Girlfriend Cried And Left After Sex!!!

[Warrior74]

you guys are a bunch of douchebags...man stop worrying about why she cried. be a freaking man here. Talk to her and ask her what she was feeling and shut up and let her talk. You don't know the reason so stop listening to all this speculation. I've known women who cried after sex because it was just great sex, or because they have a lot going on and they need the emotional release, or they lost a love one and just wanted to feel alive and release some emotion. So don't assume the worst. Don't apologize for jack **** unless she tells you she felt violated in anyway. be a normal person and talk to her and listen and ignore all these people in this thread with their naysaying. Watch, listen and learn and react accordingly. Christ people...good luck.

 

[eatgel]

situation update. I talked to her and apologized to her because I know that I was way too forceful on her and should have handled this matter more maturely. We scheduled for a dinner tonight, and I am going to make sure that I make her feel appreciated and loved. Not probably going to have sex with her for a couple of days but if so, I am going to make sure she is ready and make it seem really innoccent and romantic hehe

 

[KontrollerX]

"I talked to her and apologized to her because I know that I was way too forceful on her and should have handled this matter more maturely."

You did nothing wrong.

You've set a bad precident in the relationship where you apologize when again you did nothing wrong.

Even Penkitten says not to apologize for other people's mistakes.

What are you going to do next? Apologize if she gets mad at you for stubbing her toe??

Your girl fvcked up, your girl was immature and now you go and say oh I'm sorry baby I was too aggressive.

What the fvck are you thinking?

Its up to your girl to first explain herself to you if she can get up the maturity to do so and tell you why she left crying and then you shake your head and say calmly "I understand but it was never my intention to make you feel so worthless and unloved" but yeah you don't fvcking directly apologize if your intent was not to hurt her in the first place.

You can coddle her with comforting words like the example I gave you but an actual apology for you just being yourself and going after what you wanted?

Fvck that.

Once again you set the precident that anything that upsets her in her life or your relationship you'll be apologizing for even if you are not at fault and sure I know you guys do this because you think it will secure you a particular pvssy for a long time to come but all it does is gradually begin the process of your woman walking all over you and beginning to disrespect you and test your limits by getting you to apologize for things that are actually her fault and continually more and more outrageous sh!t until you are a complete pvssy whipped lapdog.

Doing things this way will not help a woman of any age to mature.

 

[RFish]

KontrollerX lay out the advise pretty well as usual. And as aggressive as giving advise as usual as well LOL.

I really can't judge and I'm not going to judge either because the story wasn't clear and there might be other issues so I'm not going into who's right who's wrong who's at fault stuffs.

Generally speaking it is not good to apologise if you are not at fault or small little things. Maybe it is your nature to do this but try to get around that just try to change it.

If you apologise too frequently, your apologies loses it's value. In addition you are not going to get the respect you deserve because you did not stand your ground when you needed to. So being us all humans we will take more and more and the disrespect gets worse.

I think you need to let her know what you wasn't comfortable with and stuffs if not this is bound to repeat. She will learn quickly how you react and if there is a quarrel she will replay the scene and you will go all apologetic.

What happens if both parties refuse to apologise? Usually there isn't much problem as well because it happens occasionally and couples can still get back together without apologising.

I was gonna tell you my experience about this but it will take too long and I will eat into your thread but all that I'm saying is from experience. If you think it make sense then try to utilise it

 

[The Logical Player]

do NOT take her to dinner and drop $$ on her, she is not worth it.

She is going to think she get use you for $$ if you reward her bad behavior (crying after sex for no reason IS bad behavior) by taking her out to dinner.

You already showed her how much affection you have for her when you gave her the prize of feeling you inside her p*ssy, and you are not obligated to go spend money as if this is some prostitute that you feel the need to pay for.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Apologizing is a mistake as others said. Maybe you had too rough of sex for her if she was complaining that it "hurt" and then cried. It could be so many things. What did she say was the reason? Maybe it was because you fvcked her like she was a pornstar rather than your girlfriend (not that there's anything inherently wrong with that), so she felt like a slut because you fvcked her like one. Again, I don't subscribe to that kind of mentality, but that doesn't mean she doesn't think that way.

 

[captain underpants]

lol get out of ther now!

 

[Tao walker 2005]

yeah its happened to me... young girl - 1st time (well, 1st time conscious... she admitted to me that she had gotten drunk, passed out and been raped before - silly girl)

Same scenario too, I let her on top but she didn't know how to do it properly, (plus she was really small, and had a tiny pvssy) and then she said "is that it?" which made me feel like "I'll show you b!tch!" and I rolled on top and started pounding her HARD (yeah I probably did act like a sook).

Then she runs off crying and sits out in the back yard being soaked by rain for an hour. When she comes back in to the house I'm like "are u alright? what was that all about?" and she replies "I just feel like all I'm good for is sex and I'll never be good for a relationship". I told her not to worry and don't be so uptight.

Was it a play to get me to break up with my girlfriend and date her? I doubt it. I think she genuinely felt like a slut since I was cheating with her and she hadn't had any (enjoyable) experience of sex before so she couldn't appreciate the act in itself as a natural fun thing to share with another person.

Needless to say I never fvcked her again (although we're still friends).

 

[Allurre]

Bro, thanks for the advice.. I plan on dropping this girl and finding me a new GF
By the way.... when she was leaving she said " I feel like a slut " ouch
I think I might have done exactly what you said. Did you ever encounter a similiar situation like this Allurre? I think I might have been to forceful.. I felt really really guilty when she cried.

Hey bro, I haven't been in this situation before, but I can imagine it picture-perfectly how everything went down for you lol.

You can still remedy her self conceived identity of a "slut" around you by texting her "I never saw you as a slut; but rather someone with a good head on her shoulders."

Wait for her reply (which I'm positive she will), and set up a coffee date to talk things over again.

 

[eatgel]

Hey bro, I haven't been in this situation before, but I can imagine it picture-perfectly how everything went down for you lol.

You can still remedy her self conceived identity of a "slut" around you by texting her "I never saw you as a slut; but rather someone with a good head on her shoulders."

Wait for her reply (which I'm positive she will), and set up a coffee date to talk things over again.

I talked to her yesterday. We met up at this fancy pub and talked things

over. I told her that I in no way intended to hurt her and that I apologize

If I was way too forceful because I really do have some feelings for this girl.

She said she didn't want to do it but I started undressing her and started to

have sex with her. She said it hurt's but I kept on going because she seemed

like she was liking it.

When we went, out the food bill came out pretty high and she covered most of it lol ( like she

always does ) She even took care of my taxi tab when I went back home.

There are some other problem's though Allure. Like for example, this guy

keep's on text messaging her telling her that he loves her and etc.

I plan on taking her phone from her and calling this guy and tell him she

already has a boyfriend and that we did it. It is irritating, I am also going to

tell her that if she wants to go out with me she needs to stop getting love

messages from other guys.

 

[KontrollerX]

"I plan on taking her phone from her and calling this guy and tell him she

already has a boyfriend and that we did it."

This is her problem to take care of.

Not yours.

As is the issue of other guys contacting her.

If she doesn't take care of it then she's not mature or not really into you and you then need to walk away.

 

[eatgel]

"I plan on taking her phone from her and calling this guy and tell him she

already has a boyfriend and that we did it."

This is her problem to take care of.

Not yours.

Thought so, me getting agititated just probably show's my inexperience.

By the way KontrollerX, there is also this another girl that I like... I want to

spin plates but I feel like I am going to get busted or feel like cheating.

The reason whyd I want to check this other girl out is because I want to

compare the two, to see whose better. If you were in my situtation what

would you do ? How do you spin plates

 

[Iamnotacrook]

A true DJ spins plates out in the open, not behind anyone's backs. That's kinda the point of spinning plates, to get social proof and game the girls off one another.

 

[eatgel]

A true DJ spins plates out in the open, not behind anyone's backs. That's kinda the point of spinning plates, to get social proof and game the girls off one another.

Can you ellaberate a little bit more on this? So for example, I know I am going

out with this girl and that she is my GF. But I want to let her know that she

has competition and that she is lucky to be with me. In order to do this

I must excell in all parts of my life right. I think I am seeing things with a

tunnel vision maybe hehe.

 

[RFish]

Can you ellaberate a little bit more on this? So for example, I know I am going

out with this girl and that she is my GF. But I want to let her know that she

has competition and that she is lucky to be with me. In order to do this

I must excell in all parts of my life right. I think I am seeing things with a

tunnel vision maybe hehe.

Rollo Tomassi posted a reply to a thread similar to this question before. I hope if you have the time you can dig it out.

Basically or rather I explain to you vaguely that you don't let her know through your words. But rather your actions.

So many she ask you out 10 times you give it 4-5 times? Let her know you are busy or have other commitments to do. Let her know through your actions.

Hey when I'm typing this I start to recall more of what Rollo said.

It was something like speak by not speaking. LOL ok that was a poor attempt.

But the point is just that's is it. Get busy and you can be vague in things as well. As for spinning other plates, you need to be honest that she is not exclusive to you and that you were seeing other people. I not sure if other people might tell you otherwise but it is really a good thing to be upfront about such matters and not let her find out about it herself.

Anyway to add on to my point above previous post. It is OK to apologise. Just don't do it when you are not wrong or use apologies like punctuation.

I am thinking if other people can offer better advise to you

 

[The Logical Player]

A true DJ spins plates out in the open, not behind anyone's backs. That's kinda the point of spinning plates, to get social proof and game the girls off one another.

this is 1/2 true.

If a woman is unwilling to date you because you are spinning plates, and you want to bang her, then lie to her and tell her she's the only one so you can get what you want.

a true DJ says and does whatever he has to do to get what he wants.

 

[Iamnotacrook]

No, that's what a worthless piece of trash liar does.

 

[prairiedog24]

No, that's what a worthless piece of trash liar does.

I concur. Seems to me the DJ should be the guy asskicking the above chump behavior.

 

[Iamnotacrook]

Hmm. Apparently TLP is a fake and a misogynist.

 

[The Logical Player]

IAMNOTACROOK, why are you trying to SHAME men into behaving a certain way? Where is the law that is written that you can't lie to screwed up women to get what you want from them?

you are the AFC police, out to catch players and shame them into submission like a true feminist - get off this site p*ssy