girl with a lot more sexual experience than me?

[PlatoPacks23]

So I'm talking with a girl right now who for me is someone I'd like to date and we get on good. But have had this hold me back before and am wondering how to handle it.

So me and her have a lot of similar interests etc, but from her social media in past she's very open sexually and definitely has a LOT more expreience than me. I am not a virgin, but have had issues getting "hard" in the past and have a lot less experience (am fine wtih fingering, *******s, handjobs etc but actual sex I get performance anxiety)

Basically based on my confidence when talking with her, and etc I assume she'll think I have a lot more experience than I actually do in life. How do I go about this? I'm almost thinking bc of the experience difference, she'll think I'm a loser once she finds out and it's not even worth pursuing..

 

[Stanley]

Stop caring

 

[corrector]

Talk to your doctor about ED issues.

 

[The Duke]

Another day another faggot. God gave you a penis and testosterone, fuhking use it.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

How old are you? Are you in good shape? Do you go to the gym? Maybe your desensitized cause of masturbation, also stop watching porn. Have you checked your testosterone levels free and total?

late 20's, in pretty good shape (not amazing but work out 2-3 x a week). I do go to gym once a week, and other classes are cardio/circut workouts.

I'm 90% sure I'm desensitized cause of masturbsating.

problem is I can't get hard when penetrating but get hard when masturbating. Also if I'm making out with her I can get hard but then it goes away by time I get condom on and am trying to "slip it in".. so most experience of mine have just been lots of foreplay and fingering her or going down on her (both which feel good for her, but not for me)

 

[Stanley]

late 20's, in pretty good shape (not amazing but work out 2-3 x a week). I do go to gym once a week, and other classes are cardio/circut workouts.

I'm 90% sure I'm desensitized cause of masturbsating.

problem is I can't get hard when penetrating but get hard when masturbating. Also if I'm making out with her I can get hard but then it goes away by time I get condom on and am trying to "slip it in".. so most experience of mine have just been lots of foreplay and fingering her or going down on her (both which feel good for her, but not for me)

Go no fap. Stop watching porn and quit spanking it.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

Go no fap. Stop watching porn and quit spanking it.

yeah I'll try.. it's tough though man.

how long are we expected to do this for? 2 weeks? I've done a week before but didn't see results

 

[Stanley]

yeah I'll try.. it's tough though man.

how long are we expected to do this for? 2 weeks? I've done a week before but didn't see results

30 days at least. If you make it past 3 weeks it becomes easy. Some studies suggest up to 90 days to return to a 'baseline'. Going cold turkey is the move, but if you can't limit how frequently you're whackin it.... stop watching porn and nut to something else. I was having some issues and stopping the porn after the first month had noticeable effects. Also, Kegels.... like for real go do some kegels

 

[LTG71]

Sounds like you have a lot of anxiety. She’s just a girl, relax and get out of your head. You are making your fears come true by worrying too much about your experience. If she has more, let her show you all of her skills. Feed her ego and let her go wild. Lay off the porn, you’ve got a real woman willing to do what you’re watching on your phone. You’ve got a live search bar on your hands, lol. At this point, the only thing you should be worrying about is not knocking her up.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Call your doctor immediately and get a prescription until you can get this problem sorted out naturally. The single best thing you can do is have sex, it’ll get your head back where it should be.

The next best thing you can do is stop porn entirely. Don’t watch another second. You’re desensitizing your mind via dopamine overload. Do you really want to base your stimulation on trailer park trash or do you want to smash a girl in the back of your jeep in real life and have her blow you to finish you off?

Lastly, you probably want to follow it up with a full blood panel that a TRT group would run because they will hit hormones in the report you won’t even think about. It’ll cost you about $200 for it and it’ll be worth every penny.

 

[Barrister]

Agree with the others that your issue is likely anxiety given your age. You are mind-fvcking yourself and this is why you are having trouble staying hard.

You can get a small dose of ciallis or something similar. Take just a 1/3 or 1/2 dose (you won't need it all), get rock hard, then rock her world. Probably after you bang her a couple of times you won't even think twice about this in the future.

 

[DonJuanjr]

problem is I can't get hard when penetrating but get hard when masturbating.

Don't masturbate within a few days of expected intercourse. Get some viagra to mitigate the ED. After a few times, you'll be more relaxed and will not have any issues. I know, because I had the same mental ED due to anxiety.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Brutal cold showers until your nvts are shivering and you have a brain zap.
Later do some 4-7-8 breathing exercises for 10 minutes every day. That should put a cap on your anxiety.
Quit rubbing and no porn

Some 50mg of sildenafil for the first time wont hurt you just to get the pace going for the rest of the encounters.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Brutal cold showers until your nvts are shivering and you have a brain zap.
Later do some 4-7-8 breathing exercises for 10 minutes every day. That should put a cap on your anxiety.
Quit rubbing and no porn

Some 50mg of sildenafil for the first time wont hurt you just to get the pace going for the rest of the encounters.

50!!!

I took 40 a couple times for fun and it was a lot.

 

[RazorRambo24]

lol my initial reaction was to laugh at the title but.. ay man, just do your thing and be honest with yourself at all times.. when you don't h ave much sexual experience, its easy to catch feels.. It took me a bit of time when I was younger to learn to separate emotions from sex. Don't have to rush that.. just enjoy the experience and tell yourself at all times, that she doesn't owe you anything if you guys are just fwb..

 

[needimprovement250]

You sound a lot like me, I’m 29 going on 30 and have very little sexual experience. I also struggle with ED issues and I think mine are related to my porn use just like yours. It just seems like it’s more than coincidental when so many men these days who watch a lot of porn and masturbate frequently are having ED struggles with real women. Like the others have said, I think it would be good for both of us to quit porn and masturbation. I’ve made it 2 weeks without it before and I had so much more sexual energy and I started to crave real sex way more than I ever did when watching porn every day. I also understand your fear of her losing interest in you because of your lack of experience, I’ve had the same fear for all of my 20’s and it made me not even put myself out there out of fear that I was gonna face nothing but rejection for having no experience and that I would end up feeling even worse. Now I’m almost 30 and in the same situation, so I still feel even worse and I would’ve at least had a chance at dating or sex if I had tried. Now I just made it even more difficult for myself. I wish you luck in overcoming this!

 

[shwami_salami]

I think ur watching to much porn. You r receiving pleasure from your hands and not her psusy. Also just accept that wmn have had much more xperience in reality than they.'claim to have had.'