Girl went ghost after successful first date- pull the hail marry?

[captain55]

Arguably one of the hottest chick Ive ever gone out with. Made out with her for a long time and neither of us had an ounce to drink so obviously the attraction was there. She texts me 45 minutes after the date saying it was great to meet you blah blah, I said i had a great time. Call her the next day (I don't believe in that three date rule bull****) we chat a while but I cut her off after about 20 minutes, we agree to a date that weekend. She texts me the next morning (so obviously she didn't think I was needy with that phone call)....and I respond but I don't initiate conversation. I call her the very next night and she ignores... hasn't responded to me since. Gonna give it a few days,

Going ghost till the weekend , if she doesn't respond Im gonna pull a hail marry get all creepy and tell her how much I really like her. in my experience this is the ONLY scenario where acting a bit creepy/beta/AFC can work. When a legitimate hot chick has written you off as a player, which is exactly what I think happened in this case.

She went out of her way to tell me she's the relationship type so I think this was my fault. Careful on the don juan overdose fellas

 

[El Payaso]

Holy fvck. You guys had ONE date and you're already chatting and talking to her everyday like you've been going out for a year. Smh. You need to give a woman space and time to allow her to miss you. It's one of the ways in which her mind convinces her that she's attracted to you.

If you're always available, it robs her of the chance to miss and think about you. You didn't give her the time to doubt if you were attracted to her after the first date.

 

[captain55]

Holy fvck. You guys had ONE date and you're already chatting and talking to her everyday like you've been going out for a year. Smh. You need to give a woman space and time to allow her to miss you. It's one of the ways in which her mind convinces her that she's attracted to you.

If you're always available, it robs her of the chance to miss and think about you. You didn't give her the time to doubt if you were attracted to her after the first date.

No bro.

this was after the first date
her "It was so great finally meeting you"
me " you too. I had a great time with you"
her "likewise "

called her the next day and we talk for about 20 minutes. she texts me the following morning

her "hope you have a great day"
me " thanks you too"
her " LOL totally didn't expect you to be up"

I didn't respond to that text, Called her two days later and she doesn't pick up. Now she's officially gone ghost lol

 

[_sideways_]

Bros....its great some of y'all are getting 9s....but they're all 9s.

so u had a great date...the next couple of days ur supposed to be out with another girl, instead of calling her.

you see...she doesn't need to see all ur cards on the table. You messed up.

u haven't slept with her, so why are u so anxious to see her? You blew ur load too early...

go ghost and she will come back if there was true attraction

 

[captain55]

Bros....its great some of y'all are getting 9s....but they're all 9s.

so u had a great date...the next couple of days ur supposed to be out with another girl, instead of calling her.

you see...she doesn't need to see all ur cards on the table. You messed up.

u haven't slept with her, so why are u so anxious to see her? You blew ur load too early...

go ghost and she will come back if there was true attraction

I dont believe this is set and stone. Maybe you come across a chick who's tired of dating players and *******s playing games with her and just wants a guy who won't cheat on her. Cant really argue with me on this one, I've seen it with my own eyes. Women settling with betas because they're tired of the BS associated with dating alpha males. Not saying you won't be more successful being alpha and keeping some mystery about you, but you will lose some too IMO...it is inevitable. And the funny thing is had I texted her more and showed more interest in her she'd probably still be talking to me.

 

[Meisterman]

No dude. No no no no no. Just no. I can already see why she isn't responding to you. Why did you call her that night? To talk? That's what her girlfriends are for. You already agreed on a date this weekend,so WHY ARE YOU DOING EXACTLY WHAT YOU SHOULD DO TO MESS IT UP?

This is bad man. Real bad. Not just your actions, but your entire frame. Your whole mindset. If you don't change it and FAST, you're doomed. You need to go into strategic withdrawal immediately. Do NOT contact her. And for the love of god, do not get all gooey and tell her how much you like her. It WON'T work, I guarantee it!!!!!

The biggest "risk" you should consider taking at this point is whether or not to ever initiate contact with her again. Which I think is okay if you try ONCE more on the SAME DAY of the date you two planned. And if she flakes or ignores, DELETE HER NUMBER. Trust me it will do you more harm than good to try and keep her around at that point.

 

[the_stig]

No dude. No no no no no. Just no. I can already see why she isn't responding to you. Why did you call her that night? To talk? That's what her girlfriends are for. You already agreed on a date this weekend,so WHY ARE YOU DOING EXACTLY WHAT YOU SHOULD DO TO MESS IT UP?

This is bad man. Real bad. Not just your actions, but your entire frame. Your whole mindset. If you don't change it and FAST, you're doomed. You need to go into strategic withdrawal immediately. Do NOT contact her. And for the love of god, do not get all gooey and tell her how much you like her. It WON'T work, I guarantee it!!!!!

The biggest "risk" you should consider taking at this point is whether or not to ever initiate contact with her again. Which I think is okay if you try ONCE more on the SAME DAY of the date you two planned. And if she flakes or ignores, DELETE HER NUMBER. Trust me it will do you more harm than good to try and keep her around at that point.

A bit sensationalized but some truth.

Depending on the chemistry the two of you had, I'm not convinced a phone call or two would be the death of anything, so long as you played it cool and she was doing her share of initiating. Recently I've had a few girls flat out tell me they appreciate when I call, that most guys don't have the guts to ring them up, and it sure was a huge rapport builder.

The rule has been aloofness for the longest time. But I'm starting to notice that building familiarity with frequent communication keeps their interest level at its peak. Going several days or more without contact in this modern fast paced dating scene can be IL suicide. Girls interested in me nearly always initiate texts daily. I don't go overboard, keep it light and fun, and it works.

Your situation?? The plans are made, no reason to contact her again. Radio silence. If she has any desire left to see you, she'll reach out to confirm the plans. There are 101 reasons why she went ghost, it's not worth stressing over, women's interest levels rise and fall like the wind, no matter what you do. I quit giving a sh*t because otherwise you'll drive yourself nuts. If you don't hear from her.. next!

 

[BrainDamage92]

Hahahah "pull a hail merry" I love this community

Idk man... Idk... All I know is you should always complement a beutiful girl on her brains... and ye... dont be too available...

Basically she was with someone else. No other reason to not pick up for a woman couse they shower with attention. And let her call you, dont do it. I hate it when people dont pick up their phone both male and female and let them do the next move always.

I have pals like that - doesnt pick up his phone on the regular - the ball is in your court now.

I do it sometimes too, very very rarely, although not proud of it, it happens simply when Im annoyed of the prospect of talking on the phone and going out lol and I want to procrastinate in peace or someone wants me to buy him drugs and Im not up to it.

But I think she was with someone else. Its a woman after all. But maybe she was just like "Oh hes so hooked he will want to see me today and I hate refusing". Its possible, everything is possible with humans.

Life is abit ****ed up aint it. But in the end, she just another brick in the wall like everyone else... No big deal if you blew it.

 

[stevo]

Call her the next day (I don't believe in that three date rule bull****) we chat a while but I cut her off after about 20 minutes,

Too long

we agree to a date that weekend.

That should have been EOD

She texts me the next morning (so obviously she didn't think I was needy with that phone call)....and I respond but I don't initiate conversation.

As you should but sparingly

I call her the very next night and she ignores...

Why are you calling? dont you have anything better to do?

hasn't responded to me since. Gonna give it a few days,

Till you do what? call/text her again? remember don't double text?

Going ghost till the weekend , if she doesn't respond Im gonna pull a hail marry get all creepy and tell her how much I really like her. in my experience this is the ONLY scenario where acting a bit creepy/beta/AFC can work.

Oh no you didnt! see anything wrong with this?

She went out of her way to tell me she's the relationship type so I think this was my fault. Careful on the don juan overdose fellas

Words dont mean sheet. The response to your case is not overdose, its DJ 101. Re-evaluate your mindset. Your game meter is off.

If the date is already set why are you talking so much in between?

Pretty girls require the most space in between contact.

If she texts you, respond. Why are you calling her so much?

Give her space. Don't initiate anything. Don't confirm date. Show up for date. If she's not there, delete.

You blew this one man. You dont have to believe/accept it but you did.

 

[SmoothStroke0331]

No bro.

this was after the first date
her "It was so great finally meeting you"
me " you too. I had a great time with you"
her "likewise "

called her the next day and we talk for about 20 minutes. she texts me the following morning

her "hope you have a great day"
me " thanks you too"
her " LOL totally didn't expect you to be up"

I didn't respond to that text, Called her two days later and she doesn't pick up. Now she's officially gone ghost lol

It seems as if you are seeking approval to do what you have already stated rather than take some insight from the others on this forum. Obviously you need to keep this chick on the line and keep that line too tight its gonna snap.