Girl with a boyfriend gave me her number

[Kal0051]

I was talking to this girl I used to work with the other day. She's cute (HB7-8 at least) so at the end of the convo I said she should give me her number. Without hesitation she gave me her number and then I gave her mine (she said sweet when I gave her mine, lol). Anyway later I found out that she might have a boyfriend. Was she just giving me her number because she thought I wanted to be her friend (never talked to her when we worked together, so we're not friends). Should I just pretend that she doesn't have a bf (I don't know for certain that she has one, it's not like she told me or anything) and just ask her out for a drink. Thanks for your input.

 

[user43770]

Inviting her out for drinks sounds like a great idea. If she's committed, she'll decline.

 

[slaog]

Ask her has she a boyfriend. If she has boyfriend I think you should not attempt to disrupt somebodys relationship.

 

[Lockheed]

Ask her to an "obiously romantic" date, like movies on a saturday night, if she declines well you know what to do, neeeext.
Be sure to give her signs of interest or she might just think you just want to be her friend.

 

[Nutz]

Ask her has she a boyfriend. If she has boyfriend I think you should not attempt to disrupt somebodys relationship.

WRONG!!!

Don't even bring up the subject. If she's serious with the bf let her bring it up. Otherwise you risk her getting feeling guilty or slutty and "logicing out". You have to maintain appearances so she has plausible deniability.

 

[Kal0051]

Yeah Nutz, that's what I was planning to do. She never brought up her possible bf so it's not like I'd be in the wrong for trying something. I'll just treat her like any other girl and try and gauge her interest level.

 

[slaog]

WRONG!!!

Don't even bring up the subject. If she's serious with the bf let her bring it up. Otherwise you risk her getting feeling guilty or slutty and "logicing out". You have to maintain appearances so she has plausible deniability.

The reason I said it is because I don't think it's right to be messing around with another mans woman. I wouldn't like another man doing it to me so I won't do it.

 

[Kal0051]

The reason I said it is because I don' think it's right to be messing around with another mans woman. I wouldn't like another man doing it to me so I won't do it.

Yeah, but hanging out and flirting a bit is really messing with someone's woman. Who knows, maybe she's the type that waits around for a better deal to come to her (possibly why she never mentioned her boyfriend). It's not like I'm gonna fvck her on the first meet, I do have some class.

 

[sodbuster]

Women will SAY they have a BF alot more often then they have one. Not sure if they are trying to show preselection or just a way of bailing out if it gets uncomfortable around you.

 

[Prodigy746]

why do you think she has a bf?

 

[BustedKnucks]

Morally, I'd skip on this *****.

Or ask her to hang out, and if I see interest from her, tell her I'm not interested in stealing someone's girl.

It's a low move, even if it's the girl's fault, I wouldn't do that to someone else, even if I thought they sucked.

Besides, when you tell her this, if she is interested, at the next sign of a fight with her bf she will leave him and call you. You are securing a future booty call.

 

[user43770]

Morally, I'd skip on this *****.

Or ask her to hang out, and if I see interest from her, tell her I'm not interested in stealing someone's girl.

It's a low move, even if it's the girl's fault, I wouldn't do that to someone else, even if I thought they sucked.

If the girl is gonna cheat, it might as well be with me. You can have the moral high ground.

 

[MisterMcGee]

A girl who worked at the same place as me back in the summer had a boyfriend. We chatted it up on facebook a bit and I told her to give me her number because talking over the internet is lame, and she did.

Of course, I'd then call her and talk a bit, and then ask to talk to her sister and proceed to ask her sister out. Bahaha yes I was quite a chump back then.

 

[Kal0051]

MisterMcGee, I'm assuming you say you were a chump because you didn't go after the girl that gave you the number, correct?

 

[DonJuan11]

I was talking to this girl I used to work with the other day. She's cute (HB7-8 at least) so at the end of the convo I said she should give me her number. Without hesitation she gave me her number and then I gave her mine (she said sweet when I gave her mine, lol). Anyway later I found out that she might have a boyfriend.

From who? The guy down the office who wanted to sleep with her too? Don't listen to what other people tell you all the time.

Should I just pretend that she doesn't have a bf and just ask her out for a drink.

Yes you should.

 

[MisterMcGee]

MisterMcGee, I'm assuming you say you were a chump because you didn't go after the girl that gave you the number, correct?

I'm saying a chump cause of the way I asked her sister out.

 

[Nutz]

The reason I said it is because I don't think it's right to be messing around with another mans woman. I wouldn't like another man doing it to me so I won't do it.

As much as I hate it when women cheat, the fact of the matter is that he doesn't own her. She's still free to boink whoever she feels like and if the statistics are to be believed most women (and 20% of men) have multiple partners at any given time anyway.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Assume the sale. Don't worry about the boyfriend issue unless it comes up. You can "think" all you want, or pay attention to hearsay, but if you're not sure just proceed as normal for now.

 

[Kal0051]

haha, yeah I just assumed she was interested. Suggested going out, she seems pretty keen. And so far there's been no talk of her bf whatsoever.