have abused of the control button with their spouses in history. Do you want to be one of them?

Come on, for the present case, the lady is not out to mate with the guy. She went for lunch!

Sure, if the girl is out to cheat on her spouse, you cannot tolerate this, but lunch!

 

[Lost In Translation]

Hello libre

If I understand correctly your point of view, if your wife of more than 5 years with which you have had to children, goes for lunch with an other man, you should dump her or throw her a fit?

ofcourse not

but please we gotta keep it in context

the man taking his girlfriend out to lunch has one goal

TO F*CK HER STUPID

maybe you guys are really " nice " and have never / would never steal another mans girlfriend

then are you qualified to help him ?

ok how about we try this

I ME LIT. i am taking her out to lunch. i plan to f*ck her.

now what ?

you still think she is safe ?

HELL NO

you gotta look at the picture WE KNOW THE SCORE

we know this guy is planning to f*ck her one way or another

are we going to allow him the TIME and multiple opportunities to get her into that position depending on his level of game ?

back to what you posted if my WIFE of 5 years was out doing this $hit i would atleast be able to recognise

SOMETHING IS WRONG

$HIT DON"T FIX ITSELF

as a man i have gotta do something to make it right

i got kids ? DAMN EVEN MORE SO

libre
You will not have long relationships with your girlfriends if that it your demeanor.

i answered your question ofcourse you don't just dump the b*tch

1. if you doing $hit right you woman digs you and isn't looking for a backup plan

THIS SHOULD NOT EVEN BE HAPPENING in a healthy relationship

libre
If you try to restrict your girlfriend from having lunch with another man, you will be rightly be perceived as being controlling and insecure. No reasonable woman will tolerate this type of behavior for long. Quite a few men have abused of the control button with their spouses in history. Do you want to be one of them?

do you wanna get hit over the head with a phone book ?

she has lunch with some dude FINE ITS ALL GOOD

she has lunch with a guy who is plotting 24/7 to f*ck her

and has told her he wants to f*ck her ITS A PROBLEM

am i getting through to you yet ?

libre
Come on, for the present case, the lady is not out to mate with the guy. She went for lunch!

she is just there for the food

LMFAO

yeah like she could be anywhere eating any food

but she has to be there eating that food

THE GUY SAID HE IS GUNNA F*CK HER

HE IS RUNNING GAME

SHE KNOWS THIS

but she goes for the food ?

damn they must serve a wicked pepper steak on tuesdays

libre
Sure, if the girl is out to cheat on her spouse, you cannot tolerate this, but lunch!

libre lets get inside her head

WHY IS SHE THERE

if you say she is there for the lunch special i am gunna slap you

SHE IS THERE FOR HIM

she is there to listen to what he has to offer

I HAVE F*CKED SOOOOOO MANY WOMEN WITH BOYFRIENDS

what do i need to be able to do this ?

TIME

having lunch with her i would be lining things up

girl : " my boyfriend libre goes to soccer practice wednesday nights "

me : " so what do you do while he is at soccer ? "

girl : " nothing i get so bored "

me : " i am doing BLAH BLAH wednesday "

girl : " wow that sounds like fun "

me : " yeah then i usually go back to my place and have a few drinks "

YOU GET THE PICTURE

My Fellow Don Juans

PLEASE DON'T LET YOUR GIRLFRIENDS GO OUT ON DATES WITH MEN LIKE ME


Lost In Translation

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[MindOverMatter]

rereading this thing.

you say she rejected him while you were gone. how do you know? i mean she is going out for lunch with the guy. if she had slept with him while you were gone, of course she'd tell you she rejected him.

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

You obviously ain't in control of the situation. If my gf wanted to have lunch with lets say her best friends since years and years and they happen to be male, THAT IS FINE!

If my gf wants to have lunch with a guy that wanted to inject a gallon of children into her, THAT'S BAD!

 

[Lost In Translation]

MindOverMatter brings up an interesting point

shark
He used to like her and tried to get w/ her over the summer when I was away

define try to get with her

how far did he get ?

shark
she rejected him and waited for me

that was nice of her lol

were you going out with her before you left for the summer ?

by summer you mean 3 months , you were gone 3 months ?

she went without sex for 3 months waiting for you ?


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[shark]

he tried to hook up with her basically..as in make out. As in he told people he liked her, and she did not agree with him and wouldnt deal with him. How do i know? I had 15 friends who were always with them and told me the deal. Oh and top of that, her best friends were trying to brainwash her to get with him and ditch me and she didnt

i made up my mind. I'm fine with it, if they do is one in a while..great good for them. I trust her, and i know she wouldn't cheat on me w/ this kid or ne1 else around her b/c there just not as good as me. thanks thread over.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Lost in Translation some of these guys will never get it.

And you know I had just listen to good o' Tom and you know there was this chick on there talking about how she is dating this guy and wanted to know if there was any way she could make her man not a pu$$y. She would try to start argue with him just to get a little drama in her life but he was to nice and caring. And she goes on how she starts talking about how her man was just letting her do anything she wants. She said "I wish he would just be a MAN and put me in my place. And just say no. I mean a girl always wants something and will always ask but doesn't mean I should get it. Its in our nature to ask." She also said she just wants to some times be dominated and tell her No. And she and Tom just goes on how she needs her a$$ cracked and what not.

The point is, is that just cause your woman says she is going to go on a lunch with her "friend" doesn't mean she really wants to go. She may just in fact give you a shyt test my friend. That’s right, she may not even want to go but she just wants to see if she will get a way with it. If her man is MAN enough to say Woman, Hell no you ain't goin’ on some lunch with a dude. In my opinion by you playing it "cool" she just lost just a little more respect for you as a MAN.


*Also she said he is 6’4 over 200 big good looking guy and looks all manly and the first few weeks or months they went out he act like a MAN and then well just came less and less of one.

 

[Lost In Translation]

shark
she did not agree with him and wouldnt deal with him

she says that but she is doing " lunch specials "

believing a womans words when her actions say different is investing in a false economy

shark
Oh and top of that, her best friends were trying to brainwash her to get with him and ditch me and she didnt

THIS IS HEAVY

now she already has a boyfriend

most b*tches try and keep chicks from cheating on their boyfriends unless there has been a core meltdown

your relationship problems are HUGE

WHY are her BEST FRIENDS trying to get your a$$ fired off the job ?

shark
i made up my mind. I'm fine with it, if they do is one in a while..great good for them. I trust her, and i know she wouldn't cheat on me w/ this kid or ne1 else around her b/c there just not as good as me

you made up your mind

but she hasn't made up hers

shark
thanks thread over

yeah i was thinking twice about posting again BUT

there are alot of young don juans who need to read your story

and it needs a conclusion

CONCLUSION :

the relationship has some SERIOUS problems

her best friends are trying to destroy the relationship

telling her to cheat and best friends have alot of sway with women

some guy wants to f*ck her brains out and is being given plenty of opportunity to work on her ( if he already hasn't as MindOverMatter stated )

how many of these problems has shark decided to address ?

NONE

he has chosen the PUT IT IN THE TOO HARD BASKET

shark you say your woman is trustworthy against a FLOOD of pressure from this man who you allow access to and her best friends

but riddle me this

IF SHE IS SO STRONG WHY DOES SHE TEMPT FATE ?

WHY IS SHE STILL SEEING HIM ?

if you are her sun moon and stars

i hope that question lingers with you shark and i hope you get up the courage to face your fears and repair your relationship

all the best


Lost In Translation

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Quote: Player_Supreme
“ Your woman in my opinion shouldn't be talking to an ex. It's ok to have men friends but friends whom she used to suck their dycks is not in my picture. “

 

[Lost In Translation]

OneArmDeeJay
In my opinion by you playing it "cool" she just lost just a little more respect for you as a MAN.

i agree 100%

women test the boundaries of a relationship to see what your about

BE A MAN


Lost In Translation

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Quote: Player_Supreme
“ Your woman in my opinion shouldn't be talking to an ex. It's ok to have men friends but friends whom she used to suck their dycks is not in my picture. “

 

[libre]

Well Lost

As you do have all the answers and are finding your way as you see fit, or even on running around on your terms, do net waiver in your determination. From my point of view, as you are on the far side of the earth, I will try not worry about the potential ravages that you could lay about.

AS for Shark, I maintain my point of view; you have the right attitude, relax and don't make a fuss about it. Much ado about nothing.

 

[arutha]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
just tell her that if she wants to go on lunches with guys that like her that she should give you notice, so you can do the same with girls that are interested in you. after all, if that's the kind of relationship she wants, that's perfectly ok with you.

tell me what she says.

I agree with that ^

If it really is just lunch, then she won't care. If its more, she'll be thinking about you in the same situation and will start getting insecure. Out of all the suggestions in the thread, thats the one I like the best.

 

[DJDamage]

Do you know how to cook a cake Shark?

Well I don't but if you give me the ingridents neccessary to make a cake I will eventually be able to find the right formula to do so.

That is what her friend is trying, to find the right formula to seduce your girlfriend. You know that, he knows that and she knows that. You think that he won't try?? you think he will give up so easily just because she told him she has a boyfriend?

I was that guy too once, I was the friend who knew she had a boyfriend and cooked up his own formula to try and have her.

How did I do it, here is my formula:

I used kino+humor+badmouthing+alcohol+actiondate

See that chick used to call me when her boyfriend was too buzy for her. I slowly broke her barriers that she placed on our "friendship" by introducing "kino Humor". What is kino humor?

example: we are playing pool as "friends"

Me: "hey great shot sinking that in" I smack her ass (we did have a drink before that)

Her: "shocked look on face" I can't believe you just did that, I have a boyfriend you know.

Me: oh my bad, you know I almost forgot I was playing with a girl, it brought me back to the old days I used to play football and I smacked a guy's ass for scoring a touch down its what guys do, and I thought you told me you were one of the guys" (haha humor)

Her: yeah true, but you also grabbed it (that is where she smiled)

Me: you are just making excuses because you are losing, now get your head back into the game. (see how I changed the subject)

By slowly building trust and increase the kino and humor I was slowly breaking down her walls of defence.

You know how chicks analyze every fvcking thing their boyfriend is doing??? well I was the guy who gave her "the guy perspective" and I bashed him good! she ate it up! Every time you two have a fight or you forget to do something, she will go to him and he will make you look like the biggest a$$hole on the planet.

I even massaged her shoulders in the car a few times. Chicks often let their guy friends who they "trust" to that because they see it as harmless. But we both know that massaging is not harmless at all!! but alot of those chicks are too naive or too stupid and some sh1t ends up happening.

All he needs to find is the right formula. Maybe one day you two will have a fight where you will make her cry and she needs some alcohol, a shoulder to cry and a massage in his car to make her feel good. I think you know where its headed.

He is your enemy. He likes her.

He is there to sabotage your relationship.

He is doing something. You are doing nothing.

Its only a matter of time.

Put your foot down. Do something.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Originally posted by arutha
I agree with that ^

If it really is just lunch, then she won't care. If its more, she'll be thinking about you in the same situation and will start getting insecure. Out of all the suggestions in the thread, thats the one I like the best.

I'm glad you like it, this piece of advice has been field tested numerous times.

One girl I dated was a hardcore clubber (3-4 nights a week), and used to love going on girls nights out. To me this wasn't a girl who was girlfriend material, but I liked hanging out with her and didn't want to break it off.

So I sat her down and basically said "look, i don't really like the fact you go out with your girls all the time, wear skimpy outfits and get drunk and hit on by guys, but at the same time, I'm a better person then this and I shouldn't let it bother me. Maybe the best thing for me to do is start going clubbing as often as you with my boys (and this bothered her, since she knew that all of my friends, unlike me at that time were still players, and she was worried that I'd go back to being that way)."

As soon as I told her that, she started telling me how she doesn't want me to be bothered by this and that she'll do anything to fix it. I told her it wasn't necessery, and that I'd take care of it. So friday comes along and she tells me her girls want to go clubbing. I was like ok cool, I'll call up my brothers (my former frat bros who I wing with normally), and as soon as I said that, she said she didn't really want to go clubbing and that we should stay in and watch a movie. So we did that instead.

The best way to make somebody stop doing something that bothers you is not to tell them or order them to stop it, but to put them in a situation where it will bother them.

Either that, or dump her like everyone says (which is what I did eventually over different reasons).