Girl was VERY into me, bu we never hung out and now losing interest fast. What to do?

[kindasuave]

I met a girl in one of my classes, hung out with her a lot with her (but only getting lunch and stuff). BUT every time we hung out for at least an hour so it was like a ****ing date every time.

She was REALLY into me, but stuff came up every weekend so we never hung out. This was really bad timing and I see her in my class every week but i can tell that she is losing interest

Problem is that I have tons of work this week and I can't hang out with her at all (and her parents are coming up for the weekend so i doubt I can see her this weekend either). I'm not happy about it because I want to already escalate this (i've never hung out with a girl so much without getting with her. And NO it is for sure not friendzone).

What do i do? I feel like if I didn't have to see her in class twice a week then everything would be fine, but it just makes it more awkward bc I really can't escalate situation sexually any further in class. I feel like if everything goes on at this rate then she is gonna lose all interest.

I'm thinking of asking her to 'watch a movie' on thursday. Could that be the move?

 

[betheman]

if you have time to watch a movie you have time to make a move on her, get a dvd, bottle of booze and go for it

 

[In2theGame]

If you want this girl, your going to have to start pulling bold moves. Meaning start asking her on a date or to hang out with her because her IL will drop. You have to strike while the iron is Hot.

 

[kindasuave]

Yeah i like her so i need to set up a date

I guess i was thinking that lunch was so good that I didn't need to do much else

But i'll ask her to dinner on Thursday and then after ask her to watch a movie or something... I should've thought of it earlier, of course dinner tells her that i'm interested while lunch is lunch no matter how well we connect..

Thanks guys.
One more question though: I should ask her in class in person to get dinner right? We have class on thu morning. OR should I ask her my phone/text tomorrow to get dinner on thursday? What do you think?

 

[betheman]

f ccuk lunch/ dinner..."hey Im grabbing a Dvd and a bottle of wine on (X) you should come over" thats it, in person at school wherever

 

[Iceberg]

Yeah i like her so i need to set up a date

I guess i was thinking that lunch was so good that I didn't need to do much else

But i'll ask her to dinner on Thursday and then after ask her to watch a movie or something... I should've thought of it earlier, of course dinner tells her that i'm interested while lunch is lunch no matter how well we connect..

I don't want to sound picky....because regardless of what you do, you NEED TO make a move....but dinner is always a weak date. You're in college...and college chicks don't want dinner dates...they want drinks and entertainment.

I mean, I'm 31 and I don't invite girls to dinner unless I've been dating them for a while. Drinks will always do the trick.

Thanks guys.
One more question though: I should ask her in class in person to get dinner right? We have class on thu morning. OR should I ask her my phone/text tomorrow to get dinner on thursday? What do you think?

Do it however you two normally communicate. The bigger of an issue you make it, the more nervous you sound.

Stop thinking of it as a date, and just ask her to chill with you and get some drinks.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

She was REALLY into me, but stuff came up every weekend so we never hung out. This was really bad timing and I see her in my class every week but i can tell that she is losing interest

If I had a nickel for every time I've read a post like this, I could be a rich self made entrepreneur.

Look I'm going to cut it straight to you, its great that you have good rapport with her and you guys are spending all this time together, but the simple fact is IF a girl is not willing to see you outside of school, she's not THAT into you.

Yes I understand that your both busy, but NO ONE is THAT BUSY that they can't find a couple hours during the week or on the weekend to hang out.

How many times have you asked her to hang out so far?

And NO it is for sure not friendzone

I'm not saying it is, but it also doesn't look like a sure thing that its mutual ROMANTIC interest either. From what you have told us, it sounds like you two are friends ATM.

bc I really can't escalate situation sexually any further in class. I feel like if everything goes on at this rate then she is gonna lose all interest.

First off, find more girls aside from this one to focus all your time and energy on.

Secondly, is there a rule that says you cannot escalate in class? You need to be confident and go after what you want. That is part of having a strong frame and inner game make-up.

I'm thinking of asking her to 'watch a movie' on thursday. Could that be the move?

If you haven't escalated sexually at all yet, she will not come over and watch a movie with you. If she DOES accept, then she will def resist when you try and make a move because it will be like going from step 1 to step 10. Unless you know she is highly sexually attracted to you already, this plan won't work.

Also practice good habits. If you want to hang out with her on Thursday, call her or talk to her Tuesday or Wednesday at the latest. Don't try and set up plans Thursday morning for later that night with a new girl you haven't phucked yet. Most women have plans closer to the weekend and most college kids don't have class Friday so they are raging on Thursday nights.

I see so many newbies saying they asked a girl out on a day for later that night and the girl says she can't and then they think she's not interested. Not the case..... give her 24-48 hours notice. Furthermore, you should offer a couple options when you do ask her out so she is more likely to say yes.

"Hey (girl's name), I got the new box set for Entourage, you should come over and watch it with me. I'm free Wed and Thurs night, which night works for you?

If you only offer one night and she's busy that night, then you will look like your chasing her if you wait a couple days and ask her out again.

Lastly, if she can't make it on the days you offered and does not offer another day, then she's not as interested as you thought.







PIMP

 

[kindasuave]

Here's how I know that she is into me

She wanted me to come over late last friday night (my roomate's not home blah blah) but I was busy.
I think that now she's mad at me that she offered to hang out and I wouldn't

And it's not like I don't instigate anything. I hint at (and from time to time even outright say things like i'm coming over when your roomate isn't home) and she says sure
And I really think that I could have escalated physically (like making out during the day and she would have reciprocated), but I was worried about her being creeped out later

So I guess my question is how to instigate this once again. I KNOW that if I see her at night that something will hapen so the only thing to do now is to plan out the best way to do this

 

[Pimp-sicle]

So I guess my question is how to instigate this once again. I KNOW that if I see her at night that something will hapen so the only thing to do now is to plan out the best way to do this

Okay, you didn't mention that she had invited you over when her roommate was gone. Def a sign of major interest! haha

Also she won't be creeped out if the guy she likes goes in for the kiss. Day time, night time.... any time is the right time to kiss a girl if she's into you.

Do what I said in my previous post. Hit her up or talk to her in person and ask her to come over to your place for the next day or day after. She will likely accept and then bam, you escalate and do your thing.

You sound a little too eager and even though she is still into you, def be aware of that because it can make interest go down rapidly as time goes on.

If you give her options (I'm free this day and that day, which works for you?"); then she is more likely to accept if she is interested.

Bottom line, you gotta grab the bull by the horns at take control if you want something to happen.








PIMP

 

[kindasuave]

If you give her options (I'm free this day and that day, which works for you?"); then she is more likely to accept if she is interested.

Bottom line, you gotta grab the bull by the horns at take control if you want something to happen.



PIMP

Perfect exactly, tomorrow i'll text her saying let's hang out today or tomorrow night, blah blah and it should work.

I AM eager which is tough to control, you're def right about that. I just don't want her to lose all interest if I play it cool for a few days.. Yeah this probably won't happen, but i get paranoid about it anyway haha

 

[betheman]

Perfect exactly, tomorrow i'll text her saying let's hang out today or tomorrow night, blah blah and it should work.

I AM eager which is tough to control, you're def right about that. I just don't want her to lose all interest if I play it cool for a few days.. Yeah this probably won't happen, but i get paranoid about it anyway haha

pick the damn phone up and ring her, tell her