Girlfriend gets assaulted at a party by her ex

[Matt Rogers]

She seems to think that if she is not successful in the UK she can complain to the police in her country. Im guessing that is another of her fantasies.

At the back of my mind i do wonder if she'll tell lies to her parents and they'll come over and try to kill me. You do sometimes read about that sort of thing in the news. But i imagine her parents would not believe her and even if they did wouldn't do anything about it just ask what she was doing in the first place with an English guy.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Cabal, she was staying with a friend of her family while she was in London. I did consider having a word with them as they know her parents but probably she'd just tell a pack of lies to her parents and they'd believe her. I've heard of honour killings but I doubt it would go that far.

She is threatening to tell my parents and while they would support me they would be very disappointed with me for getting involved with a muslim girl.

Should I bother clearing the air with my parents so they are ready if she does come over to see them? She seems to think she can get them to give her the money. Or is it unlikely she'd bother and i should tell my parents if and when she goes to see them.

 

[DJDamage]

She is threatening to tell my parents and while they would support me they would be very disappointed with me for getting involved with a muslim girl. .

Can't you get a restraining order?!

 

[shaunuk]

You couldn't make this sh1t up.

It's hard to believe she asked for you to go together to the police station. Has she actually managed to convince herself that you raped her, or does she somehow believe her "seduction" was a crime?

Unbelievably weird.

Does she actually think you CARE that it'll cause her problems in her own country? As in, does she actually think you GIVE TWO SH1TS, even though she's basically trying to get you jailed?

Unbe-fvcking-lievable.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Well when I was at the policestation I told the policeman that she wanted to prosecute me for seducing her and "stealing" her virginity. I swear that he was trying to hide a grin. He said something realy wise:

"Son, women let themselves be seduced, it takes two people."

 

[Cabal]

Get a restraining order. Immediately.

As for honor killings, normally it's the girl that gets it.

Besides, without their ticking backpacks, we can take them.

 

[RMM]

Should I bother clearing the air with my parents so they are ready if she does come over to see them? She seems to think she can get them to give her the money. Or is it unlikely she'd bother and i should tell my parents if and when she goes to see them.

Just my two cents about the parent thing. First off, as it's been said, see if you can get a restraining order, then you simply go to your parents, tell them you have a restraining order, and that they should call you immediately if the b!tch starts something with them.

As far as whether to talk with them and clear all out or not, here's something to think about. Turns out the girl was a mistake, and they didn't want something like that. Well, tough sh!t, it happens, but going back to this:

She is threatening to tell my parents and while they would support me they would be very disappointed with me for getting involved with a muslim girl.

You're about to find out what kind of parents you really have. "Disappointed" is an interesting word, because it can also be a code for "guilt-trip". If they really support you, they'll understand that you're out there doing your thing, learning from your own life, and that it won't necessarily be what they had in mind; if not, then you'll have to accept that you're going to have to distance yourself from your parents quite a bit if you do want to do your thing. It may be a harsh thing to say, but nothing like a crisis to bring out people's true colors. I've been there.

Don't be intimidated by what they may or may not think, think of it as an opportunity to learn from how they'll conduct themselves.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Hilarious. She sends me an email tonight saying she is so sorry for everything and loves me so much and was worried about my health so she will not go to the police (like I care!) or talk to my parents. She said she wants to get back together and knows it was not my fault that we slept together. But if I loved her I would pay her £3000. If I do not God will understand and make my life miserable and cause many bad things to happen to me.

I am impressed. Emotional blackmail is so much classier. It is also a great preparation for when I get married and my wife wants money for a new dress.

Im not sure there is a God. But if there is such a thing as karma this little miss is in for quite a ride in life.

Its obvious to me now she was bluffing all along and in any case i have nothing at all to worry about so ive cut all contact blocked her phone number and if she does try to come to my house i will get a restraining order.

You guys have been absolutely amazing and if i could buy every one of you a drink i would. With girls like that on the loose its good there is a place where men look out for each other.

Ive learnt my lesson. Screen for nut jobs and walk away at the first sign of craziness or manipulativeness.

Peace out

 

[Dante420]

Scold her

Beat his ass

Simple

 

[horaholic]

Scold her

Beat his ass

Simple

Did you even read this thread?

 

[Dante420]

Did you even read this thread?

:nono:

Briefly mister

 

[horaholic]

so, why did you write that?

 

[Evzone]

Why do you stay in touch with her?

Really, at the point things are at, any contact you have with her should be through your lawyer. If you have something to tell her, which you probably don't since she is just going to play mind games with you, tell your lawyer to tell her.

Edit: This isn't a power game but also a matter of limiting all liability. Furthermore, there is no reason for you to be talking to this psycho.

 

[DJDamage]

Hilarious. She sends me an email tonight saying she is so sorry for everything and loves me so much and was worried about my health so she will not go to the police (like I care!) or talk to my parents. She said she wants to get back together and knows it was not my fault that we slept together. But if I loved her I would pay her £3000. If I do not God will understand and make my life miserable and cause many bad things to happen to me.

This email she send you is pure gold, she has no defence now because this evidance is all you need.

Block her email and phone and that should be the end of that.

 

[mpimpin]

Ignore her but if you do end up talking to her save all messages, record conversations etc.

DO NOT pay her.
You can pick up a lawyer that will scare her off for far less

 

[Cabal]

I'm still smiling over my ticking backpack line.