Okay I'm going give GREAT details .... Need some
advice, but not just advice... advice supported by details...
Now I got this girlfriend right...She is the mother of my child
We been dating for almost 3 years.. Our son is one year old
However, she with those ****in games... if you ask me.
She got a ex, she talked to for 5 years or so
and this guy stilll in the damn pic... I told her
stop talking to him twice...So at one point she did
(at least from what i saw) now she started back..
Now this not any consistent talk everyday kind of stuff
probably every now and then.. but then again how i know
for sure...
She never chilled with him since we been together
but at the same time
she seem to still have some type of feelings..
im far from and ******* and when there is
an ex involve usually some type of way..there
is still some feelings & emotions.
However, since we do have a son and don't live
together...I let some stuff slide...(i shouldn't have)
but because she is a young mother 20 and im 23..
and Ill hate to go through that child support stuff
though i don't think she would since i glady take
care of my son..but you never know with women
they wishy washy af..
Now this same ex live in town i live in..but he in college
now playing ball...(every womans dream man right)..****
that i look good af too and woman wanting me everyday
as well..a whole lot..
So when he come home for weekend
sometime he used to text her...I told her hell nawl...ion approve
of that... now as far as social media.. she follow him on instagram
and friends on facebook... its like she trying to keep up with him
and his life... she literally know every new update of this guy,so they have to be communicating
but this is really what gets me... I caught her lying red handed
to my damn face... she was on my laptop and left her facebook up
of course i shouldn't have looked but oh well.. i did..
she wrote him asking him "Can i have your number lol"?
he replied" your bf deleted it lol?"
she said 'no"
then he sent the number
so she immediately deleted the convo..mind you.. im on my laptop
looking at it.. while she at home on her phone..
So i get her house...ask her how her day going, all that crap
and then good thing was she was already on fb.. So i ask her to
go to her inbox.. so then i ask when last time you talk to your ex
(he was on top of her timeline, that was my excuse for asking)
she said a while.. then she came out and said today... he ask me was i pregnant (dont worry, she had made a fb status and about her cousin being pregnant and 3 people inboxed her about it, so she tried to make it seem like he was one of them)
He didnt ask her that ****.. she lied and then i ask her was she sure
he ask that and she still said yea.. then i told her ass..you
a damn lie.. you asked that man can you have his number, etc
so just like most women she laughed at first, thats what they do
when they know they ****ed up.. then she stayed quiet for about
10 minutes
I Broke Her with her Right then and There!
After that she come out and say you should have never been on my
stuff, blah blah blah.. im like **** all that..
So these last 3 days.. I been regrouping and getting myself straight
I had another ex play me before so i know how to pick back up fast now.
So i do go see my son Everyday...he's my boy and I will NEVER neglect him
because i never had my pops really in my life. So first day i go see him, me and her dont speak or nun and I dipped after playing with him..
Second day, i go over later...she send her brothers to say she dont wont
to be bother..she know i wasn't come to see her truthfully told..but cool
now today i go see my son...and im not mean or nun.. just being calm and chill..she say some about my son to me.. i respond .. ask her some basic stuff
but at same time.. my vibe is kind of like.. i aint studdin your ass..she know that vibe...
so i leave with my son and she text me saying
Congratulations you got your son.. (she was trying to be funny and say i dont ever get my son)
So i respond... its not hard being the best dad in the world, appreciate that #1000
then she text.. Its not hard either, all i ask is for you to come get him some
time..whatever...
I replied.. with some laughing emoji.. and she reply "iight thats real childish"
Now i text like that because she know damn well Why im not talking to her and its not because our son.. and since she was trying to be funny.. I use indifference right along with her...
So i took my son home that night...and she acting real nice
so i decided to joke with her a little bit... and lets just say
in the end.. I ****ed her ass to sleep like a lil *****..
now i dont want her think that she got away..hell nawl
because today..back to being dry af with her and focused
just on my son...
now first for her ex to say your bf deleted it..
let me know that when they do talk..im discussed
in in his eyes..im a little ***** and she let him do it
Also, she disrespectful af and lied to my face
and in front of her parents...she get loud
and be rude af knowing since im in her folks house
i wont be able to respond like i want too...
i feel she value this guy more than us..
Im also talking back to my whole list of females...
and just rejoined the gym..
Now our mindset is so different and if wasn't for our son
i would have been left her ass...Truthfully told..
But to be quite honest... she going to be a nice diamond in the rough
in next few years as she mature.. she got real potential! She dont give
any dudes no damn play but this ex.. he got a part of her and that limits
me you know..
and her mom plays a big part in how she act.. her mom is so damn childish
and when we argue her mom try to be nosey and say her lil slick stuff
sometimes i want to go off on her mom..real talk.but nawl i dont
i be nice and just chill ..
so with seeing her mom act that way
i know for a fact she got a lot of growing and maturing
to do, as well as learning more about her...
So what i was doing is helping her discover who she really was
empowering her, we went church together often and now she starting to
love it, in fact she ask me now ..are we going, etc...
NOW I NEED TO KNOW
How should I handle This from here on out?
I must be involve in son life...
and i know the more you tell someone to do this..they do the exact opposite
she cause me insecure... yes i have made myself look that way..
because she wont listen...
Now i do love her alot, but im also a guy who been hurt before so when
it comes to love..if i see hurt from a mile away..im going to do me..you know
I realized today i was being a true AFC to her and now switching from that **** quickly to being the one with Power and im not letting nothing she do affect me...
NOW FROM HERE ON OUT.. HOW DO I HANDLE THIS? KNOWING THAT I LOVE HER, AND I WANT TO BE IN MY SON LIFE, BUT AT SAME TIME, IM NOT ABOUT TO LET HER DO **** HER WAY..
thought about treating her like a slut.. and **** her and more girls and leave it be... need some real advice!
advice, but not just advice... advice supported by details...
Now I got this girlfriend right...She is the mother of my child
We been dating for almost 3 years.. Our son is one year old
However, she with those ****in games... if you ask me.
She got a ex, she talked to for 5 years or so
and this guy stilll in the damn pic... I told her
stop talking to him twice...So at one point she did
(at least from what i saw) now she started back..
Now this not any consistent talk everyday kind of stuff
probably every now and then.. but then again how i know
for sure...
She never chilled with him since we been together
but at the same time
she seem to still have some type of feelings..
im far from and ******* and when there is
an ex involve usually some type of way..there
is still some feelings & emotions.
However, since we do have a son and don't live
together...I let some stuff slide...(i shouldn't have)
but because she is a young mother 20 and im 23..
and Ill hate to go through that child support stuff
though i don't think she would since i glady take
care of my son..but you never know with women
they wishy washy af..
Now this same ex live in town i live in..but he in college
now playing ball...(every womans dream man right)..****
that i look good af too and woman wanting me everyday
as well..a whole lot..
So when he come home for weekend
sometime he used to text her...I told her hell nawl...ion approve
of that... now as far as social media.. she follow him on instagram
and friends on facebook... its like she trying to keep up with him
and his life... she literally know every new update of this guy,so they have to be communicating
but this is really what gets me... I caught her lying red handed
to my damn face... she was on my laptop and left her facebook up
of course i shouldn't have looked but oh well.. i did..
she wrote him asking him "Can i have your number lol"?
he replied" your bf deleted it lol?"
she said 'no"
then he sent the number
so she immediately deleted the convo..mind you.. im on my laptop
looking at it.. while she at home on her phone..
So i get her house...ask her how her day going, all that crap
and then good thing was she was already on fb.. So i ask her to
go to her inbox.. so then i ask when last time you talk to your ex
(he was on top of her timeline, that was my excuse for asking)
she said a while.. then she came out and said today... he ask me was i pregnant (dont worry, she had made a fb status and about her cousin being pregnant and 3 people inboxed her about it, so she tried to make it seem like he was one of them)
He didnt ask her that ****.. she lied and then i ask her was she sure
he ask that and she still said yea.. then i told her ass..you
a damn lie.. you asked that man can you have his number, etc
so just like most women she laughed at first, thats what they do
when they know they ****ed up.. then she stayed quiet for about
10 minutes
I Broke Her with her Right then and There!
After that she come out and say you should have never been on my
stuff, blah blah blah.. im like **** all that..
So these last 3 days.. I been regrouping and getting myself straight
I had another ex play me before so i know how to pick back up fast now.
So i do go see my son Everyday...he's my boy and I will NEVER neglect him
because i never had my pops really in my life. So first day i go see him, me and her dont speak or nun and I dipped after playing with him..
Second day, i go over later...she send her brothers to say she dont wont
to be bother..she know i wasn't come to see her truthfully told..but cool
now today i go see my son...and im not mean or nun.. just being calm and chill..she say some about my son to me.. i respond .. ask her some basic stuff
but at same time.. my vibe is kind of like.. i aint studdin your ass..she know that vibe...
so i leave with my son and she text me saying
Congratulations you got your son.. (she was trying to be funny and say i dont ever get my son)
So i respond... its not hard being the best dad in the world, appreciate that #1000
then she text.. Its not hard either, all i ask is for you to come get him some
time..whatever...
I replied.. with some laughing emoji.. and she reply "iight thats real childish"
Now i text like that because she know damn well Why im not talking to her and its not because our son.. and since she was trying to be funny.. I use indifference right along with her...
So i took my son home that night...and she acting real nice
so i decided to joke with her a little bit... and lets just say
in the end.. I ****ed her ass to sleep like a lil *****..
now i dont want her think that she got away..hell nawl
because today..back to being dry af with her and focused
just on my son...
now first for her ex to say your bf deleted it..
let me know that when they do talk..im discussed
in in his eyes..im a little ***** and she let him do it
Also, she disrespectful af and lied to my face
and in front of her parents...she get loud
and be rude af knowing since im in her folks house
i wont be able to respond like i want too...
i feel she value this guy more than us..
Im also talking back to my whole list of females...
and just rejoined the gym..
Now our mindset is so different and if wasn't for our son
i would have been left her ass...Truthfully told..
But to be quite honest... she going to be a nice diamond in the rough
in next few years as she mature.. she got real potential! She dont give
any dudes no damn play but this ex.. he got a part of her and that limits
me you know..
and her mom plays a big part in how she act.. her mom is so damn childish
and when we argue her mom try to be nosey and say her lil slick stuff
sometimes i want to go off on her mom..real talk.but nawl i dont
i be nice and just chill ..
so with seeing her mom act that way
i know for a fact she got a lot of growing and maturing
to do, as well as learning more about her...
So what i was doing is helping her discover who she really was
empowering her, we went church together often and now she starting to
love it, in fact she ask me now ..are we going, etc...
NOW I NEED TO KNOW
How should I handle This from here on out?
I must be involve in son life...
and i know the more you tell someone to do this..they do the exact opposite
she cause me insecure... yes i have made myself look that way..
because she wont listen...
Now i do love her alot, but im also a guy who been hurt before so when
it comes to love..if i see hurt from a mile away..im going to do me..you know
I realized today i was being a true AFC to her and now switching from that **** quickly to being the one with Power and im not letting nothing she do affect me...
NOW FROM HERE ON OUT.. HOW DO I HANDLE THIS? KNOWING THAT I LOVE HER, AND I WANT TO BE IN MY SON LIFE, BUT AT SAME TIME, IM NOT ABOUT TO LET HER DO **** HER WAY..
thought about treating her like a slut.. and **** her and more girls and leave it be... need some real advice!
