girlfriend disappeared with our baby

[Mrgoodguy301]

Hey guys, I really need some advise fast.. I started dating a girl in 2012. When we first got together she was cold and distant, she even made fun of me. When I broke up with her she started screaming and crying begging me not to leave her! That's not even half of it. Fast forward one month later, we have sex. Guess what happens? She gets pregnant, but I did not know it yet. Things got bad again, she was a bad know it all type also. She treated me like I was completely stupid so i stopped taking her calls. Well few months later I answer her call she needs a pregnancy test and I took her one and it was positive. She stopped talking to me for several months. I begged her to take me back and she did AFTER her ex that she always bragged about died. So then I start not feeling right about her like something was off. I started catching her in lies, she claimed she was raped twice but her story would change. She said she never talked to exes but how would she know so much about them currently if she didn't? She only had guy friends. Fast forward April 2,2014.. the night before that was fine, we had amazing sex and she mentioned marriage again, next morning she got up with me while I was getting ready for work and followed me to the bathroom after my shower it was sex again she packed my lunch for work then at noon that day the messages stopped. When I got home she was gone. It's been five months of complete silence. She drives by my house when I'm gone that's it. She was lazy and didn't work and hardly took care of our baby. I did hire an attorney. Will she come back??? I honestly think she's borderline personality disordered. She left some things here, her diary is scary! Talks about these male friends dating other girls and how dare they screw her over.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Priority #1 - Get a paternity test.

Your lawyer can have the court order the test. The deal is that you have no rights until paternity is established, and then you still have no rights until the court grants you visitation rights after you agree to pay child support. If you don't do that, she can keep you from ever seeing the kid. It's not parental kidnapping until she goes against a court order that allows you visitation at designated times.

As it stands right now, at least you don't have to pay child support. She might know or at least suspect that you are not the father, which is why she has neglected to turn you into the court system to collect support.

 

[Mrgoodguy301]

Oh I'm on the birth certificate. It's not kidnapping because of some flaw. The lawyers are doing what they can. But seriously think I'm dealing with a psycho.

 

[Mrgoodguy301]

How can you completely talk about marriage and screw your boyfriend twice and wash his clothes then simply disappear? Dumping him with silence but drive by his house which is out of the way?

 

[Mrgoodguy301]

Come on guys i need some advise here

 

[TheSlasher]

Dude, I don't know. But I'm not even sure what your problem was; your suspected baby? Or her dumping you?

I hate to say this, but you sound like you have a lot of work to do on yourself. The way you sound in this post screams like you can't live without that woman and jesus, I feel like looking at a disaster of a person by reading this.

If I was in your place, I would tell myself that this relationship is not doing me any good at all. Get out of that relationship, and make the most out of your lawyers by asking them what to do so she can't screw up your future using that baby. Jesus, get out of that relationship, I don't know you but I can really feel how messed up this has made you, and you can't recover your peace of mind by getting her back. You will be in that cycle of short happiness and then disgusting mental torture again and again. Again, get out of that relationship, and make the most out of your lawyers by asking them what to do so she can't screw up your future using that baby. Your sanity is more important than her or any woman's pu**y.

 

[logicallefty]

My ex bigamist wh0re pulled this stunt on the father of their two kids years before I was in the picture. He and I are friends now so that's how I know about it. She sure as hell never told me.

In 2002 he and her were living in Pennsylvania as BF/GF but had two kids. She met a guy at a gas station. Then two weeks later goes to the courthouse and marries the guy from the gas station. That was her first count of bigamy at that point because at that time she was still married to a guy from a 1992 marriage BEFORE that. (( Her 2nd count of bigamy was marrying me in 2009 and at that point she hadn't disolved the bonds of matrimony with either of the first two marriages)) ... anyway... back to my point..

One day she brings her new husband home, he holds the BF at gunpoint, takes the two kids, and flees to New Mexico.

The BF spends months tracking her down and finally does. Gets a court order in Pennsylvania, drives to New Mexico, pulls his two kids out of school, shows the police the court order from Pennsylvania, and drives back to Pennsylvania.

She left him for new c0ck and I would bet 6 months pay your wh0re has done the same with you. If you really think that's not the case you can always file a missing person's report on her and your presumed baby.

I know its hard to face reality that there are women that are really this bad of human beings, and hard to face that YOUR woman is that bad. But they really are. Some women are just skum and don't even deserve to be called human. Your woman leaving with kids that are presumed as yours sounds like the same kind of trash I dealt with.

Otherwise, I agree with Bible_Belt on what he told you. Bible is very knowledgeable with this kind of stuff. Step #1 find out of the kid is even yours, then go from there.

 

[Mrgoodguy301]

Guys she just disappeared plain and simple the day she left we screwed twice and washed my clothes. And yeah I am a wreck right now. I took care of the baby. I found out from my private detective my ex and her mom changed there names. I need advise on how to find them and what kind of woman I'm dealing with.

 

[mangotot]

First and foremost you need to teack them down. Try a private investigator because I reckon they'd do a better job then cops ( probably to do with the fact you are paying for it out of your own pocket rather then the state).

Edit: I didn't read your post(s) properly, you have hired a private detective already.

 

[Anteros]

Wouldn't this topic be more suited for.. I don't know.. the Police?

 

[Mrgoodguy301]

No the police will not do anything because she willfully disappeared her and I were engaged she ask me to marry her. I know that's weird but she feared losing me. Because we are NOT married it's not kidnapping. Guys I saw major red flags but Damn she just had this thing about her and trust me I'm not easily fooled. Her diaries she left paints a dark picture of her.