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I just got this message, in two parts, from a girl that I've seen a couple of times and had great chemistry with. I was suppossed to go on a trip with her tomorrow:So got a call from the girl. She left a two part message saying that she was sorry that she was going to have to do this, but it seems like an x boyfriend is back around giving her some ****, I guess about me popping up. She has mentioned him before in a conversation that I quikcly changed, where she said "she had a guy that couldn't understand that friends is all they are." She then went on to say, in a very sad voice, that she wouldn't feel comfortable hanging out with me after her conversation with him. She also said that she needs to work some things out before she can pursue anything else. All in all it sounded geniunely like she wanted to go with me, but probally got threats from this guy. I'll try her again in a few weeks just to see whats up. It really sounded sad to me, like she was beat down. I'm not going to touch the fire until then.
 

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Disco,
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but she's going to end up back with him. I was dating this women who was threatened by her ex and how he was mean to her and blah blah (We discussed this because she used to work with a friend of mine and one time we all went out-while she was still with the guy). Well I got some song and dance after a few weeks about having some things to work out (I had later found out she was having money problems from my friend) but no matter what her excuses were she ended up back with her ex. Cut your losses now. Good luck.
 

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Yeah man, it's a little unnerving. By no means am I going to call and talk to her about it though. It's weird to me I guess it seems like one of her friends saw the way her and I were looking and touching last weekend and decided to get back into it. At the best I have to be back down there in like three weeks, I may give her a call then; but who knows. I just feel a little better with an excuse rather than a stand up.
 

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If you were really, really hot over some girl, as in "Love", tell me honestly would you even slightly mention one of your old girlfriends, much less tell your new girl that you'd need to sort things out first?

[buzzer sound]

Kudos to you for having enough intuition to notice and write about it. Now let's see how well you do the right thing and smile as you completely ignore her flaky wack *ss.
 

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Basically what she told you could have a couple dozen different interpretations, but all of them are bad for you. She's probably going to end up back with her ex, and even if she ends up back with you, it's only going to be temporary. When she finally rids herself once and for all of her ex, it's going to be with a guy that treats her every bit as poorly as her ex does now.

I'm just guessing of course about what she will do, but either way what she told you should be taken as a hint to move on, for good. Resist the urge to call her, and just find another chick that doesn't have all that baggage. Once you've dated a few of these drama queens, you'll be able to see the pattern and avoid them before you get involved.
 

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Tell her thank you for revealing her true self to you before you wasted valuable time on her. She did you a favor by flaking out before you got wrapped up in her. NOw be on your way and find someone new. This chick is trouble and you are gonna end up hurt.
 

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Tell her thank you for revealing her true self to you before you wasted valuable time on her.
Tell that to a drama queen and all you're going to get is more drama. But I'd sure think that to myself. Probably best not to say anything to her, cause all you're gonna get is more drama, unless you're into that sort of thing.
 

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I understand and agree with everything. I've seen this chicks in the past and they've all been psych majors! lol (i've dated four and my mother is one as well, so they are easy to read.)

I don't understand what RTek was trying to say in his first paragraph though. Can I get a little help>?
 

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The same thing just happend to me, Disco! It pisses me off still. This girl and i flirted and then went out a few times. Then she drops me for her ex fast as that. No excuse or anything just a note on my car. When i tried to get a reason from her a week later. She gave me the cold shoulder, Damn women. They are so weak about getting out of bad situations. My advice to you is forget her. Too much baggage for you my friend. She will convice herself that your relationship was your fault and you pushed it on her. (what drugs they take, i don't know) Just to please their ex. Stay away, stay far away. Maybe months into the future you could try again but only after you know for dam sure she is over with him.
 

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WHENEVER women say stupid, vague **** like, 'I need to work things out' or 'I need some time by myself' you knows its time to dump the *****.

Like RK TEK said, if it was an ex girlfriend bothering you and you were going out with some new hottie who you were into, what would you do? I tell you what, you'd tell the ex biatch to **** the hell off and get on with your life. She sounds very typical of a lot of girls- i.e flakey and illogical.
 

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I keep checking this thread for more replies, great job guys. This chick sort of took my by surprise and I laugh b/c two years ago I would be miserable in the corner right now. lol

right now I'm ironing my shirt and I have to get at least three hotties digets tonight. I live in a college town and my friends are all bar tenders, so it's not too hard.

one thing to note is that I listened to her message(s) again and one part I think I understand now. She said:

"I wouldn't feel comfortable going with you this weekend after some of things that came up in our(her and the x) conversation."

Says to me the guy made some kind of threats against me, her, or what he would do to himself. What an AFC and what a weak, weak little girl.

"You can call me if you want, if you don't I understand totally. If I don't hear from you I'll call you in a few days to make sure you got my messages."

Says to me I like drama and I'm not done with you boy. Caller ID baby, caller ID!
 

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LJBF her via v-mail or e-mail.

Just tell her not to worry since you two are just friends, but if this is causing her problems with her psycho-ex, you understand how it is. Sure, you flirted, but that was just fun. You guys are just friends and there's no real chemistry, but he wouldn't see it right so it's probably best as she suggests and let it kinda dry up.

She'll hate that.
 

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Originally posted by RKTek
If you were really, really hot over some girl, as in "Love", tell me honestly would you even slightly mention one of your old girlfriends, much less tell your new girl that you'd need to sort things out first?

[buzzer sound]

Kudos to you for having enough intuition to notice and write about it. Now let's see how well you do the right thing and smile as you completely ignore her flaky wack *ss.
This sums it up perfectly.
 

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By the way Disco, could you keep us updated on this? It would be interesting to know if you dump her and if so how she reacts.

Thanks pal.
 
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