Girlfriend gave me confidence, but now I'm curious

[masterpiece]

just reading this thread, 40 lays is a huge number, i just made a thread discussing my current g/f who has slept with 10 and im concerned about that.

This has tought me one thing tho, like the guys here say, no good can come by knowing about her previous sex life.

Dont settle with her tho man, if you like her stay with her for a while surly she can teach you a thing or forty haha, seriosly tho , stay with her if you want to, but if u want to be single and f**k other girls do it.

 

[theunflushables]

Yeah, 40 is an alarming number. But this really isnt about that is it? You said that she had her cake and is eating it too, but you want to do the same. You're not ready for a LTR and at 22 I don't blame you. No one should be settling down that young.

Be true to yourself and dump her and go out and have your fun.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

If you've recently gotten together and she's already admitted to fvcking FORTY guys, dude you need to accept that it's inevitably way higher than that.

And of course she's going to say she's "ready to settle down" and BLAH BLAH BLAH what do you think she told all those other suckers? I wouldn't put too much into this, you're going to be on RED ALERT all the time because you're about to fall in love with a *****.

And if you stick around, she'll give the same story to the guy she dumps you for.

 

[terran2k]

everytime I read this thread I keep thinking of that scene from clerks.

clerk: 37! my girlfriend sucked 37 d!x
customer: .... in a row?

 

[fbplayer06]

I think you guys are being too hard on her. Yes, she did/does have daddy issues and she did screw a lot of guys when she was younger due to self-esteem issues, but she's a different person nowadays and that's why I'm with her. I understand that she met & banged a new guy every few months during high school and college in search of a relationship, but that sex didn't mean anything to her compared to what she knows she has with me now.

And as far as me settling, to be perfectly frank, none of you know what type of woman she is and the reason I haven't dumped her already to **** other girls is because I value her as a person. What I have taken from this thread/discussion is that I care for her as an interesting person and a loving girlfriend more than I value upping my number or banging other women.

This place is a jungle; y'all can be judgmental as hell sometimes. o_0

 

[brekke]

Now you sound like a fag. A fag with a wh0re for a girlfriend.

 

[fbplayer06]

Now you sound like a fag. A fag with a wh0re for a girlfriend.

She's banged just one guy since the start of this year: me. To say she's a wh0re is ridiculous. Years ago, yes, she was easy and slept with a sh!tload of guys and has a number higher than your average 23 year old, but what does it matter? You idiots keep judging her for what she's done instead of who she is today.

I'm actually sorry I came to this circus for advice. It's just a bunch of single idiots mindlessly regurgitating terms and concepts they read in the DJ Bible. Good luck keeping a girlfriend with the mindsets you've descended into while lurking these boards every night.

Peace out, "players."

 

[Perfect10]

People change. OP forget about these KBJ they're just jealous that you're atleast getting laid, even if it's with a girl that's had sex with 40 different guys.

I myself can tell you that I lost my virginity when I was 13, I'm now 20 and have had sex with about the same amount of women that she has had with guys. I'm not a "stud" or "giggolo", just a normal guy that was having fun, can you judge a person for having fun? If feels like **** right now, but it'll pass.

The problem with this site is that it's about f*cking as many women as you can (not saying it's wrong lol) but to ask about LTR question, well this isn't the place since 90% of these guys haven't even had a real girlfriend and probably 70% are still virgins or have had sex once or twice by luck.

If she's nice and awesome then you should be with her, if the 40 seems too much then you know what to do.

 

[zekko]

everytime I read this thread I keep thinking of that scene from clerks.

clerk: 37! my girlfriend sucked 37 d!x
customer: .... in a row?

That chick from Clerks has got nothing on this broad.

 

[Kirro]

She's banged just one guy since the start of this year: me. To say she's a wh0re is ridiculous. Years ago, yes, she was easy and slept with a sh!tload of guys and has a number higher than your average 23 year old, but what does it matter? You idiots keep judging her for what she's done instead of who she is today.

Ah the classic rationalizations of the AFC mind. You will just have to pay the dire consequences, either being cheated on in the near future or in a crappy marriage out of desperation where this chick can use her 40 man cvnt to manipulate you.

I'm actually sorry I came to this circus for advice. It's just a bunch of single idiots mindlessly regurgitating terms and concepts they read in the DJ Bible. Good luck keeping a girlfriend with the mindsets you've descended into while lurking these boards every night.

Peace out, "players."

You're the only clown here.:crackup: One more AFC lost to desperation, I won't lose a wink of sleep & neither will the others.

People change. OP forget about these KBJ they're just jealous that you're atleast getting laid, even if it's with a girl that's had sex with 40 different guys.

Naw she hasn't changed at all, this is #41 in her web. Are you the almight shaman azham that you can tell if complete strangers are jealous?

I myself can tell you that I lost my virginity when I was 13, I'm now 20 and have had sex with about the same amount of women that she has had with guys. I'm not a "stud" or "giggolo", just a normal guy that was having fun, can you judge a person for having fun? If feels like **** right now, but it'll pass.

That's easy to say coming from you because the OP wants to experience what you had, even I think calling the chick a ***** is a bit much but he should never be in an LTR THIS YOUNG with a chick WHO HAS HAD THAT MUCH ACTION.

The problem with this site is that it's about f*cking as many women as you can (not saying it's wrong lol) but to ask about LTR question, well this isn't the place since 90% of these guys haven't even had a real girlfriend and probably 70% are still virgins or have had sex once or twice by luck.

Either you're a shaman or you work for the government & have pulled up files on every member.

If she's nice and awesome then you should be with her, if the 40 seems too much then you know what to do.

This girl should be a friend with benefits AT BEST. Deep down the dumb*ss wants to screw around, he's not getting what he wants but his girl is, he's weak & your encouraging it.

 

[DonJuanit0]

I'm actually sorry I came to this circus for advice.

I'm actually sorry your girl has had a whole circus before you...
We are neither jealous of what you have neither we are some mean people who don't want you to have your LTR, do w/e you want...

You came for advices and got them... No reason to offend anyone cause you're lost in infatuation...

 

[AmIAFC]

OP, I'm not going to belittle you or your lady, but think of the situation this way:

If you met a girl that's visited 41 different countries, how long do you honestly think it'll be before she feels a craving to "venture out" again? Do you believe in your heart of hearts that she'll stay put, in the same location (i.e. Your ****), for an extended period of time before feeling restless?

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

"Girlfriend gave me confidence"

That's where this guy is coming from.

Girls don't give you confidence. They temporarily inflate your ego and make you feel loveable, desired, and studly. But when the rug gets pulled out from under you, man oh man is that a sh!tty feeling. The real confidence comes from within, and it has to be earned. No short cuts.

I went through that sh!t when I was 22, hell let this know-it-all little kid get his heart ripped out. Let's just not tear his head off when he comes back with his tail between his legs.

 

[Sandow]

I've been in your situation before and I hated it. It's purely an ego thing, It sucks that you haven't gone out, had fun and fukked a bunch of girls...while on the other hand, your girlfriend was out slutting it up with the entire football team.

So, my advice as well as everyone else on here, is to be single and have fun and try to eff as many girls as possible.

That's what I did, and I feel sooooooo much better knowing that I have effed the world. I've done and see it all. I feel complete. Now whenever I get into my next relationship I won't have to say what if or worry about how many dudes she's been with.

Again it's purely an ego thing. Would you feel different if she only slept with girls instead of guys? Most guys wouldn't care if it were girls because like I said it's purely a macho ego thing.

 

[CuriousGirl]

You're only 22....you're not getting married are you? You've got the rest of your life to sleep with other women. You should make the most of a good thing while it last otherwise you'll regret it, it sounds like you've got a good thing with this girl so don't ruin it for a shag. Save the shagging around for after your relationship has run it's course, that way you'll enhoy it more instead of questioning if it was worth the sacrifice. If you're quesitoning it now you'll either still be questioning or regretting after.

 

[Warrior74]

You're only 22....you're not getting married are you? You've got the rest of your life to sleep with other women. You should make the most of a good thing while it last otherwise you'll regret it, it sounds like you've got a good thing with this girl so don't ruin it for a shag. Save the shagging around for after your relationship has run it's course, that way you'll enhoy it more instead of questioning if it was worth the sacrifice. If you're quesitoning it now you'll either still be questioning or regretting after.

Now, see that is some good womanly advice. All you have to do is the exact opposite.

If you stay with this girl, knowing what you know. It will eat at you because you are insecure about it. A woman does not give you confidence. Accomplishing goals and living the life you want gives you confidence. If getting a "girlfriend" was a goal and you achieved it, then that achievement gave you confidence, but HER as a person did not. If you can get one girlfriend you can get another. You know that now.

Never ask about a woman's past. You really don't want to know and at best you may force her to lie, at worst you force her to tell you the truth. Neither will satisfy the man insecure enough to even ask.

Now that you know, its going to take probably more than you have to get it out of your head. So listening to this person's advice is not going to help you. Oh parts of it is brilliant. You are 22 and you do have the rest of your life, and if you are not getting married....(that's where the good parts end)...if you're not getting married, go and play the field. If you have these sorts of doubts and fears the relationship is already on it's way to being over. The poison as been poured into the well. There are more women out there and there are other good relationships to be had while you are young. Go and enjoy yourself, you are too young to live with these sorts of crippling self doubts and insecurities. This is about you and your life, not about her and her sex life. This is about you finding out about yourself as a man.

Go forth young man and see what's out there. Be not afraid nor apologetic for what you want. A man goes and gets what he wants. You want more? Go get it. Nobody is going to get it for you, and no one is going to coddle you and tell you it's all good. It's your choice. Always remember that...you have a choice and the life you lead stems directly from the choices you make. If you are miserable and do nothing about it, there is no one to blame but yourself. Good luck.