Girl with High interest turn ice queen?

[TheObserver007]

Long time lurker 1st time posting. Met this girl HB9 and her best friend through a friend of mine. She showed high interest off the bat, putting her # in my phone without me even asking. Few days later I text her and she would flirting and friendly while I keep the texting to a minimal. Her best friend would always ask me when im going to ask her out etc. So when I did she was really excited.

The date was last Sat but the night before she came up here (she lives about 2 hours away) to hang out with her best friend and they both wanted me to meet up with them. I told them I had plans with some friends from out of state and that they're welcome to come join us if they like. So they meet up with us and I talk with HB9 for a bit but not much. No kino or anything. Spent most of the night talking to other ppl there and my friends.

Next day (sat) couple hours before the date she said she only got 3 hours of sleep because she had to drive back home afterwards to take care of some stuff so she might not be a good date. told her dont worry about it we'll have fun. So we had dinner and I took her to do some mini golfing. During dinner I thought it was good since the convo is going great but on the way to golfing she seems a bit distracted. She then tells me her best friend called up her older sis to come up and go clubbing. After golfing it was about 11pm and she asked if I wanted to join them and I said no I have a headache but you have fun. Before she left she said "hey we should get together again and have dinner and see this funny movie"

Next day her best friend IMs me asking how the date went and thats when I found out through her best friend that HB9 texted her during dinner to try and get her older sis up. So pretty much she staged a way out.

I didn't contact her until 2 days later and now she doesn't reply until 8+ hours later. I said we should get together again and reference something relating to the movie. Her response was "yeah! we should go see it." I jokingly said "are you trying to ask me out again?" and she hasn't responded to it at all.

So what went wrong here. She went from the one practically chasing me to coldness. Should I contact her and ask her out again or wait until she contacts me?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

What's with all these "group" dates?

You seem to think 2 days is a long time to wait until you contacted her. You should have make her wait 5 days, as that would most likely cause her to contact you first, if she is interested.

Yes, I would wait until she contacts you first. OH, yes, go have fun with other broads.

 

[zinc4]

she probably has like 20 options...think about it if you have a lot of options everything changes...i have about 6 solid options right now and i reject or hold off or flake on girls who i actually like in favor of either newer ones or slightly hotter ones all the time...but that is nothing compared to a HB9's options...only way you can stick out besides looks and status is not give a sh&t...

 

[jeffreylebowski]

A few things:

How much do you think she's thought about what happened? Probably not as much as you.

How would you handle this situation if she wasn't hot?

Did YOU have a good time on the date? It was unclear. If you aren't having fun, she won't either. She invited you clubbing...why didnt you go? Would you have had a headache if she said "hey I wanna go bang it out?"

 

[pyros]

Instead of saying: I have a headache (which sounds sissy), either agree and go, or just say: 'I was gonna do X with my friends' or something like that.

'now she doesn't reply until 8+ hours later.':
this is not acceptable at all. Nowadays if a girl takes more than a couple of hours to reply, it just means she has no ****ing interest in you whatsoever. Accept it.

'she hasn't responded to it at all.': again, she does not have interest in you. Accept it.

'So what went wrong here': probably she did not actually like you during the date. She may also have another guy she likes way more than you, or both. She liked you physically at the begining, but she did not feel any connection, besides looks.

'Should I contact her and ask her out again or wait until she contacts me?': definitely I would not contact her anymore, but if you feel like doing the puppy, go ahead.


In short, she found you physically attractive, but she does not like you as a person. Accept it.
It does not really matter whether you texted her in two days or five days, or whatever, if she liked you, she would not take hours to reply to your texts, she would text you and suggest to meet , etc etc etc


Just read your title: ...ice queen (ie, not interested man)

 

[nismo-4]

Mixed signals means low interest. Ice queen is bad. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. Your princess is in another castle. Spin more plates and forget/ drop her ass.

Case closed.

 

[PlayHer Man]

EASY COME EASY GO.

That's the law of the land. The easier they are to get, the easier they are to lose. Simple as that. Don't be shocked. You're not the first guy she came on strong with and you won't be the last. She was probably looking for some fast c0ck and was disappointed when you took the slow relationship route. Women today are fast. Men need to catch up and stop following Disney movie protocol.

This is why I advocate trying to f*ck a girl as soon as possible. If she comes on strong.. she wants c0ck. So give it to her. :yes:

Don't waste your time analyzing this too much. A HB9 isn't going to be overly desperate to bond with a guy. She has a line out the door of beta faggot guys who want to bond with her emotionally and wife her up. Keep this in mind when dealing with any HB8+.

When a girl comes on strong I just f*ck her. No need to whine and dine or any other sh!t.. regardless of how attractive she is. She wants c0ck and in many cases.. not much more.

 

[elitemulk]

EASY COME EASY GO.

That's the law of the land. The easier they are to get, the easier they are to lose. Simple as that. Don't be shocked. You're not the first guy she came on strong with and you won't be the last. She was probably looking for some fast c0ck and was disappointed when you took the slow relationship route. Women today are fast. Men need to catch up and stop following Disney movie protocol.

This is why I advocate trying to f*ck a girl as soon as possible. If she comes on strong.. she wants c0ck. So give it to her. :yes:

Don't waste your time analyzing this too much. A HB9 isn't going to be overly desperate to bond with a guy. She has a line out the door of beta faggot guys who want to bond with her emotionally and wife her up. Keep this in mind when dealing with any HB8+.

When a girl comes on strong I just f*ck her. No need to whine and dine or any other sh!t.. regardless of how attractive she is. She wants c0ck and in many cases.. not much more.

Love this attitude.