Girlfriend Gaining Weight... What to do...

[GuyInNeed]

I've been with her for a couple years. She was thin for a long time, but the past few months she's gotten bigger. Not huge and unattractive, but enough to bother me.

I think it's a result of her job...she's around junk food all the time and eats a lot of it. But what's the best way to get her to lose weight and not make her feel badly about herself and make the problem even worse?

I don't want to get rid of her, I like the other things she does for me and the other aspects of her. But I don't want to be with a girl who is only 19 and is already getting lazy about her looks...

 

[fezz]

bring up a suggestion about you two going to a gym sometime and then try to go regularly. make sure you suggest that you both go and not just her

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

This is entirely up to her.

It happens alot.
It seems many women, once they reach the age of about 20 start to put on a few pounds. It may only be a slight weight increase 5-10 lbs but I've seen quite a few girls balloon up 40 lbs.

It seems like they get lazy. It could be stress-related. How many women do you know that sit and pig out on junk whenever they're feeling down? Comfort foods are a women's best friend.

Only the active, health concious one's will stay thin and trim. You never can tell.

Some women are genetically prone to weight gain and others can't gain a pound if they tried.

Sugar is the killer. Most of the girls i know have huge sweet tooths. Their metabolisms are already much lower than men's plus the added sweets they eat regularly makes them put on those few pounds.

I've been in your place many times. I'm pretty shallow when it comes to this issue. If I'm no longer physically attracted to a girl, because she got big, i leave her.

Sounds cruel but I keep very fit and I'd expect the same from her.


The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[Zossima]

I suggest that when you're horseing her that she does the work. At least til she sheds a few pounds. Lay back and enjoy it.

 

[smooth666]

If she ever asks you: "Am I too fat" or "what so you think of my ass" tell her " yes you are" or " your ass looksd like a horse's...".

Do not smile just say it as if you really mean it. Make comments on slim girls etc.

Try to get her into a more healty living. Do salats for dinner . WTF do I know...


Take care!

 

[Dirtheart]

It is important for her own benefit that somebody tells her before it goes any further. She will be offended for a while but she will appreciate it, because some people don't even realise they're getting noticeably fat until it gets out of hand. Then they lose self-esteem and sometimes binge more.

When I was fat most people said things like "You're just a big guy" or "You're stocky", but one day a mate looked me in the face and told me "You really need to lose weight. You could be a good looking guy and you'd be a lot healthier if you did". He told me straight and seriously. I was embarrassed and upset, but I am indebted to him as I immediately went on a diet and got in shape.

It's difficult, it might seem cruel, but tell her straight. If she resents you and does nothing about it, then your conscience is clean if you lose your attraction to her some time for now.

If roles were reversed and there was something she didn't find attractive about you, I'm sure you would want to know about it so that you could change it. Right?

 

[Julian]

Yeah tell her straight out. Who cares if she feels bad, being fat is not a good thing and if shes getting fat SHE SHOULD FEEL BAD ABOUT IT!

Thats my word.

 

[SparkleMotion]

Yeah I would just let her know that she is getting noticeably bigger. It is rude, but whatever. I'm very active and in shape, I don't see why she shouldn't be.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

As a gift, give her a one-month membership to the gym!!!

 

[Vigilante7]

Its a very sensitive area, so you have to watch out, but here is the perfect line:


"Lose some weight lardas$ or im dumping you faster then you can say 'kirspy kreme' "

Works all the time!

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by Vigilante7
Its a very sensitive area, so you have to watch out, but here is the perfect line:


"Lose some weight lardas$ or im dumping you faster then you can say 'kirspy kreme' "

Works all the time!

comedy. pure comedy.

cruel yet effective in an "i'm not scared of you" kind of way. i like.

 

[jseib]

Like one of the guys said start doing more physical activities togather... I'd start out going for walks or jogs by yourself but let her know your doing it then start inviting her along (since you started before asking her you can blame it on just wanting company or motivation) then bring up the idea of a gym membership after a few weeks or so.. Could always try and get her to switch jobs... ?

Otherwise ya the only way is to just out and say it..

 

[Life-Trainee]

You can encourage eating healthier food.

 

[ChesterB]

You could pat her on the belly (or butt) and say "I think you gained some weight."

I also like the thing with the physical activities you do together.

Let us know what you do and how she reacts!

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

If you've been with her for a few years, whatever you're going to say (or hint at) will hurt her and you'll never hear the end of it.

A person should *want* to remain trim and healthy. Schemes like buying her a gym membership or encouraging healthy eating (even if it's for the both of you) will only elicit a negative reaction from her to the effect of "we've been together so long, you should love me for me, and not for how I look. I'd love you if you put on weight".

Eventually, you have to decide whether you can accept that this person will put on more weight as time passes. Or you'll have to accept that she'll resent you for a LONG time if she suspects that you are covertly hinting that she has become less disarable to you because of all the fat.

 

[00Kevin]

you say, "yes, you are getting fat dear, but it makes you look cute." and poke her.

Works for me all the time.

I recall this one girl telling me that she had to go to the gym and work out. I just looked at her and said,"yep".

She told me that I wasn't supposed to agree with her.

Later on I told her how attractive she was and I got some.

 

[Survivor]

Do YOU work out?

The reason I ask this is because there's a way to encourage her to take up a healthier lifestyle.

Before leaving, tell her "Hey I'm going to the gym. Wanna join me?

Or picture this situation...

Her: Where were you yesterday?

You: At the gym. I worked out for a few hours and I feel great. I also found this healthy recipe on the net that I wanna try out. Wanna help me cook it?

Set an example for her by taking on a healthier lifestyle for yourself and see if your positive attitude will rub off on her.

 

[Nate235]

Survivor, probably has the best answer.

Don't ever tell a girl they are fat you will for sure lose them. Most of them are just way to sensitive, however if you think you can get any girl then by all means what have you got to lose, other then being labeled an ass by everyone she meets.

 

[ToP DoN]

just tell her youre concerned for her health

 

[DankNuggs]

"You wanna know what your problem is b1tch....Too much pie..."