Girl with a crazy work schedule-how do i make this work?

[viking22]

The Bat, its difficult to tell. She is Latin and from the way she moves I can tell she is a very sexual person and the five minutes of sex we had she was riding me and even telling me what she wanted. But i think she is self conscious about her body. She is always on a diet and when she got out of bed she told me to look away until she was able to drape a towel around her.

But yeah I think she had sex to please me not because she was really wanting it herself and I don't think she was really ready. She wanted us to get a bottle of wine but room service was closed. So yeah she was nervous. Probably with her period starting it didn't help.

She also keeps talking about how she is a good girl. To be honest im not really convinced. She goes to parties and clubs every week with her friends and loves to dance and im sure she must have slept with many men.

Captain, your advice is spot on. Ive been lining up other prospects and not going to chase this girl anymore. Like you said if she wants to have sex she'll make the time.

londonzen, yeah latin girls are something else. every time any music comes on she starts wiggling her hips and she is the best kisser ive ever dated.

 

[viking22]

Weird I call her Tuesday evening, goes straight through to her answerphone. So I leave a message saying I want to make plans for this weekend so call me back.

Not a single word from her. Usually she returns messages within a couple of hours maximum.

So I guess I have to play the waiting game. Really though im losing patience. Usually after you have sex with a girl the games stop.

She obviously has low interest and i have no idea why she slept with me-Ive never had a girl sleep with me and never call back unless it was obviously a one night stand deal. But this girl made a huge point early on that she likes to take things slow and was looking for something more special than one night.

 

[Igetit!]

Weird I call her Tuesday evening, goes straight through to her answerphone. So I leave a message saying I want to make plans for this weekend so call me back.

Viking,viking. You still don't understand,do you? This girl keeps taking you for granted. She FEELS like she can just snap her fingers whenever she chooses,and you'll be right there,wanting to see her. And my question is this:Can you blame her? If you call her often,are always trying to see her,she'll think all you do is sit around all day,waiting for your next opportunity to spend with her.

Usually after you have sex with a girl the games stop.

WHAT??? Where did you get this from?
You made a classic error my friend. I've seen this mistake made hundreds of time on this board,and I myself have also fallen into this trap more times than I can remember. You treated dating this girl like going fishing.
When you go fishing,you use some type of bait to put on the hook,be it a worm,or whatever else people may use. You use the bait to CATCH the fish. Now,once the fish is caught,once you have it in hand,then you no longer need the bait. However,it's not like that in dating.

Whatever "bait" you used to get the girl is what you have to continue to use in order to KEEP the girl.

Before you posted this thread,although you did have 4 dates with her,for the most part,you couldn't get her to commit to spending time with you because (according to her) of her work schedule. She was too busy.
Then you came here,made this thread,and received some advice on how to get her to meet up with you,my suggestion in particular.

After taking my suggestion,look what happened. "Magically",if by some miracle,she found some time to spend with you. You two got together,hung out,enjoyed each other's company,and ended up fooling around. Now after all this happened,what did you do?
You went right back to acting and behaving the same way you did before you made this thread,before you got any suggestions from the forum.
You did that,and what did she do?
She also went back to behaving the same way she did before you used my suggestion with her.

You can't do that man. She's not a fish. You can't use the forum advice in order to get her,then once you have sex,go back to doing whatever it was you were doing in the beginning. The behavior you used to get her is the behavior you'll have to use to KEEP her.

The reason she called you and told you she wanted to see you was because you backed off and she hadn't heard from you in a few days. She was probably wondering if you still liked her or not. After your date with her,you should have continued to back off,and only show minimual interest.
You thought just because you slept with her,that that meant you could return to your previous behaviors that originally turned her off? Tsk,tsk,tsk.

Just back off a bit man. And like some of the other posters said,date other women. That way your mind won't be so preoccupied with this girl's hot/cold behavior.